A gay man, RegBarc, recently shared wh the world the shockg letter his father sent him when he "me out." Here's the letter he should have sent.
Contents:
- AN OPEN LETTER TO MY GAY FRIEND
- AN OPEN LETTER TO MY GAY BT FRIEND
- WHAT LETTER WOULD YOU WRE TO A GAY SON?
- 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
- LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT
- HOW SHOULD CHRISTIANS RPOND TO GAY FRIENDS OR FAY MEMBERS?
- A LETTER TO MY GAY BT IEND
AN OPEN LETTER TO MY GAY FRIEND
* a letter to my gay friend *
Lately I’ve seen a lot of harsh words thrown at Christians as a whole on the subject of homosexualy and bothers me. The thg is that bee I do hold a belief that homosexualy is not part of God’s plan for humany I am somehow a hate-monger.
AN OPEN LETTER TO MY GAY BT FRIEND
If you're readg this, there's a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay. No doubt you're also feelg pretty nfed and wonrg how to al wh the suatn. It's a very sensive suatn to al wh, and you need to make sure you rpect his feelgs. But at the same time, you n't * a letter to my gay friend *
I’m a “homophobe.
I’m a “anti-gay” dividual. All the people who are standg firm their view of homosexualy as a s, wearg a tle of a Christian, but speakg wh judgement and accatn, and zero love, are g the rt of to slk to the shadows. When we ci to stand firm what we believe to be right and wrong as wrten the Bible we are anti-gay spigots of hate.
” When down to there may not be a way for me to prove to you that while I’m “anti-gay” that I’m not anti-you. Margaret’s love letters to Ruth, posthumoly gathered To Cherish the Life of the World: Selected Letters of Margaret Mead (public library) — which also gave Mead’s prcient posn on homosexualy — are a thg of absolute, soul-stirrg bety, on par wh such famed epistolary romanc as those between Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera, Geia O’Keeffe and Aled Stieglz, Henry Miller and Anaïs N, and Jean-Pl Sartre and Simone Bevoir.
WHAT LETTER WOULD YOU WRE TO A GAY SON?
From the wonrful 1998 anthology My Dear Boy: Gay Love Letters Through the Centuri (public library) — a diverse llectn of missiv verg the universali of romantic love, om longg and fatuatn to jealoy and rejectn to tenrns and loyalty — the rrponnce of Beat Generatn godfather Allen Gsberg and the poet Peter Orlovsky.
Burroughs, another in of lerature’s gay subculture:. Among morny’s most tragic victims of our shameful past is Osr Wil, who was imprisoned multiple tim for his “crime” of homosexualy, driven to bankptcy and exile, and fally succumbed to an untimely ath.
If you’re readg this, there’s a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay.
17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
So how n you tell if your boyiend is gay? If you see any of the signs below, your boyiend may be gay.
He watch gay pornIf your boyiend watch a lot of gay porn, there’s a good chance he’s sexually terted men.
LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT
He might not be fully gay, but he’s obvly cur enough to check out on a regular basis.
After all, most heterosexual guys have no tert watchg any porn unls there’s a woman your boyiend is tryg to hi his sexualy om you, ’s doubtful that he’ll openly watch gay porn while you’re around. The only way you’ll know is to look at his search history, which is a pretty big vasn of his do he react if you offer to watch gay porn wh him? He’s been wh men beforeIf he’s been relatnships or hooked up wh men the past, ’s a pretty big ditor that he’s gay or bisexual.
”If you hear this kd of ment a lot, he might be attemptg to normalize his homosexual thoughts by makg them seem like nothg more than a joke. He’s homophobicIt sounds untertuive, but some gay or bisexual men will exprs homophobic sentiments.
HOW SHOULD CHRISTIANS RPOND TO GAY FRIENDS OR FAY MEMBERS?
It’s a way of flectg spicn off of themselv and makg seem like they uld never be terted other to the way your boyiend talks about homosexualy. Do he e hostile or sultg words to scribe gay men? Do he make jok about beg gay that cross the le om good-natured teasg to offensive terrory?
If so, might be bee he’s secretly stgglg wh his own urse, there are plenty of heterosexual guys who e homophobic language as well. He’s not terted sleepg wh youThere are lots of reasons why your boyiend might not want to have sex that don’t volve him beg secretly gay. Do he always want to know who is gay and who is straight?
A LETTER TO MY GAY BT IEND
His fantasi volve menA of heterosexual men have sexual fantasi volvg other men, and don’t mean they are gay. He has a lot of gay iendsPeople tend to associate wh others who share siar terts and valu.