Sex and the Cy’s Carrie Bradshaw Should Have Treated Her “Gay Boyiend” Stanford So Much Better | Vogue

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• WILLIE GARSON, CARRIE'S GAY BTIE ON SEX AND THE CY, HAS DIED
• WILLIE GARSON, ACTOR BT KNOWN AS CARRIE’S GAY IEND SEX AND THE CY – OBUARY
• SEX AND THE CY STAR WILLIE GARSON DI AT 57HE PLAYED CARRIE’S BT IEND, STANFORD BLATCH, ALONG WH MEMORABLE ROL WHE COLLAR AND FARRELLY BROTHERS FILMS.BY ANTHONY BREZNINSEPTEMBER 21, 2021BY CRAIG BLANKENHORN/HBO/DARREN STAR PRODS./KOBAL/REX/SHUTTERSTOCK.SAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVEWH HIS BOOKISH LOOK, FSY MEANOR, AND VILISH SE, WILLIE GARSON WORKED FOR A PLAYG UNNAMED CHARACTERS LIKE “NW EXECUTIVE,” “CORPORATE GUY,” AND “ANNOYG GUY” BEFORE BREAKG THROUGH WH HIS REER FG ROLE: SEX AND THE CY’S NATTILY DRSED NFIDANTE AND BT IEND STANFORD BLATCH. ARMED WH A RAZOR W AND EQUALLY SHARP SKEPTICISM ABOUT THE DATG SCENE, “STANNY” OFTEN JOED SARAH JSI PARKER’S CARRIE BRADSHAW AND HER TR OF GIRLIENDS NAVIGATG THE MEN OF MANHATTAN. FROM 1998 TO 2004, AND OVER TWO FEATURE FILMS, GARSON, WHO DIED TUDAY AT AGE 57, PLAYED THE PART OF THE “GAY BT IEND” YEARS BEFORE MOST PEOPLE KNEW A REAL-LIFE IEND OR RELATIVE WHO WAS FORTABLE BEG OUT.GARSON’S FIRST APPEARANCE AS STANFORD, THE 1998 PILOT FOR SEX AND THE CY, ARRIVED JT A YEAR AFTER ELLEN DEGENER’S CHARACTER OM HER SELF-TLED ABC S ME OUT PUBLICLY, CREATG A CULTURAL STIR AT A TIME WHEN SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS WERE SELDOM SEEN MASTREAM ENTERTAMENT. GARSON’S STANFORD PHED THE DOOR OPEN FURTHER AS A GAY CHARACTER WHO TALKED ANKLY WH HIS STRAIGHT IENDS ABOUT SEX, DATG, REJECTN, SECURY, AND THE ETERNAL NUNDM OF THE MALE MD. AS THE WORLD CHANGED, SO DID HE. IN THE 2010 MOVIE SEQUEL SEX AND THE CY 2, STANFORD SETTLED DOWN AND MARRIED HIS LONGTIME RIVAL, ANTHONY, A CEREMONY OFFICIATED BY NO LS THAN LIZA MNELLI. THAT WAS FIVE YEARS BEFORE THE 2015 SUPREME COURT LG THAT LEGALIZED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ALL 50 STAT. GARSON, WHO REPORTEDLY HAD BEEN BATTLG NCER, WAS NOT GAY HIMSELF, BUT TOOK PRI PLAYG A CHARACTER WHO ULD MAKE DIENC LGH WH STANFORD RATHER THAN AT HIM. WHILE DIENC WERE BEG ENTERTAED, THE ACTOR ALSO HOPED THE LOVABLE CHARACTER WOULD MAKE VIEWERS MORE ACCEPTG AND TOLERANT. “IT WAS ALSO VERY IMPORTANT TO THE SHOW TO SHOW SOMEONE HAVG FUN BEG GAY, BEG PROUD, OPEN AND FORTABLE WH WHO THEY ARE,” HE TOLD THE HUFFGTON POST 2016. “YOU KNOW, WE’D JT E THROUGH THE [AIDS] CRISIS AND EVERY REPRENTATN OF GAY WAS KD OF DARK, AND SPOKEN HHED TON,” GARSON ADD. “BUT STANFORD WAS LIKE, ‘HEY, I’M GAY. REALLY GAY. SUPER GAY. AND I’M HAPPY ABOUT , I’M LOOKG FOR A BOYIEND, LOOKG FOR A HBAND,’ AND WAS VERY OPEN, AND DIFFERENT TO WHAT HAD BEEN SHOWN BEFORE.”GARSON’S ATH WAS NFIRMED ON SOCIAL MEDIA BY HIS SON, NATHEN GARSON: “YOU ALWAYS WERE THE TOUGHT AND FUNNIT AND SMARTT PERSON I’VE KNOWN. I’M GLAD YOU SHARED