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Contents:
- DETRANSNER BTERLY REGRETS HAVG TTICL REMOVED AFTER STGGLG WH BEG GAY
- SELF-LOATHG AMONG GAY PEOPLE IS NOTHG NEW. WE’RE OVERWHELMED BY
- HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS
DETRANSNER BTERLY REGRETS HAVG TTICL REMOVED AFTER STGGLG WH BEG GAY
So much foc has been on wng rights that we’ve missed the sufferg of those still stgglg wh gay shame, wr Matthew Todd, a former edor of Attu magaze * struggling with being gay *
Speakg to Fox News, he has tailed how spe his thoughts of beg trans he now realiz he was an 'effemate' gay boy who enjoyed playg wh Barbi, but who felt unfortable wh his sexualy.
If Ethan Stabl, the 20-year-old man nvicted on Monday of planng to kill atten of a lol gay pri event Cumbria, was really bisexual as he claimed urt, why would he want to hurt other LGBT people? Sadly he wouldn’t be the gay people know the most homophobic school bully often pops up the lol gay bar a few years later, but there are wir exampl: Hollywood agents who bar clients om g out, historil figur such as Senator McCarthy’s anti-gay lawyer Roy Cohn, who mataed till the end that the Aids-related illns that killed him was liver ncer, the untls homophobic policians ught wh male rts.
Omar Mateen, who mted Ameri’s most adly homophobic attack at the Pulse nightclub Orlando, Florida 2016, pledged his allegiance to Isis but was also alleged to have ma sexual advanc towards men. We all grow up hearg homo- and transphobia, and, as I say my book Straight Jacket, LGBT kids aren’t given magil earplugs.
SELF-LOATHG AMONG GAY PEOPLE IS NOTHG NEW. WE’RE OVERWHELMED BY
* struggling with being gay *
This should be ont-page people are not the only on to suffer such shame, but experts, both gay and straight, agree that gay kids are overwhelmed wh . Many bury their feelgs, hopg they’ll go away, some psychologilly “spl”, like the heterosexually married men who believe anonymo ter hook-ups don’t unt as gay if they happen secret. Jt this week I met a young man who told me he hated gay pri, hated effemate men but ccially was tryg to work through the feelgs by talkg about them.
The gay muny don’t talk about this enough, and when we do ’s often wh judgment. Perhaps like former notor 1980s neo-Nazi street fighter Nicky Crane, who also eventually me out as gay.
Talkg about gay shame and self-loathg is not easy. It fli the face of the msage of gay pri that has domated the gay rights movement of the last 50 years.
HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS
Jt last month, the 38-year-old prenter of the Disvery Channel’s Storm Chaser programme, Joel Taylor, died om a GHB overdose on an Atlantis gay cise. I was 11 when I realised I was gay and I uld not pe. But seems perhaps the gay rights movement has been ught nappg, too.
So much foc has been on changg laws and enuragg footballers to e out or on promotg sexual eedom – all important thgs – that we’ve missed the huge ground-level sufferg of those stgglg wh the legacy of society’s gay shame, right unr our may not f the narrative we wish to promote but there are huge numbers of people gettg themselv to ser suatns whout enough support.