My Big Fat Gay Weddg | 221 Belmont Ave, Youngstown, OH | March 18 to March 26

Contents:

• BILL WHE AND BRYAN EURE’S BIG, FAT GAY WEDDG
• NAPA’S ‘BIG FAT GAY WEDDG(S)’
• NAPA’S ‘BIG FAT GAY WEDDG(S)’
• MY BIG FAT GAY WEDDG
• ‘MY BIG GAY ITALIAN WEDDG’ RETURNS: HERE’S HOW TO SEE THE SHOW
• MY BIG GAY ITALIAN WEDDG
• HOW FEELS TO... THROW A “BIG FAT GAY WEDDG”

BILL WHE AND BRYAN EURE’S BIG, FAT GAY WEDDG

If there’s any doubt where Barbara Walters stands on the issue of gay marriage, she put to rt on Sunday eveng at the well-publicized weddg ceremony of Bill Whe and Bryan Eure at The Four Seasons rtrant.

“Y I do, ” she said, when asked if she thought gay marriage should be legal all 50 stat.

NAPA’S ‘BIG FAT GAY WEDDG(S)’

“I thk this is perhaps the most important remag civil rights battle this untry has to face, ” Boi observed of the ongog polil and cultural stggle over gay marriage. Also on hand for the packed party were Karola Kurkova, Brian Atwood, Cy Council speaker Christe Qun — who said she first met Whe when he had a noise plat about the r bar unr his apartment — Joel Gray, Jack Rud, Jon and Lizzie Tisch, Gayle Kg, former New York ernor David Paterson and former New York Cy mayor David Dks.

What we have disvered through people here Napa is this rather disturbg piece of rmatn: Tim Bch's Merage Rort and Spa (where this Catholic nference happens each year) also hosts homosexual weddgs. Any of the other 51 weeks a year, after fahful Catholics have all gone back home, the rort be very un-Catholic and plays host to gay weddgs and receptns.

NAPA’S ‘BIG FAT GAY WEDDG(S)’

The rort be very un-Catholic and plays host to gay weddgs and receptns. I told her I was marryg my gay partner, and another gay iend had remend the Merage. However, I put her on speakerphone (wh our crew of Adrian and Jake listeng) and asked her pot blank, aga, posg as a gay man wantg a weddg at the Merage next year, if there was anyone special I need to speak wh about a gay weddg.

But once this nference is over and all those Catholics "formed" to fight the evil the culture hop on their plan and go home, Merage self rorts to operatg wh the evil — hostg gay weddgs. Where you do fd is on the webs of gay weddg planners here Northern California, who post all the photos and rmatn themselv, hypg up the bety and elegance of this very splendid settg. You jt have to dig around those bs' web pag, like the gay weddg photography pany Lily Rose, which proudly displays the announcement of s work: "gay weddgs at the Merage Rort and Spa.

Of urse, only a handful of weddg planng pani do exclively homosexual weddgs, but that's not the pot.

MY BIG FAT GAY WEDDG

Apparently, part of what Bch lls "support of the lol muny" clus hostg gay weddgs. How n this rort, owned by the Bch fay through their PHG rporatn, which sponsors 800 fahful Catholics once a year — wh Mass virtually every hour and Eucharistic procsns throughout the grounds — turn around and host gay weddgs after the fahful Catholics have gone home?

‘MY BIG GAY ITALIAN WEDDG’ RETURNS: HERE’S HOW TO SEE THE SHOW

It's not, Do you host gay weddgs here? What’s the difference between homosexuals and heterosexuals? In matters outsi the bedroom, Amerin culture and law are at last acknowledgg that there is Anzuoni / RtersWhat if gays were straight?

The qutn is absurd—gays are fed as not straight, right? Here is how California’s Supreme Court put a key passage s now-famo May 15 lg that gay upl California mt be granted the right to marry, wh no qualifitns or phemisms:The re substantive rights clu, most fundamentally, the opportuny of an dividual to tablish—wh the person wh whom the dividual has chosen to share his or her life—an officially regnized and protected fay posssg mutual rights and rponsibili and entled to the same rpect and digny acrd a unn tradnally signated as ’s notable here is the startg pot of the discsn: an “dividual.

He or she exists as a person before he or she exists as straight or gay.

MY BIG GAY ITALIAN WEDDG

And so the distctn between gay and straight is sentially abolished. The lg, and the language , reprents the removal of the premise of the last generatn favor of a premise accepted as a given by the premise ed to be that homosexualy was an activy, that gays were people who chose to behave badly; or, if they weren’t choosg to behave badly, were nohels sufferg om a form of sickns or, the words of the Vatin, an “objective disorr.

” And so the qutn of whether to perm the acts and activi of such disorred dividuals was a legimate area of legislatn and when gays are seen as the same as straights—as dividuals; as normal, well-adjted, human dividuals—the argument chang altogether. It emerged as younger generatns me out earlier and earlier, and as their peers me to see gay people as fellows and siblgs, rather than as nizens of some distant and alien subculture. It happened as lbian upl beme parents and as gay soldiers challenged the discrimatn agast them.

HOW FEELS TO... THROW A “BIG FAT GAY WEDDG”

And this is how many gay people of the next generatn see . Born to straight fai and reared to see homosexualy as a form of difference, not disabily, they naturally wonr why they would be exclud om the tegral stutn of their own fai’ liv and history. And the next generatn see themselv as people first and gay a different era, I reached that ncln through more pa and fear and self-loathg than my 20-somethg fellow homosexuals do today.

And that group, I sudnly realized, was the heterosexuals who knew what to do, who guid the gay uple and our iends to the ruals and r of fay. The strange, bewilrg emotns of the moment, the ke and receptn, the distracted children and weepg mothers, the morng’s butterfli and the night’s dnkenns: this was not a gay marriage; was a our fai stantly and for the first time sce our early childhood beme not jt stutns which we were clud, but stutns that we too owned and perpetuated. Angelo, the il played by Joey Fatone, out as gay to his fay and troduc them to his partner.