YOUR LOVE WH ME. I’LL NEVER FET OR LOSE . I LOVE YOU SO MUCH PAPA,” NATHEN WROTE ON INSTAGRAM.STANFORD WAS GARSON’S MOST FAMO ROLE, BUT THE ACTOR PLAYED SR OF OTHER CHARACTERS MOVI AND TV SHOWS OVER THE S, CLUDG A REGULAR ROLE AS THE N ARTIST, FIXER, AND RMATN GATHERER MOZZIE ON THE SERI WHE COLLAR. HE ALSO MA GUT APPEARANC ON CHEERS, THE X-FIL, QUANTUM LEAP, NYPD BLUE, AND SUPERGIRL. IN FILM, HE HAD SUPPORTG ROL GROUNDHOG DAY, SOAPDISH, AND MARS ATTACKS!, AND APPEARED THREE EDI DIRECTED BY THE FARRELLY BROTHERS—THERE’S SOMETHG ABOUT MARY, FEVER PCH, AND KGP.GARSON WAS OUTSPOKEN SEVERAL YEARS AGO WHEN FIGHTG BETWEEN THE OTHER ACTORS AND -STAR KIM CATTRALL LED TO THE LLAPSE OF PLANS FOR A THIRD SEX AND THE CY MOVIE, BUT FANS MAY GET TO SEE SANFORD ONE MORE TIME. IN A STATEMENT TO DEADLE MOURNG THE ACTOR, SERI CREATOR MICHAEL PATRICK KG SAID GARSON HAD BEEN WORKG ON THE NEW HBO FOLLOW-UP SERI AND JT LIKE THAT, EVEN WHILE BATTLG HIS ILLNS.INIALLY, GARSON HIMSELF WAS APPREHENSIVE ABOUT THE CHARACTER WHO WOULD MAKE HIM FAMO. WHILE ACKNOWLEDGG THAT STANFORD WAS MORE OF AN EMBRACE OF STEREOTYP THAN A REFUTATN OF THEM, THE ACTOR WAS WORRIED ABOUT HOW LGBTQ+ PEOPLE WOULD FEEL ABOUT THE PERFORMANCE. “I DIDN’T WANT TO OFFEND THE MUNY AT ALL, AND THAT WAS A REALLY BIG NCERN OF ME, TO THE POT WHERE I DIDN’T EVEN HAVE HBO FOR THE FIRST THREE YEARS BEE I DIDN’T WANT TO SEE , BEE I WAS SO TERRIFIED OF BEG OFFENSIVE,” THE ACTOR TOLD HUFFGTON POST. “BUT THE GAY MUNY REALLY ROSE UP, AND SAID ‘WE KNOW PEOPLE LIKE THIS, THIS IS REAL.’ AND SO THAT MA ME FEEL GREAT, AND I ULD START WATCHG THE SHOW.”STANFORD WAS PERFORMED WH PASSN AND EMPATHY, EVEN THOUGH HIS SENSE OF HUMOR WAS THLS. THAT ANKNS MA HIM ENARG, LIKE A REAL IEND WHO MIGHT TELL YOU ANYTHG. CONSIR THIS EXCHANGE HE HAD WH CARRIE SEASON THREE: “I N ONLY STAY A FEW MUT,” STANFORD SAYS. “I’VE GOT TICKETS TO THE VAGA MONOLOGU.”A PERPLEXED CARRIE ASKS HIM PLATIVELY: “WHY?”HIS REPLY: “JT BEE I DON’T EAT AT THE RTRANT DON’T MEAN I N’T HEAR THE SPECIALS.”MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIR— UNHAPPY LTLE TRE: THE DARK LEGACY OF BOB ROSS— THE TE STORY OF A HOLLYWOOD PARTNERSHIP BUILT AND DTROYED BY MONEY, SEX, AND CELEBRY— TED LASSO’S ROY KENT ON WHY THE SHOW ISN’T “WARM AND FUZZY”— CAFTANS, GOYARD, AND ELVIS: INSI THE WHE LOT’S COSTUM— THE CHAIR IS LIKE AN AMIC GAME OF THRON— THE BT MOVI AND SHOWS STREAMG ON NETFLIX THIS MONTH— RACHAEL LEIGH COOK ON RECLAIMG SHE’S ALL THAT— WATCH KRISTEN STEWART CHANNEL PRCS DI SPENCER’S OFFICIAL TRAILER— FROM THE ARCHIVE: JEFEY EPSTE AND HOLLYWOOD’S OMNIPRENT PUBLICIST— SIGN UP FOR THE “HWD DAILY” NEWSLETTER FOR MT-READ DTRY AND AWARDS VERAGE—PL A SPECIAL WEEKLY EDN OF “AWARDS INSIR.”MOST POPULARRILEY KEOUGH ON GROWG UP PRLEY, LOSG LISA MARIE, AND INHERG GRACELANDBY BRT HENNEMUTHTHE ELVIS PRLEY WE DIDN’T SEE ELVISBY KATEY RICHRED, WHE & ROYAL BLUE: THE 6 BIGGT CHANG FROM BOOK TO MOVIEBY SAVANNAH WALSHANTHONY BREZNIN

