'I thk my boyiend is gay, how do I ask him?' - tips on talkg about sexualy wh your partner | Life

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• 'I THK MY BOYIEND IS GAY, HOW DO I ASK HIM?' - TIPS ON TALKG ABOUT SEXUALY WH YOUR PARTNER
• 17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)
• HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY
• I’M PRETTY SURE MY IEND IS GAY. HOW DO I ASK HIM?
• QUIZ: HOW TO TELL IF MY BOYIEND IS GAY?
• IM NOT GAY, ASK MY BOYIEND FAG. T-SHIRT
• I'M NOT GAY. ASK MY BOYIEND CAP
• IS MY BOYIEND GAY?

'I THK MY BOYIEND IS GAY, HOW DO I ASK HIM?' - TIPS ON TALKG ABOUT SEXUALY WH YOUR PARTNER

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” We enlisted the help of Cape Town-based relatnship expert Shelley Lew Shelley says if Taylor is ed gay and he won’t adm to himself, will be near impossible for him to tell his says as a woman a siar suatn, you should do some trospectn and ask yourself whether or not you are ready to be a relatnship wh a partner who is potentially gay or bi-sexual. “Regardls of whether he ‘appears’ homosexual, his behavur towards you as his partner is the most important. If you state your sexual needs and preferenc he will rpect your boundari the bedroom if he is a qualy partner, ” she MORE: ‘My boyiend me to get drks at bars – should I leave him’You need to addrs what you fd problematic wh your partner's behavur and addrs that as opposed to assumg he is gay bee this be problematic.

17 SIGNS YOUR BOYIEND IS SECRETLY GAY (& WHAT TO DO)

“The label ‘gay’ is unhelpful, rather scribe to him the activi that are unacceptable to you. However, what I am ncerned about is that he is g me as a steppg stone to acknowledgg to himself that he is gay, or that he wants to be a heterosexual relatnship orr to reap the social benefs (havg kids, generally beg accepted society, etc. I’m worried bee (a) he’s never been wh a man before and beg wh me means he won't get that experience (assumg he don't cheat) and (b) he om an extremely relig fay the South who would likely not be able to accept his homosexualy (or even bisexualy).

HOW TO TELL IF YOUR BOYIEND IS GAY

I'm worried that we will spend years together, possibly get married, have kids, and then he will e to grips that he is fact actually gay.

I have a very strong sneakg spicn that he’s bidg his time until his parents die or until he cis that he's gog to e out to them as I stay wh him and thk about a future, knowg full well that he uld tell me one day that he's actually gay and wants to be wh a man, or that he wants to transn, and leave me wh a bunch of baggage, such as gettg a divorce (sharg ctody of kids, fanc), and time/energy/effort lost? If you’re readg this, there’s a good chance you thk your boyiend might be gay.

I’M PRETTY SURE MY IEND IS GAY. HOW DO I ASK HIM?

So how n you tell if your boyiend is gay? If you see any of the signs below, your boyiend may be gay.

He watch gay pornIf your boyiend watch a lot of gay porn, there’s a good chance he’s sexually terted men.

QUIZ: HOW TO TELL IF MY BOYIEND IS GAY?

He might not be fully gay, but he’s obvly cur enough to check out on a regular basis. After all, most heterosexual guys have no tert watchg any porn unls there’s a woman your boyiend is tryg to hi his sexualy om you, ’s doubtful that he’ll openly watch gay porn while you’re around.

IM NOT GAY, ASK MY BOYIEND FAG. T-SHIRT

The only way you’ll know is to look at his search history, which is a pretty big vasn of his do he react if you offer to watch gay porn wh him? He’s been wh men beforeIf he’s been relatnships or hooked up wh men the past, ’s a pretty big ditor that he’s gay or bisexual.

”If you hear this kd of ment a lot, he might be attemptg to normalize his homosexual thoughts by makg them seem like nothg more than a joke. He’s homophobicIt sounds untertuive, but some gay or bisexual men will exprs homophobic sentiments.

I'M NOT GAY. ASK MY BOYIEND CAP

It’s a way of flectg spicn off of themselv and makg seem like they uld never be terted other to the way your boyiend talks about homosexualy.

Do he e hostile or sultg words to scribe gay men? Do he make jok about beg gay that cross the le om good-natured teasg to offensive terrory? If so, might be bee he’s secretly stgglg wh his own urse, there are plenty of heterosexual guys who e homophobic language as well.

He’s not terted sleepg wh youThere are lots of reasons why your boyiend might not want to have sex that don’t volve him beg secretly gay.

IS MY BOYIEND GAY?

Do he always want to know who is gay and who is straight?