How to Tell if Your Guy Friend Is Gay: 15 Steps (wh Pictur)

Contents:

• CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• THERE IS NO ‘GAY GENE.’ THERE IS NO ‘STRAIGHT GENE.’ SEXUALY IS JT PLEX, STUDY NFIRMS
• NATE WYATT B: GAY, GIRLIEND, NET WORTH, PARENTS, HEIGHT
• WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• AM I GAY?
• WHY GAY IS NOT OK
• CAN PEOPLE STOP BEG GAY?

CAN SOMEONE BE HOMOSEXUAL AND NOT GAY?

Only sce the begng of the 20th century has queer been ed to refer to people who intify as gay or lbian. The standard fn of homosexual is “a person sexually attracted to people of one’s own sex. GLAAD prefers that we don’t e the term homosexual bee ’s “aggrsively ed by anti-gay extremists to suggt that gay people are somehow diseased or psychologilly/emotnally disorred.

Bee suggts that beg lbian, gay, bisexual, or of another sexual orientatn is a choice and the person n be “cured. The word gay refers to a homosexual man, but origally meant “lighthearted, joyful, reee.

It’s OK to scribe someone you know who publicly self-intifi as gay, lbian, bisexual, or another sexual orientatn as out. But never out someone, or expose their lbian, gay, bisexual, or transgenr inty, whout permissn.

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY

But, people who are gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr also re about a wi variety of other polil, social, and cultural issu. The term homosexual agenda is ed by anti-gay extremists to create a climate of fear and mistst. It’s sometim ed as a disparagg way to scribe the recment of heterosexuals to a homosexual liftyle.

My last post scribed a populatn of mal who nsir themselv heterosexual, do not label themselv gay or bisexual, chew volvement wh the LGBT muny, are often married or romantilly volved wh an oppose-sex partner, and who engage sex wh mal or exprs the sire to do so. Due large part to the popularizatn of the topic the btsellg 2005 book On the Down Low: A Journey to the Liv of 'Straight' Black Men Who Sleep wh Men, [i] Lato and Ain-Amerin men are the primary subjects rearch wh non-gay intified MSM. One of the earlit studi, "The Bisexual and Non-Gay Attached Rearch Project" om the early 1990s, found that participants engagg same-sex sexual behavr but not intifyg as gay or bisexual scribed themselv as “kky, ” “normal, ” or “jt a guy.

Siar fdgs were found throughout a seri of terviews wh non-gay intified MSM prepared for the Centers for Disease Control and Preventn 2004. In tally, the men terviewed reported that if sexual activy between men was anonymo, experimental, ocsnal, or if substance e was volved, the act was not “gay. Fally, while there is nflictg data, appears that non-gay intified MSM engage high levels of dg and alhol e.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

Usg this stricture as a gui, a man who has sex wh another male mt be gay (or bisexual at the least). Parsons, “Sexual Behavrs of Non-gay Intified Non-disclosg Men Who Have Sex wh Men and Women, ” Archiv of Sexual Behavr 37, no.

[iii] Daryl Hood, Garrett Prtage, June Crawford, Tania Sorrell, and Chris O’Reilly, "Report on the BANGAR Project: Bisexual Activy/non Gay Attachment Rearch Targetg Strategi Intifitn Project. [v] STD Communitns Database: Interviews wh Non-Gay Intified Men who have Sex wh Men (NGI MSM), ” (Atlanta, Geia: Orc Macro, 2005). Ramamurthi, Cleo Manago, Serg Ava, and Marv Jon, “Sexual Behavr, Sexual Inty, and Substance Abe Among Low-Ine Bisexual and Non-Gay-Intifyg Ain Amerin Men Who Have Sex wh Men, ” Archiv of Sexual Behavr 37, no.

THERE IS NO ‘GAY GENE.’ THERE IS NO ‘STRAIGHT GENE.’ SEXUALY IS JT PLEX, STUDY NFIRMS

So when we therapists are nonted wh male clients, often married on, who e to wh ep nflicts about their sexual attractn to other men, we often fd that they are willg to e the word “homosexual, ” but chew the “gay” label.

NATE WYATT B: GAY, GIRLIEND, NET WORTH, PARENTS, HEIGHT

Bee “gay” impli an embracg of the gay liftyle — gay bars, gay pri paras, perhaps multiple sex partners, or even anonymo sex.

Unfortunately, much of our natn’s polics have long exacerbated the problem as well, shamg and vilifyg homosexualy, leadg legns of men stgglg wh sexual inty to ternalize their homophobia. I warned them of the pfalls of keepg their sexual orientatn secret: a life of creased prsn, pursug a secret life the gay unrground wh the danger of beg ught, how attemptg to supprs urg n often e them to bee even more obssed wh them.

WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?

I have treated many men who are of Mormon, Orthodox Jewish, Catholic, and other religns who thk of homosexualy as a pathology. Their pa is excciatg, but I honor their bravery riskg losg everythg to ensure they have a qualy life as a gay man. They may need, om time to time, to seek further therapy, but wh the right therapist, one who has thoroughly unrstood the dangers of such practic of “reparative therapy” which the therapist seeks to change the client’s sexual inty om gay to straight.

Bee the labels “homosexual” or “gay” rry such a stigma, some of the men seek help for their “sex addictn” and see their homosexualy as an actg out of same-sex urg. Beg homosexual, gay, or havg same-sex attractn is not sex addictn, and should never be treated as such. You may want to know if your iend is gay, but there may be a good reason why they're stayg closeted.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

For example, his fay may be vlently homophobic and by cidg that he's gay, you may out him by accint by treatg him different or implyg somethg whout meang to.

If you're tryg to figure out if your iend is gay bee you want to date him (as a woman), 's important to remember that jt bee he might be terted men don't mean he's not terted women.

AM I GAY?

Another important thg to remember is that 's not very important whether or not he's gay. One of the theori about why some people are gay has to do wh the hormon that they're exposed to before they're born. The hormone exposure levels may manift actual, physil ways which n be a vague ditor that a guy might be gay.

WHY GAY IS NOT OK

It is possible that your guy iend is not gay but stead falls somewhere else on the Ksey sle of unirns and awomens.

Although some people the gay culture may put on a certa voice or a way of speakg, your iend talkg a siar or "effemate" way is still not a very good way to judge.

CAN PEOPLE STOP BEG GAY?

Everyone n enjoy different thgs; jt like a woman might enjoy watchg football, guys n also enjoy thgs that are more monly associated wh women or the gay muny.

The movi he watch and the mic he listens to are also not fair methods to gge if he is straight or gayer than Elton John and Gee Takei put together.

There's the stereotype that if a guy is a good drser or if he spends a bunch of time on his hair, he's gay. Sometim you might assume that jt bee a guy only hangs out wh girls or jt bee his bt iend also seems gay, then he might also be gay. Subtly brg up subjects that show him that you're okay wh your iends beg gay and that he don't need to hi his nature around you.