WILLIE GARSON, CARRIE'S GAY BTIE ON SEX AND THE CY, HAS DIED

Willie Garson, the actor known for playg Carrie Bradshaw's gay bt iend, Stanford Blatch, on Sex and the Cy, has died at age died "after a short illns, " People reports. His character, a talent agent, was always well-drsed and ready wh a wty was straight but stayed the closet about his sexualy durg the n of the show, sayg he didn't want to offend gay people. In a Page Six terview last year, he referred to "people playg gay characters jumpg up and down screamg that they're not gay, like that would somehow be a bad thg if they were.

Willie Garson, who has died of pancreatic ncer aged 57, was an actor who achieved worldwi fame Sex and the Cy as the talent agent Stanford Blatch, Carrie Bradshaw’s gay soulmate who was often referred to as the show’s “fifth lady” six seri and two film sp-offs, he was on hand to offer phy advice and support as Carrie (Sarah Jsi Parker) and her iends – played by Kim Cattrall, Cynthia Nixon and Krist Davis – negotiated the joys and perils of New York some of the show’s bt l, he livered them wh panache.

WILLIE GARSON, ACTOR BT KNOWN AS CARRIE’S GAY IEND SEX AND THE CY – OBUARY

”While Stanford was avowedly gay, and found a partner, a Broadway dancer, the last two seasons of the show, the actor tend to downplay the fact that he was actually straight. “For years I didn’t talk about , ” he said, “bee I found to be offensive to gay people – people playg gay characters jumpg up and down screamg that they’re not gay, like that would somehow be a bad thg if they were. "Garson, born William Garson Paszamant, played Carrie Bradshaw's gay bt iend the HBO show "Sex and the Cy, " which aired om 1998 to 2004.

Garson's gay talent agent character Stanford Blatch was a fan favore throughout "Sex and the Cy's" six-season n on HBO om 1998 to 2004. " Garson racked up well over 150 actg creds his more than three- reer, wh rol long-nng shows cludg USA's “Whe Collar” and CBS' “Hawaii Five-O” opened up to Page Six an terview last year about playg a gay character on "Sex and the Cy, " spe intifyg as straight. "For years I didn’t talk about bee I found to be offensive to gay people, " Garson said.

