Straight Women and Their Gay Hbands | Psychology Today

Contents:

• WHY ARE THERE GAY WOMEN?
• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

WHY ARE THERE GAY WOMEN?

Straight women are much more likely to get themselv knocked up than gay women.

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

So, terms of evolutn, they would seem to have a better chance of passg on their gen, while at the same time would seem that the gen that make women gay would quickly vanish om the gene pool. This rais the qutn, why are there gay women? While scientists have a theory for how male homosexualy propagat om one generatn to the next, no one has yet produced a viable explanatn for how the gen that promote lbianism might do the same.

[Why Are There Gay Men?

A study by Dutch psychologists published the March issue of the Journal of Sexual Medice reported that 10 to 12 percent of male and female children who feel disfort wh their genr go on to intify as gay or lbian as adults. Meanwhile, jt 1 or 2 percent of children who are fortable wh their genr inty turn out to be gay or to the nfn about what lbianism is the slippers of female sexualy self. Therefore, the qutn "why are there gay women?

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

" Plenty of women exist at both extrem of the straight-gay spectm, but is the formatn of this slippery spectm self that most needs explag. So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label. Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex.

Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia.

For example, gay men the Mormon fah are moral nflict. Durg the’90s, I beme a “gay-affirmative therapist. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

Beg a gay man, I was tryg to brg them to where I was at.

Durg this time, a man don’t see himself as gay, only homosexual. The term gay is too affirmative, and they are not ready to accept . I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology.

Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man. They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight. Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg.