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ptn__text">What mak Pete Buttigieg, who has mpaigned wh his hband, Chasten, a reassurg choice for some olr, whe, straight people, and a disturbg possibily for some queer people?</span><span class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ CaptnCred-ejegDm iUEiRd iicloT jbIJNS ptn__cred">Photograph by W McNamee / Getty</span></div></div></figure><div data-ttid="ContentHearLeadRailAnchor" class="ContentHearLeadRailAnchor-jYVcDc djtEof"></div></div></div></hear></div><div data-attribute-verso-pattern="article-body" class="ArticlePageContentBackGround-cNiFNN kbAoLA article-body__ntent"><div class="ActnBarWrapperContent-lasBkU cAHp"><div class="ActnBarWrapperComponent-cjwxLS bEeSLb"><div data-attr-viewport-monor="" class="ActnBarWrapper-dhxmQh kNjTbQ viewport-monor-anchor"><button id="bookmark" aria-label="Save this story" class="ActnBarButton-dyFOZU hQrwCF bookmark large-screen"><span class="ActnBarSendaryButtonPrimaryIn-isbvyN cAwccV bookmark-button-in"><svg class="in in-bookmark" width="24" 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Unls you are immersed this nversatn wh other queer people, you may have thought, “That’s ridiculo.” I am here to expla.</p><p class="paywall">The notn that some of thk Buttigieg is not gay enough has an intifiable relatnship to the facts, which are that, for the purpos of this discsn, people who grew up queer this untry fall to two distct tegori of experience. One is the experience of never ftg , beg bullied by classmat for the way you walk, the way you look cloth, the way you h or fail to h—all the thgs that set you apart before you have language to scribe them. The novelist and sayist Alexanr Chee <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">has wrten</a>, “In the send gra, the boys would stop me the hall to tell me I walked like a girl, my hips swchg.” Millns of people have had a versn of that experience. And then there is the other experience, the life of blendg , only to surprise your classmat—or, more likely, former classmat who follow you on social media—wh the revelatn that you are gay. I am not argug that one tegory of experience is worse or more difficult or paful than the other. There are people who revel their specialns om an early age, and there are people who f but feel tormented by their ep secret. I am sayg only that the two kds of experience are very different. Though as grownups we have more ntrol over our appearance and performance, the gap experience follows to adulthood. Recently, a iend mentned that, after thirty years of teachg, she had mentned her wife class for the first time, surprisg her stunts wh the revelatn that she was gay—and I found myself momentarily marvellg at havg the optn to e out to one’s stunts or not.</p><p class="paywall">As part of his mpaign, and velopg his polil persona, Buttigieg has repeatedly told a pellg story about his g out. His is the story of someone who blend and was therefore able—or, one might say, forced—to choose the circumstanc and timg of his g out. He chose to wa a long time: until after he graduated om llege, after he had served the ary, after he had been elected mayor. He <a href=">has ma clear</a> that he feared that, if he had e out sooner, his polil reer might have suffered.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p class="paywall">But he didn’t jt wa until he was tablished his polil reer. He also waed until after attus toward homosexualy had changed and same-sex marriage had bee legal more than half the stat and was regnized by the feral ernment—all thanks to the urage and work of people who me out before Buttigieg did. Then, 2015, he had the chutzpah to wre <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">an op-ed</a> tled “Why Comg Out Matters,” which he praised himself for “puttg somethg this personal on the pag of a newspaper.” Many a rear might have wonred, as I did when my iend mentned her relatnship wh her stunts, what mt be like to have the optn of not beg exposed.</p><p class="paywall">Aga, I am not sayg that L.G.B.T. people who don’t pass are somehow morally superr to L.G.B.T. people who do. But the two distct experienc are some ways rrelated wh two divergent tracks L.G.B.T. polics. One kd of queer polics is rooted ias of liberatn, revolutnary change, and solidary. The visn of this polics is a society that is radilly changed by many kds of people fightg many kds of jtice, a society which enomic, social, polil, and sexual relatnships have been transformed. The roots of this polics are acknowledged an <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">open letter</a> thored by a group lled Queers Agast Pete. (The letter was signed, acrdg to the anizers, by more than two thoand people.) They wrote, “We are clear that LGBTQIA people are directly and disproportnately impacted by <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">police vlence</a>, <a href=">rceratn</a>, unaffordable <a href=">healthre</a>, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">homelsns</a>, portatn, and <a href=">enomic equaly</a> among other thgs.” The strategy of this brand of polics is to work across differenc to brg about change.</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p class="paywall">The other, more mastream, and often more visible kd of L.G.B.T. polics aims to erase difference. Its msage to straight people is “We are jt like you, and all we want is the right to have what you have: marriage, children, a hoe wh a picket fence, and the right to serve the ary.” The visn of this polics is a society all rpects distguishable om the one which we live now, except queer people have succsfully and permanently blend . To be sure, all kds of queer people have been volved both kds of queer polics. But the polics of beg “jt like you” leav out the people who nnot or do not want to be jt like nventnal straight people, whether appearance or the way we nstct our liv and fai.</p><p class="paywall">Buttigieg embodi the send kd of gay experience and the send kd of gay polics. In a betiful <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">say</a> published the <em>Los Angel Review of Books</em>, Greta LaFlr, a profsor of Amerin studi at Yale, analyzed a photograph of Buttigieg and his hband, Chasten, that appeared on the ver of <em>Time</em> magaze May of last year. “This photo is about a lot of thgs,” LaFlr wrote. “But one of s fg featur is s heterosexualy. It’s offerg the promise that our first gay first fay might actually be a straight one.” <em>Time</em> had ptned the photo “First Fay.” How n a fay that nsists of two men be heterosexual? LaFlr’s e of the term is a b tongue--cheek, but she explas that the “unmistakable <em>heraldry</em> of ‘FIRST FAMILY,’ alongsi the rt of the photograph—the tulips; the Chos; the notably charmg but sistently generic porch; the awkwardly mimal touchg that vok the most unfortable, unfaiar, culturally-heterosexual embrace any of have ever received—offers a visn of heterosexualy whout straight people.” And whout women.</p><p class="paywall">Buttigieg is the ultimate ndidate of the untry’s post-2016 trma. He is not a woman. He is not a socialist. He is cidly not a revolutnary. He do not make big, sweepg promis, except one: that nothg much will change, only <a href=">Donald Tmp</a> won’t be Print. “What I like about Mayor Pete is that he is not a strong iologue,” Tod Sedgwick, a volunteer who had gone to New Hampshire to nvass for Buttigieg, told me. Sedgwick, who is seventy-one and the former U.S. Ambassador to the Slovak Republic, was nvassg wh his girliend, Christa Brown, a seventy-three-year-old muny activist om Louisville, Kentucky. Sedgwick liv Washgton, D.C.</p><p class="paywall">The uple had seen “Agrippa” at the Metropolan Opera before flyg to Boston to drive to New Hampshire. They both thought that Buttigieg’s abily to speak about his Christian fah, among other thgs, helps make him the bt ndidate. “We need Pete’s ntemporari to be leadg,” Brown said. (Her own three grown children, she add, are not as enthiastic about Buttigieg, a lennial, as she is: of the current ntenrs, they prefer Elizabeth Warren, one of the olst of the baby boomers.) Likewise, Margaret Coulter, a fifty-eight-year-old nonprof director Newport, New Hampshire, told me that she liked Buttigieg bee she was “leang toward a younger person as we move to the Inter age.”</p><p class="paywall">What mak Buttigieg an easy and reassurg choice for the olr, whe, straight people, and a disturbg possibily for the queer people who seem to be cricizg him for not beg gay enough? It is that he is profoundly, sentially nservative. 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not looking gay enough