I never particularly intified wh any member of the show’s central, expertly iffed quartet—all thgs nsired, I’m more of a Steve moon, Magda risg—but even g of age the Girls generatn, was near impossible to pe the long shadow st by Carrie Bradshaw’s I grew up and began to grapple wh my sexualy, I realized I was even further afield of the Sex and the Cy gals than I’d thought; they were, wh very ocsnal exceptns, shg emblems of pulsory heterosexualy, and the show was part of a blarg set of societal msag tellg me I uldn’t have the life I saw onscreen unls I was fact, as I watched Carrie repeatedly overlook and disappot her “gay boyiend” (aka obligatory gay BFF) Stanford Blatch whout ever beg forced to reckon wh the realy of what she was dog, I was all the more torn. As I watched Carrie drag Stanford to parti between boyiends, ignore his problems, and blow him off om a big night out by tellg him that “tonight is jt the girls, ” I unwtgly absorbed the ia that beg gay meant beg siled om the real story.

SEX AND THE CY STAR WILLIE GARSON DI AT 57HE PLAYED CARRIE’S BT IEND, STANFORD BLATCH, ALONG WH MEMORABLE ROL WHE COLLAR AND FARRELLY BROTHERS FILMS.BY ANTHONY BREZNINSEPTEMBER 21, 2021BY CRAIG BLANKENHORN/HBO/DARREN STAR PRODS./KOBAL/REX/SHUTTERSTOCK.SAVE THIS STORYSAVESAVE THIS STORYSAVEWH HIS BOOKISH LOOK, FSY MEANOR, AND VILISH SE, WILLIE GARSON WORKED FOR A PLAYG UNNAMED CHARACTERS LIKE “NW EXECUTIVE,” “CORPORATE GUY,” AND “ANNOYG GUY” BEFORE BREAKG THROUGH WH HIS REER FG ROLE: SEX AND THE CY’S NATTILY DRSED NFIDANTE AND BT IEND STANFORD BLATCH. ARMED WH A RAZOR W AND EQUALLY SHARP SKEPTICISM ABOUT THE DATG SCENE, “STANNY” OFTEN JOED SARAH JSI PARKER’S CARRIE BRADSHAW AND HER TR OF GIRLIENDS NAVIGATG THE MEN OF MANHATTAN. FROM 1998 TO 2004, AND OVER TWO FEATURE FILMS, GARSON, WHO DIED TUDAY AT AGE 57, PLAYED THE PART OF THE “GAY BT IEND” YEARS BEFORE MOST PEOPLE KNEW A REAL-LIFE IEND OR RELATIVE WHO WAS FORTABLE BEG OUT.GARSON’S FIRST APPEARANCE AS STANFORD, THE 1998 PILOT FOR SEX AND THE CY, ARRIVED JT A YEAR AFTER ELLEN DEGENER’S CHARACTER OM HER SELF-TLED ABC S ME OUT PUBLICLY, CREATG A CULTURAL STIR AT A TIME WHEN SAME-SEX RELATNSHIPS WERE SELDOM SEEN MASTREAM ENTERTAMENT. GARSON’S STANFORD PHED THE DOOR OPEN FURTHER AS A GAY CHARACTER WHO TALKED ANKLY WH HIS STRAIGHT IENDS ABOUT SEX, DATG, REJECTN, SECURY, AND THE ETERNAL NUNDM OF THE MALE MD. AS THE WORLD CHANGED, SO DID HE. IN THE 2010 MOVIE SEQUEL SEX AND THE CY 2, STANFORD SETTLED DOWN AND MARRIED HIS LONGTIME RIVAL, ANTHONY, A CEREMONY OFFICIATED BY NO LS THAN LIZA MNELLI. THAT WAS FIVE YEARS BEFORE THE 2015 SUPREME COURT LG THAT LEGALIZED SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ALL 50 STAT. GARSON, WHO REPORTEDLY HAD BEEN BATTLG NCER, WAS NOT GAY HIMSELF, BUT TOOK PRI PLAYG A CHARACTER WHO ULD MAKE DIENC LGH WH STANFORD RATHER THAN AT HIM. WHILE DIENC WERE BEG ENTERTAED, THE ACTOR ALSO HOPED THE LOVABLE CHARACTER WOULD MAKE VIEWERS MORE ACCEPTG AND TOLERANT. “IT WAS ALSO VERY IMPORTANT TO THE SHOW TO SHOW SOMEONE HAVG FUN BEG GAY, BEG PROUD, OPEN AND FORTABLE WH WHO THEY ARE,” HE TOLD THE HUFFGTON POST 2016. “YOU KNOW, WE’D JT E THROUGH THE [AIDS] CRISIS AND EVERY REPRENTATN OF GAY WAS KD OF DARK, AND SPOKEN HHED TON,” GARSON ADD. “BUT