The gay world is often reprented as some sort of monolhic whole that has the same culture. That is a lie. It is actually broken down to a handful of substrata to which each gay belongs. Here they are.
Contents:
- GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN'S HEALTH ISSU
- GAY MEN AND BODY PERFECTN
- A HANDY GUI TO ALL GAY MEN
- IS TROYE SIVAN’S ‘RH’ SEXY FUN OR GAY DETR?
- STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
- THE GAY MEN RISKG THEIR HEALTH FOR THE PERFECT BODY
- “HOW TO TELL IF A MAN IS GAY” — 5 WAYS (BACKED BY SCIENCE)
- 6 LAST-MUTE EXERCIS FOR THE PERFECT GAY BEACH BOD
- THE GYM/FNS CONNECTN GAY MEN’S MENTAL HEALTH
- WHY IS THERE NO GAY MEN’S BODY LIBERATN MOVEMENT?TALK QUEERLY: A BI-WEEKLY LUMN ON LGBTQ CULTURE & POLICSJEFY J. IOVANNONE·FOLLOWPUBLISHED THK QUEERLY·12 M READ·MAR 19, 2019--5SHAREPHOTO BY RANDY TARAMPI ON UNSPLASH.“GAY FAT”
GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN'S HEALTH ISSU
Unrstand health ncerns for gay men and other men who have sex wh men, and learn how to promote good health. * gay body contact *
Many health re and mental health anizatns foced on the lbian, gay, bisexual and transgenr muny also offer substance e treatment or may be able to provi rmatn about lol rourc. There are a few optns for gay men and bisexual men same-sex relatnships who aspire to have children, cludg surrogacy, where sperm is ed to fertilize a donated egg, which is then rried to term by a surrogate mother. The gay media reprents bety and sirabily the form of youth and gym-toned bodi, makg the gay scene a harsh place for people who do not nform to such ials.
Whilst the gay media perpetuat body perfectn and helps mata the distrs, the unrlyg disturbance that mak so many gay men predisposed to the stggl is homophobia.
Gay men may not be able to intify the unrlyg pa by themselv but gay-affirmative therapy, they n have a space to unpack the var layers of their disturbanc. They may not be very faiar to the world at large, but they are certaly faiar to the brothers butt say that each gay person belongs to one of the typ is a b ceptive.
GAY MEN AND BODY PERFECTN
Rearch has shown that the followg are some of the most mon health ncerns faced by gay and bisexual men. * gay body contact *
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They ually work advertisg, PR, marketg, or the entertament dtry and make a ton of sh which they e to have perfect apartments, fantastic wardrob, and summer hom near all the other gay-listers. He drs eher the most current prissy fashns or like a homo versn of Terry Richardson, big glass, flannels, and jeans that looks so thrown together that took him hours to put together. You're more likely to fd them at a gallery openg or mol party, but every so often they'll be at a gay bar to b elbows, and other parts, wh the other homos.
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A HANDY GUI TO ALL GAY MEN
Many gay men want a perfect body, but the effort to get one creat real misery. * gay body contact *
Livg liv which are often agmented between nventnal work ndns and their private liv leav many gay men whout the tradnal support mechanisms of heterosexuals and this shows through the separated by geography, culture and age, the men the imag all share fears for the future, lonels, job secury, and separatn.
As we were seated at the table, our host, a maternal and physilly affectnate gay man, ntually petted as he brought agrant Sephardic food to the table. Of urse, Mederranean cultur like Spa and Italy posss a higher gree of male homosocial fort— is not at all strange there to see two men walkg wh their arms around one another, sleepg on each other’s shoulr, holdg hands, or even sharg a quick iendly kiss.
In Ameri particular, if a young man attempts gentle platonic ntact wh another young man, he fac a very real risk of homophobic backlash eher by that person or by those who wns the ntact. Couple this wh the homophobia that ns rampant our culture, and you get a recipe for creased touch isolatn that damag the liv of the vast majory of men. Greene, a straight man, jtifi his support of gay marriage and general gay acceptance part for this reason—as long as any kd of male affectn tomatilly reads as sexual (and, given wispread cultural homophobia, threateng), men of all orientatns are sufferg and beg emotnally stunted by a lack of homosocial timacy.
IS TROYE SIVAN’S ‘RH’ SEXY FUN OR GAY DETR?
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As much as gay men have faced the bnt of homophobic vlence, straight men have been banished to a sert of physil isolatn by the same homophobic fanatics who police lbians and gays our society. Ined, though many of the upl those pictur look gay to now—a direct monstratn of our morn skewed perceptns of male timacy—most of them were probably jt good iends.
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So we cid to get one gay who remembers the release of Kylie Mogue’s “Lootn” and another gay who is too young to remember the release of “Can’t Get You Out of My Head” to bate whether this track is actually a Bop or Flop. Y, has a Village People qualy to , but I also thk ’s tertg to see what happens when you streamle the mp of our gay tracks of yore and rce them down to one sgular emotn (horny).
STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
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It feels like part of the reason Troye miss out on the spotlight is bee he’s gay and unwillg to create the kd of watered-down mp that his queer peers are g to ga attentn (hi, Sam Smh). Media ptn, Gay body shamg prsure 'led to severe heart failure'"You're too ugly to be gay, " a man a Hudrsfield gay bar told Jakeb Artur was the latt a seri of ments om men that Jakeb says ma him feel worthls. A number of gay men have told the BBC they are gog to extreme lengths to change their bodi - cludg g steroids and havg plastic surgery - jt to bee "accepted" by others the LGBT muny.
"It jt hasn't been worth at all, " he Jakeb is not alone takg drastic measur to try to appeal to Bmpton - a software engeer om Lln - found himself "tapulted to this world of self-nscns", after he hooked up wh a man at a lol gay Jam went back to the man's hoe and took off his T-shirt, his date looked at him and ma a disgted noise. Acrdg to the most recent figur released by the Brish Associatn of Athetic Plastic Surgeons (Baaps), 179 abdomoplasti were performed on men 2018 - up 18% on the prev Afsh Mosahebi, of Baaps, says gay men are currently havg more smetic procr done than straight men, although he not that women have more procr than men overall. "People havg their profil 'no fats', or that they're only to mascule and mcular guys, so they don't want anyone that's super skny, " he on social media and leadg gay magaz have also led Jam to feel he is an "var the space".
"The ia your head is that to be a gay man, is to look like a Calv Kle mol, " he of "sexy bodi" drive sal of gay magaz, acrdg to Matthew Todd, a former edor of one such publitn, Attu. '"Jeff Ingold, om LGBT chary Stonewall says is "ccial" that we see more diverse reprentatns of gay and bisexual men wh different body typ the media.
THE GAY MEN RISKG THEIR HEALTH FOR THE PERFECT BODY
Learn how to approach and flirt wh gay guys at clubs, bars, or other venuMeetg gay guys is hard. First you have to terme if the guy you're terted is gay or straight. Then you have to approach him and strike up a... * gay body contact *
"Not only would this help gay and bi men see themselv reflected what they watch, would also help break down harmful stereotyp that affect gay and bi men's body image and self-teem.
Then workg up the urage to say hello is nearly a guaranteed way to nnect wh men who you know are gay, vis the 4 bt gay datg s that were chosen by our ’t worry, you don’t have to tst your gaydar alone the datg scene. Rearchers om the Center for Theoretil Study at Charl Universy Prague and The Amy of Scienc of the Czech Republic dite that there are some unique differenc the shape of gay vers straight men’s purport that gay men their study showed wir and shorter fac, smaller and shorter nos, and larger, more round jaws of a mascule appearance.
“HOW TO TELL IF A MAN IS GAY” — 5 WAYS (BACKED BY SCIENCE)
Gay men speak about the prsure to have the perfect body - and how far they have gone to get . * gay body contact *
A study published the September 2013 Journal of Personaly and Social Psychology alleg that gay men tend to walk wh a slight “sway” of the hips, while lbians walk wh a back-and-forth motn of their ’s a stereotype, but ’s also a pretty good clue. Gay men apparently have an creased nsy of fgerprt ridg on the thumb and pkie of the left hand, and their arms, legs, and hands are smaller pared to their overall stature.
It was a behavr — accepted by some cultur and nsired sful by at the turn of the 20th century, the ia of homosexualy shifted om a practice to a liftyle and an inty. As this new nceptn of homosexualy as a stigmatized and onero intifier took root Amerin culture, men began to be much more reful to not send msag to other men, and to women, that they were gay. At the same time, also may expla why untri wh a more nservative, relig culture, such as Ai or the Middle East, where men do engage homosexual acts, but still nsir homosexualy the “crime that nnot be spoken, ” remas mon for men to be affectnate wh one another and fortable wh thgs like holdg hands as they walk.
The men’s very fortable and faiar pos and body language might make the men look like gay lovers to the morn eye — and they uld very well have been — but that was not the msage they were sendg at the time. Bee homosexualy, even if thought of as a practice rather than an inty, was not somethg publicly exprsed, the men were not knowgly outg themselv the shots; their pos were mon, and simply reflected the timacy and tensy of male iendships at the time — none of the photos would have ed their ntemporari to bat an the thor of Picturg Men, John Ibson, nducted a survey of morn day portra studs to ask if they had ever had two men e to have their photo taken, he found that the event was so rare that many of the photographers he spoke to had never seen happen durg their reer. The snapshots ually were veloped by someone else who would have gotten a look at all of them, so aga, the pictur were not likely purposeful exprsns of gay love, but rather ptured the very mon level of fort men felt wh one another durg the early 20th of the reasons male iendships were so tense durg the 19th and early 20th centuri, is that socializatn was largely separated by sex; men spent most their time wh other men, women wh other women.
