Heterosexual and gay men n heal and grow as a rult of their iendships.
Contents:
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
- CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
- GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?" * straight man gay man *
The guys are different om men who intify as bisexual, gay, mostly gay, and mostly straight. Of urse, some intify as straight but are realy closeted bisexuals or gays by sexual orientatn—perhaps likely to e out at a later age (if ever).
In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi? Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay.
He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men.
IS FLIRTG BETWEEN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN OKAY?
New rearch explor the benefs of iendship between gay and straight men. * straight man gay man *
A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me? And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.
That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay.
CAN GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN REALLY BE FRIENDS?
Could gay guys be the ultimate wg men for their straight, male iends? * straight man gay man *
” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way.
Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist.
A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.
GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
The issu that once kept straight men and gay men apart are dissolvg, real life and popular culture. * straight man gay man *
A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way.
He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist. Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out.
So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.