Y'all this is a really stupid qutn but how do you thk terviewers cisn be affected by how I look? I have short hair and look p gay, so should I...

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AM I GAY ENOUGH? WHAT TO KNOW ABOUT QUEER INTY

Fd out the answer to the qutn "Am I gay enough?" And, what queer inty means to different people. * not looking gay enough *

By now, you may have heard that some queer people thk that Pete Buttigieg, the former mayor of South Bend, Indiana, and a current ntenr for the Democratic Printial nomatn, is not gay enough. ” I am here to notn that some of thk Buttigieg is not gay enough has an intifiable relatnship to the facts, which are that, for the purpos of this discsn, people who grew up queer this untry fall to two distct tegori of experience.

And then there is the other experience, the life of blendg , only to surprise your classmat—or, more likely, former classmat who follow you on social media—wh the revelatn that you are gay.

Recently, a iend mentned that, after thirty years of teachg, she had mentned her wife class for the first time, surprisg her stunts wh the revelatn that she was gay—and I found myself momentarily marvellg at havg the optn to e out to one’s stunts or part of his mpaign, and velopg his polil persona, Buttigieg has repeatedly told a pellg story about his g out. He also waed until after attus toward homosexualy had changed and same-sex marriage had bee legal more than half the stat and was regnized by the feral ernment—all thanks to the urage and work of people who me out before Buttigieg did.

'BEG GAY IS NOT ENOUGH': BUTTIGIEG'S NDIDACY DIVIS LGBTQ DEMOCRATS

G-A-Y’s members-only door policy has been slammed by punters who claim they have been turned away for ‘not lookg gay enough’. * not looking gay enough *

Buttigieg embodi the send kd of gay experience and the send kd of gay polics. It’s offerg the promise that our first gay first fay might actually be a straight one. ”What mak Buttigieg an easy and reassurg choice for the olr, whe, straight people, and a disturbg possibily for the queer people who seem to be cricizg him for not beg gay enough?

He is an old polician a young man’s body, a straight polician a gay man’s body.

S-T-R-A-I-G-H-T-GATE SNDAL: FURY AT MANCHTER’S G-A-Y BAR OVER ‘DO YOU LOOK GAY ENOUGH?’ DOOR POLICY

)Sce I started acceptg that I was queer and havg queer enunters, I have been told numero tim that, as a super femme cis woman, I'm "not gay enough. —Devan, 26It sounds like you already know this, but let me say loud and clear: There is no such thg as not beg “gay enough. ” Many people the LGBTQ muny feel the same way you do, whether they’re fellow femm who don’t “appear” gay, bisexual people hetero relatnships, gay men who don’t f stereotypil standards, and so many others.

In fact, gay people who don’t exprs their gayns wh an explicly “queer athetic” often experience what some psychologists ll “queer imposter syndrome. A uple of lumns ago, Kira, a “femme-prentg queer, ” told me about her “extremely awkward ‘look, I'm gay! What do you do if you don’t want to bee a Profsnal Femme Gay Woman?

LOOKG GAY

Reachg beyond your lol muny and fillg your social feeds wh queer folks who look all kds of ways n serve as a daily affirmatn that you are gay enough, exactly the way you are. Judged for not lookg gay enough or whatever that means.

Everyone who joed is gay which has really helped me ga iends ever sce I’ve e out. However today one person told me that I look like a twelve year old ( 17 (they/she) and that I don’t look gay enough to be gay or ever get a gf.

Is ok to be refed entry bee you're not gay enough? There is one nightclub Manchter lled G-A-Y where you n be refed entry bee you're not a "member" or perhaps don't look gay enough. Lbian, Gay, Transgenr, Bisexual, and Queer muni around the world have been gatherg at lol events to celebrate the eedom to be te to themselv and their sexual orientatn, personal exprsn, and/or genr inty.

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