6 LAST-MUTE EXERCIS FOR THE PERFECT GAY BEACH BOD
Ken Howard, LCSW, a specialist gay men's mental health, scrib the posive nnectns between the gym/fns and a posive mental outlook. * gay body contact *
In the 50s, some psychologists theorized that genr-segregated socializatn spurred homosexualy, and as cultural mor changed general, snapshots of only men together were supplanted by those of ed all male environments, such as mg mps or navy ships, was mon for men to hold danc, wh half the men wearg a patch or some other marker to signate them as the “women” for the eveng. But the 50s, when homosexualy reached s peak of pathologizatn, eventually they too created more space between themselv, and while still affectnate began to teract wh ls ease and ’s not te that Amerin men are no longer affectnate wh each other at all. Servg is such an unqutnably manly thg, that homophobia dissipat; soldiers re ls about one’s sexualy than whether the man n get the job man who served WWII and experienced tense mararie wh his battlefield brothers, often had trouble adjtg to life back home, which he got married, settled the suburbs, and felt cut off and isolated om other men and the kd of ep iendships he had enjoyed durg the BuddyLife is a book that we study Some of s leav brg a sigh There was wrten by a buddy That we mt part, you and INights are long sce you went away I thk about you all through the day My buddy, my buddy Nobody que so te Miss your voice, the touch of your hand Jt long to know that you unrstand My buddy, my buddy Your buddy miss youMiss your voice, the touch of your hand Jt long to know that you unrstand My buddy, my buddy Your buddy miss youYour buddy miss you, y I doWrten 1922 by Walter Donaldson, “My Buddy” was origally spired by the heartbreakg ath of Donaldson’s fiancee, but was adopted durg WWII by the troops as a way to exprs their ep attachment to each other.
THE GYM/FNS CONNECTN GAY MEN’S MENTAL HEALTH
“You’re not fat fat, but you are gay fat,” said the guy I was datg at the time when I exprsed that I felt like I didn’t particularly f to gay culture. The words, which at the time were… * gay body contact *
And may also be traced to the culture’s greater acceptance of homosexualy, although that has turn solidified beg gay as an inty, and seems unlikely that men will cease wantg to munite to others whether they are homosexual or heterosexual anytime soon. There is somethg about gay male culture world-wi that seems to support the “gym liftyle”, whether ’s for health reasons or for the athetics of the mcular male body. While some would cry this as beg about body shamg, “Adonis Complex”, and a lot of other negative ncepts, I’d like to foc today on the more posive aspects of this tra of gay men and the gym, and s ntributn to gay men’s mental health.
In my practice as a psychotherapist specializg gay men’s mental health for over 29 years ( 2021), I have treated my share of s wh Body Dysmorphic Disorr, Obssive-Compulsive Disorr (wh issu about the body), eatg disorrs (which are more prevalent gay men than straight men), and s of low self-teem that have to do wh the body. And while shamg and petivens n give the gay male muny an ugly edge at tim, I prefer to foc on the posive, as I believe a general optimism and posive outlook is a good general life tool that supports overall good mental health and well-beg.
All of the above guys are straight, but they each have an extensive work of gay male clients and iends, and they embody the great iendships that n happen when straight male alli help gay men to be at their bt wh a mimum of drama. Kennedy, or scientists like Jonas Salk (disverer of the pol vacce), or Alan Turg (the gay puter geni who helped w World War II), or even kd-hearted entertaers like gay-in divas such as Stevie Nicks (who helps a lot of veterans), Dolly Parton (who leads chary work leracy and books), and Cher (who helps children wh cleft palate and other facial formi).
WHY IS THERE NO GAY MEN’S BODY LIBERATN MOVEMENT?TALK QUEERLY: A BI-WEEKLY LUMN ON LGBTQ CULTURE & POLICSJEFY J. IOVANNONE·FOLLOWPUBLISHED THK QUEERLY·12 M READ·MAR 19, 2019--5SHAREPHOTO BY RANDY TARAMPI ON UNSPLASH.“GAY FAT”
But on a more direct level, guys like Eric, Chad, TJ, and Nimai (who are all straight, by the way, but all gay-affirmative) spire my daily life balancg my work and profsnal inty wh my personal inty, tryg to take re of myself as a middle-aged person who has lived wh HIV for over 31 years ( 2021). “Gay Fat”“You’re not fat fat, but you are gay fat, ” said the guy I was datg at the time when I exprsed that I felt like I didn’t particularly f to gay words, which at the time were eply hurtful, ntued to bother me for years. The notn of beg “gay fat, ” as opposed to simply “fat, ” illtrat that gay male culture and Wtern culture have different body this lumn, I discs culture and polics through a queer lens often absent the mastream to help amplify LGBTQ issu and perspectiv.