Gay "Sis": How Language Fre Us to be Ourselv | Psychology Today

Contents:

• SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"
• GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV
• I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’
• GAY
• GAY
• MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH

SI GUYS: THKG BEYOND GAY MALE "TOPS" AND "BOTTOMS"

A third add: “Personally I’m not crazy about the term ‘si’ (sounds to me like someone lyg there, dog not much) but ’s good that Grdr acknowledg that there’s more to gay sex than anal. When to sex, whether you’re gay, bi, or straight, we’ve all been a ltle brawashed to believg that there is this thg lled “normal.

GAY "SIS": HOW LANGUAGE FRE US TO BE OURSELV

In the gay male muny, ually, you’re eher nsired to be a “top, ” the perator, or a “bottom, ” the perated, or you’re versatile (n go eher way). But what if you’re a gay man who don’t enjoy anal sex or fds anal peratn paful, don’t like the feelg or the troublome amount of preparatn and cleang up need for to be a pleasurable experience, or simply don’t experience anal sex as erotic? That’s why a 2013 article I wrote for Huffgton Post, "Guys on the ‘Si’: Lookg Beyond Gay Tops and Bottoms, " I began workg on popularizg the term “si” orr for the gay men to have the language to exprs their sexual and erotic preference.

I’ve seen gay male clients who rry a load of shame about not likg or wantg to get or give anal sex. There are straight men who like havg anal sex and/or beg perated wh a dildo, and there are gay men who don’t.

The gay male datg app, Grdr, recently add the sexual preference I created beyond jt top, bottom, and vers when to gay men engagg terurse: "si. That’s what happened 2013 when, an article I wrote for the Huffgton Post, “Guys on the Si, ” I created the term “si” for gay men who aren’t to beg a “top” or a “bottom” or practicg anal peratn.

I’M GAY AND I’M NOT A TOP OR A BOTTOM – I’M A ‘SI’

The term “Si” was created when 2010, I was talkg wh some lleagu about “tops” (gay men who prefer the sertive role durg peratn) and “bottoms” (gay men who prefer the receptive role durg peratn) and outed myself for beg a gay man who don’t engage anal terurse at all.

Beg a “top, ” “bottom, ” or “vers” (short for "versatile, " or someone who uld go eher way) were the only acceptable mols the gay muny, and I felt dissed for not ftg to the mold. About a year and a half ago I formed a Facebook group lled “Si Guys” and some of the guys the group started a petn to Grdr, the gay datg app, to add “si” to their list of preferred posns and filters.

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And now that Grdr has updated s settgs, gay men are addg as a sexual posn to their app self-intifyg as a si.

It’s been around forever—but we jt didn’t have a snappy term to scribe the gay muny.

Back 2011, an article was published the Journal of Sexual Medice which rearchers surveyed 25, 000 gay and bisexual men Ameri about their most recent sexual enunters, and only 36 percent said they had bottomed, and 34 percent said they had topped.

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Nearly 65 percent of gay and bisexual men didn’t have terurse as part of their most recent sexual experience at all. Furthermore, a si n be a gay male, a bisexual male, a pansexual male, or fall unr the ace umbrella (asexual male/graysexual male/misexual male, etc.

MEANG OF GAY ENGLISH

Dennis Fortenberry MD, MS Sexual Behavrs and Suatnal Characteristics of Most Recent Male-Partnered Sexual Event among Gay and Bisexually Intified Men the Uned Stat. Often ed to refer to asexual people  a siar manner as “gay” or “straight” are ed to refer to homosexual or heterosexual people.

Ally: A person who supports and rpects sexual diversy, acts acrdgly to challenge homophobic and heterosexist remarks and behavrs, and is willg to explore and unrstand the forms of bias wh themselv.