STANFORD WAS LIKE, ‘HEY, I’M GAY. REALLY GAY. SUPER GAY. AND I’M HAPPY ABOUT , I’M LOOKG FOR A BOYIEND, LOOKG FOR A HBAND,’ AND WAS VERY OPEN, AND DIFFERENT TO WHAT HAD BEEN SHOWN BEFORE.”GARSON’S ATH WAS NFIRMED ON SOCIAL MEDIA BY HIS SON, NATHEN GARSON: “YOU ALWAYS WERE THE TOUGHT AND FUNNIT AND SMARTT PERSON I’VE KNOWN. I’M GLAD YOU SHARED YOUR LOVE WH ME. I’LL NEVER FET OR LOSE . I LOVE YOU SO MUCH PAPA,” NATHEN WROTE ON INSTAGRAM.STANFORD WAS GARSON’S MOST FAMO ROLE, BUT THE ACTOR PLAYED SR OF OTHER CHARACTERS MOVI AND TV SHOWS OVER THE S, CLUDG A REGULAR ROLE AS THE N ARTIST, FIXER, AND RMATN GATHERER MOZZIE ON THE SERI WHE COLLAR. HE ALSO MA GUT APPEARANC ON CHEERS, THE X-FIL, QUANTUM LEAP, NYPD BLUE, AND SUPERGIRL. IN FILM, HE HAD SUPPORTG ROL GROUNDHOG DAY, SOAPDISH, AND MARS ATTACKS!, AND APPEARED THREE EDI DIRECTED BY THE FARRELLY BROTHERS—THERE’S SOMETHG ABOUT MARY, FEVER PCH, AND KGP.GARSON WAS OUTSPOKEN SEVERAL YEARS AGO WHEN FIGHTG BETWEEN THE OTHER ACTORS AND -STAR KIM CATTRALL LED TO THE LLAPSE OF PLANS FOR A THIRD SEX AND THE CY MOVIE, BUT FANS MAY GET TO SEE SANFORD ONE MORE TIME. IN A STATEMENT TO DEADLE MOURNG THE ACTOR, SERI CREATOR MICHAEL PATRICK KG SAID GARSON HAD BEEN WORKG ON THE NEW HBO FOLLOW-UP SERI AND JT LIKE THAT, EVEN WHILE BATTLG HIS ILLNS.INIALLY, GARSON HIMSELF WAS APPREHENSIVE ABOUT THE CHARACTER WHO WOULD MAKE HIM FAMO. WHILE ACKNOWLEDGG THAT STANFORD WAS MORE OF AN EMBRACE OF STEREOTYP THAN A REFUTATN OF THEM, THE ACTOR WAS WORRIED ABOUT HOW LGBTQ+ PEOPLE WOULD FEEL ABOUT THE PERFORMANCE. “I DIDN’T WANT TO OFFEND THE MUNY AT ALL, AND THAT WAS A REALLY BIG NCERN OF ME, TO THE POT WHERE I DIDN’T EVEN HAVE HBO FOR THE FIRST THREE YEARS BEE I DIDN’T WANT TO SEE , BEE I WAS SO TERRIFIED OF BEG OFFENSIVE,” THE ACTOR TOLD HUFFGTON POST. “BUT THE GAY MUNY REALLY ROSE UP, AND SAID ‘WE KNOW PEOPLE LIKE THIS, THIS IS REAL.’ AND SO THAT MA ME FEEL GREAT, AND I ULD START WATCHG THE SHOW.”STANFORD WAS PERFORMED WH PASSN AND EMPATHY, EVEN THOUGH HIS SENSE OF HUMOR WAS THLS. THAT ANKNS MA HIM ENARG, LIKE A REAL IEND WHO MIGHT TELL YOU ANYTHG. CONSIR THIS EXCHANGE HE HAD WH CARRIE SEASON THREE: “I N ONLY STAY A FEW MUT,” STANFORD SAYS. “I’VE GOT TICKETS TO THE VAGA MONOLOGU.”A PERPLEXED CARRIE ASKS HIM PLATIVELY: “WHY?”HIS REPLY: “JT BEE I DON’T EAT AT THE RTRANT DON’T MEAN I N’T HEAR THE SPECIALS.”MORE GREAT STORI FROM VANY FAIR— UNHAPPY LTLE TRE: THE DARK LEGACY OF BOB ROSS— THE TE STORY OF A HOLLYWOOD PARTNERSHIP BUILT AND DTROYED BY MONEY, SEX, AND CELEBRY— TED LASSO’S ROY KENT ON WHY THE SHOW ISN’T “WARM AND FUZZY”— CAFTANS, GOYARD, AND ELVIS: INSI THE WHE LOT’S COSTUM— THE CHAIR IS LIKE AN AMIC GAME OF THRON— THE BT MOVI AND SHOWS STREAMG ON NETFLIX THIS MONTH— RACHAEL LEIGH COOK ON RECLAIMG SHE’S ALL THAT— WATCH KRISTEN STEWART CHANNEL PRCS DI SPENCER’S OFFICIAL TRAILER— FROM THE ARCHIVE: JEFEY EPSTE AND HOLLYWOOD’S OMNIPRENT PUBLICIST— SIGN UP FOR THE “HWD DAILY” NEWSLETTER FOR MT-READ DTRY AND AWARDS VERAGE—PL A SPECIAL WEEKLY EDN OF “AWARDS INSIR.”MOST POPULARRILEY KEOUGH ON GROWG UP PRLEY, LOSG LISA MARIE, AND INHERG GRACELANDBY BRT HENNEMUTHTHE ELVIS PRLEY WE DIDN’T SEE ELVISBY KATEY RICHRED, WHE & ROYAL BLUE: THE 6 BIGGT CHANG FROM BOOK TO MOVIEBY SAVANNAH WALSHANTHONY BREZNIN

