How Do I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay | HealthyPlace

Contents:

• "THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”
• I'M GAY
• THAT'S SO GAY
• GAY
• AM I GAY?
• GAY= HAPPY (ED THE DAY?)
• WHAT’S SO BAD ABOUT “THAT’S SO GAY”?
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• THE 'GAY' WORD: WHAT DO MEAN WHEN YOUNG PEOPLE E NEGATIVELY?
• WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY
• GAY
• GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)

"THAT'S SO GAY" IS JT SO WRONG

The phrase “that’s so gay” has tradnally been unrstood as homophobic.

Stonewall argu that the phrase has a harmful effect on young lbian, gay and bisexual people’s tn and well-beg. Yet the ial fdgs om my terviews wh 40 gay youth om four universi suggts a more plex picture, wh no clear agreement on what the phrase means or s effects.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

Consir Joe, a 19-year-old gay stunt at an ele universy. He said: “I thk breaks down barriers between the straight and gay muny… I e a lot.

” Siarly, Neil, gay and aged 18, said: “I don’t fd rogatory any way, probably bee I say as well. How are we to unrstand a phrase that olr people fd homophobic, but many younger people do not fd offensive and even e themselv?

My tert the phrase “that’s so gay” veloped when I rearched straight male stunts at sixth form lleg. The young men had openly gay iends, supported gay rights and nmned homophobia.

THE TE MEANG BEHD “THAT’S SO GAY”

Yet several of them would also say “that’s so gay” when trated.

Given that labellg the stunts homophobic would be ridiculo, was val to nsir how they were g this language and the reasons why. All of the men my rearch sisted that they did not tend to be homophobic when they ed the phrase. For them, gay had two distct meangs which they were able to distguish between – when refers to sexual inty and when refers, separately, to somethg beg “bbish”.

I'M GAY

Language has evolved and “gay” means somethg different to younger generatns particular ntexts. I argued that straight men’s e of phras like “that’s so gay” uld only be unrstood by three key factors: first, the tent wh which was said; send, the social ntext (homophobic or otherwise); and third, the effect had.

“That’s so gay” n be homophobic if is said wh negative tent or wh a homophobic environment. But when is said settgs where sexual mori are out, proud and socially clud, and heterosexual men are iends wh their openly gay peers, tak on different meangs.

This argument was supported by the narrativ of many of the 40 young gay people a study I am unrtakg wh lleagu at Durham Universy.

THAT'S SO GAY

In the bat about “that’s so gay”, is important to regnise that gay youths also e the phrase. Only a mory of participants – ls than a third – thought that the phrase was homophobic, and even fewer said that they never ed . Most of the young gay people my study felt “that’s so gay” would only be homophobic if was directed at a gay person, and wh negative tent.

So there is no easy answer to whether “that’s so gay” is homophobic. Homophobic hate crim are classified as such if the victim believ to be so. If young gay people are sayg that they do not experience the phrase “that’s so gay” as homophobic – and if they are even g the phrase themselv – then perhaps we should accept their arguments and ncentrate on other battl.

It is val that we bat homophobia schools, and promote equaly of sexualy.

GAY

But focg on the phrase “that’s so gay” is not the way to achieve that goal. Spend any time around teens, and you’re likely to hear the mon exprsn, “That’s so gay" — even among gay kids.

If you ask them about , as some rearchers have, they often will sist that is not tend as homophobic language, jt a harmls phrase to exprs tratn or somethg siar. Studi reveal that 30 percent of gay adolcents stggle wh suicidal thoughts.

“That’s so gay” is always pejorative, always harmful, and always homophobic.

AM I GAY?

Thk about this: For thoands of years, religns have lled homosexualy an abomatn. People still get murred if someone thks they are gay, and not jt other untri.

GAY= HAPPY (ED THE DAY?)

When most people hear the term LGBT (lbian, gay, bisexual or transsexual), for stance, they equate to havg adult sex. Another client’s mother once ught him lookg at gay porn, and said, horrified, “You’re not gay, are you? ” Later when the parents learned their children were gay, they apologized to them for sayg the thgs, but the damage was already done.

Hearg kids sayg, “that’s so gay” every day mak the people and everythg else around them qutnable: Are thgs safe or dangero? What, then, n be done about makg kids (and the rt of ) more aware of the harm g such phras as “That’s so gay?

WHAT’S SO BAD ABOUT “THAT’S SO GAY”?

But parents who are enough aware of language’s substrata n help by helpg their kids’ schools unrstand the value of practicg the same kd of zero tolerance for homophobic language that they do for racist or anti-Semic or bullyg language.

The bt thg I have seen is the mpaign “ThkB4YouSpeak” by GLSEN (Gay, Lbian School Edutor Network). Anti-LGBT remarks such as “that’s so gay” are often untentnal and a mon part of teens’ vernacular. Gay dividuals are romantilly or sexually attracted to people who are the same genr as them.

If you’re more aroed by people who are the same genr as you, you might be gay. Keep md that experienc of sexual aroal are extremely nuanced, and aren’t ncrete proof that you’re gay. For stance, you n be aroed by gay adult media whout necsarily beg gay yourself.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

If you tend to velop csh on people who are the same genr as you, uld be a sign that you’re gay. You n be gay even if you’ve had straight relatnships the past.

THE 'GAY' WORD: WHAT DO MEAN WHEN YOUNG PEOPLE E NEGATIVELY?

If you felt unfortable wh physil ntact wh each girl, you may be gay. If you often fantasize about relatnships volvg specific genrs, you may be queer or gay. You may be gay, but you uld also be pansexual or bisexual if you sometim thk about the other genr.

Don’t assume you’re gay based on how you walk, talk, or drs. You’ve probably heard stereotyp about what mak someone gay, but none of the are te. Siarly, walkg or dancg a certa way don’t make you gay, eher.

WHAT DO IT MEAN TO BE GAY? DEFN AND MEANG OF GAY

For stance, havg a high-pched voice as a guy don’t make you gay. If you enjoy flirtg wh the same genr, you might be gay or queer. Keep md that even if you have a sexual experience wh someone of the same genr or another genr, that don’t necsarily mean that you’re gay.

GAY

Thgs would be so simple if you uld jt label yourself as gay and be done wh , but may not be that easy. If you’re not ready to tell everyone that you’re gay, that’s okay! I thk I’ve begun to realize that I’m attracted to men and I might be gay.

GAY (HOMOSEXUAL) AND GAY (HAPPY)

While “gay” is a totally valid label to intify wh, isn’t the only LGBTQ+ label out there.

That means, for example, that you n be transgenr but also straight (for stance, you might intify as a woman and feel attracted to men) or gay (e.

Beg gay is part of who you are, and there’s nothg wrong wh . You don’t need to be sexually active to be gay.