You’re not breakg barriers by beg gay a aterny

“And I fet what he said exactly, but he said ‘I jt wanted to say I hope you sh the hoe, bee you ma me qutn what I always thought (about gay people). “So what I was thkg, ” Ohlger said, “what really me down to was, if I uld change the opn of how 60 straight at guys viewed one gay person, or the whole gay muny, while I hung out wh my bt iends and had a really good time, why wouldn’t I do ?

His ial ncern that aterny life and beg gay don’t mix ronat throughout the LGBT muny. Numero other gay men who are aterni are eher not out to their entire hoe or only out to a select few.

Their reasons for wantg to rema anonymo are all the same — that most or all of their brothers don’t know they are gay. Steve pots to what he lls the “du culture” as the reason many gay men are not fortable g out their aterni. Steve said that this “du culture” often tim lends to the perceptn that the Greek system on mp is homophobic.

MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN

He said, however, that om his experience, when you view on an dividual level, most of the aterny members the IFC aren’t unacceptg of gay people. “Whenever someone starts jerkg around and sayg (homophobic) thgs, but not necsarily meant to be rogatory, that kd of feeds to those perceptns. “But you know you need to put up some sort of faça, ’s part of somethg that you learn growg up that most people, most gay guys do and I’ve talked to other gay guys who are the same way.

THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY

Greg, a junr an IFC aterny, hasn’t yet e out to anyone his aterny except for one other brother who is also gay.

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One major factor that ntribut to the perpetuatn of the Greek stereotype on mp is the lack of visibily of gay stunts aterni. Bee many gay stunts feel unfortable g out to their brothers and, turn, don’t e out, people both si and outsi the Greek muny are unaware gay members exist wh the system. Javier, who me out to his aterny brothers as an unrgraduate at Rockhurst Universy Kansas Cy, Mo., spoke about the stereotyp and perceptns that surround the Greek muny and the psychology behd why many gay stunts feel unfortable g out.

“There’s been gay marriage proposals a variety of stat sce that survey, so I thk maybe that fluenc peopl’ perceptns of how they teract wh the LGBT muny, but I don’t know how much or if has at all, ” Parrz said. “One of the reasons straight-intified men don’t intify as alli is bee they don’t want to be mistaken, quote unquote mistaken, as gay, ” Javier said.

BEG GAY AND IN A FRATERNY

“They don’t want to be perceived as gay, so that’s a road block to someone who actually do re about LGBT people. But they meet you and they see you’re ol, like all of a sudn beg gay isn’t some weird thg, some strange alien, not some crazy thg they’ve jt hear about, ” Ohlger said.

As a first-generatn, gay stunt om the ral North, I unrstand the appeal of jog a aterny.

Fally beg accepted by a group of mascule straight men would be a dream e te to a young gay kid who never f .

GAY MEN BLACK FRATERNI

Gay people throughout time have had to make their own fai, and I unrstand the appeal of wantg a group of iends you n ll your “brothers.

I realized that I was tryg to reach a sense of hyper-masculy or aggrsively male behavr that I felt I lacked for beg gay. But, is that sense of validatn worth ntributg to a system wh a history of vlent racism, homophobia and misogyny?

The other day I watched a TikTok where an openly gay whe aterny brother joked about how he has to make sure that girls know that they are “safe” around him bee he is not straight. In a sense, he knows that aterni are famo for beg a dangero place for women, but for some reason beg gay absolv him om that part of the aterny? Gay people are no strangers to vlence, pecially sexual vlence, so why would you as a gay person ntribute to a culture that perpetuat ?

GAY HISTORY OF MEN’S FRATERNI

A lot of people like to argue that by beg gay a aterny, a person n help dismantle the stutnal homophobia of Greek life.

You’re not breakg barriers by beg gay a aterny

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GAY AND GREEK: THE EXPERIENCE OF BEG GAY AND A ATERNY