The girls are openly skeptil when Samantha starts datg a woman, and male bisexualy is dismissed as “a layover on the way to Gaytown. ” Then, of urse, there’s the episo which Samantha wag an all-out war agast the trans women sex workers her is that one betifully aspiratnal, L Word–adjacent episo that se Charlotte get soped up by a posse of gallery-gog power lbians, but general, the dated sexual polics of Sex and the Cy were, as Salon wrer Thomas Rogers put 2010, “bad for the gays. She shows up late to a shoot his boyiend anized, snappg at Stanford when he dar to exprs disappotment; she ignor Stanford’s new relatnship to whe about herself, promptg a rare nontatn (over bnch, natch) that don’t actually end wh her changg her issue wh Carrie’s treatment of Stanford isn’t that lacks realism; after all, the show was created by openly gay wrer and director Michael Patrick Kg, who, if he’s like many queer people, might have been on the receivg end of a siar dynamic wh a straight iend who se them as a sequed accsory.

Still, this stale dynamic between a girl and her gay btie n be seen as a benchmark we’ve surpassed; today’s generatn of TV shows fally allow queer characters to occupy space beyond the gay bar or the Bergdorf’s drsg haven’t perfected the art of reprentg the queer experience onscreen—whe, cis narrativ still le the roost—but if Sex and the Cy premiered today, ’s likely Stanford would be ls “straight-om-central-stg gay guy” and more “actual human beg.

More than jt Carrie’s obligatory gay bt iend, Stanford has proven to be a snazzy style star his own right. From 1998 to 2004, and over two feature films, Garson, who died Tuday at age 57, played the part of the “gay bt iend” years before most people knew a real-life iend or relative who was fortable beg ’s first appearance as Stanford, the 1998 pilot for Sex and the Cy, arrived jt a year after Ellen Degener’s character om her self-tled ABC s me out publicly, creatg a cultural stir at a time when same-sex relatnships were seldom seen mastream entertament.