Contents:
- THE LBIAN WRER AND HER FLAMBOYANT GAY HBAND
- CALL ME BY MY PRONOUNS: WHY GAY MEN CALL EACH OTHER "GIRL"
- THE FEMALE SPOE: A PROCS OF SEPARATN WHEN A HBAND ' OUT' AS GAY
THE LBIAN WRER AND HER FLAMBOYANT GAY HBAND
Sexual orientatn refers to the endurg physil, romantic and/or emotnal attractn to members of the same and/or other genrs, cludg lbian, gay, bisexual and straight orientatns. As GLAAD not, "Transgenr people may be straight, lbian, gay, bisexual or queer. A person who transns om female to male and is attracted solely to men would typilly intify as a gay man.
CALL ME BY MY PRONOUNS: WHY GAY MEN CALL EACH OTHER "GIRL"
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THE FEMALE SPOE: A PROCS OF SEPARATN WHEN A HBAND ' OUT' AS GAY
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The e of she/her pronouns by cisgenr gay men, along wh words such as "girl" or "honey, " is a long-standg and creasgly visible practice.