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Contents:
- THE DOS & DON'TS OF GAY CLUBBG
- TOM HOLLAND’S GAY SEX SCENE SETS SOCIAL MEDIA ALIGHT AFTER THE ACTOR SAID PLAYG THE ROLE ‘BROKE HIM’
THE DOS & DON'TS OF GAY CLUBBG
* gay back room *
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Gay men go back there to get groped. Fearg a police raid (somethg we gay men are rather faiar wh), the owners of my home base recently stalled pafully bright lights, took down the curtas, and turned our backroom to a well-l smokg lounge. Y, changg social mor, gentrifitn, and hookup apps are partially rponsible for the ath of the gay bar, but ankly, gay men don't want the spac where we feel most at home flood wh straight people there to gawk at .
You don't pe to the neart gay bar after years livg the closet so that you may experience muny, belongg, and sex for the first time -- we unfortunately tled mentary "Dear Gay Men, Stop Tellg Women They Can't Be Gay Bars" last month was flammatory bee suggts that straight people -- particularly straight, cisgenr women -- don't need permissn om gay men to be gay bars, or permissn om queer people to be queer bars, or prumably permissn om trans folk of lor to be venu that ter to trans and genrqueer folks of is like sayg a whe person don't need permissn to be a Lat bar -- or, for that matter, don't need to rpect the fact that they are Spanish-speakg environment and nnot expect to be served article suggts that the sole reason women might not be wele some venu is bee of misogyny -- excludg their behavr and hetero privilege om the problem.
TOM HOLLAND’S GAY SEX SCENE SETS SOCIAL MEDIA ALIGHT AFTER THE ACTOR SAID PLAYG THE ROLE ‘BROKE HIM’
It's no secret that misogyny is a big problem the gay male muny, but if we're gog to look at large problems, let's look at straight male vlence agast women -- an issue that isn't fixed by encroachg on the terrory of space belongg to someone fact is, everyone needs permissn to be bars that don't ter to them. That's why we create gay bars and gayborhoods and gay hotspots. It's the only time life we feel like we're not some threatened, visible thor mak a val pot that queer and trans women serve space jt as much as gay men.
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Don't go there to get your picture taken wh "the gays.