Boys Gone Wild - Gay Men Who Want to Get Hazed - Nymag

Contents:

• THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY
• I WAS A GAY AT BOY. THE “HORRIFIC CINT” AT BUCKNELL UNIVERSY’S FRAN’S HOE WAS NOT AN ANTI-LGBT ATTACK
• GAY AND GREEK: THE EXPERIENCE OF BEG GAY AND A ATERNY
• MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN
• GAY MEN BLACK FRATERNI
• GAY HISTORY OF MEN’S FRATERNI
• JAGS' MAXEN IS FIRST MALE AMERIN PRO SPORTS ACH TO E OUT AS GAY
• THE 'GAY' SI OF HAZG
• FIRG OF GAY CATHOLIC SCHOOL TEACHER ULD TT LATT SUPREME COURT LG
• YOU’RE NOT BREAKG BARRIERS BY BEG GAY A ATERNY

THE SECRET GAY HISTORY OF AN AMERIN FRATERNY

At least not I most fely was not at a aterny for two stunts who attempted to attend a aterny party at the Universy of Memphis, beg outwardly gay - or for beg gay - or perceived to be gay - or mored to be gay - was a triment. But, for those few who are fervently antigay, they reprent one of two s pictg two very different double liv of some at boys and gay men on llege one si of the hate-filled at boy , you have those who nduct themselv well class, and around mp, but when they are wh their brothers and their peers, particularly at parti, that drastilly flips, revealg ugly nduct. And while we're learng about the cint at the Universy of Memphis, how many other gay stunts have been nied accs, not jt to parti, but to a secretly non-clive aterny that might have among s ranks those who sisterly mock, gra, vilify and sissify gays?

I WAS A GAY AT BOY. THE “HORRIFIC CINT” AT BUCKNELL UNIVERSY’S FRAN’S HOE WAS NOT AN ANTI-LGBT ATTACK

For most closeted gay men on mp, there exists a different one si, for example, is the shield of a football broadster, sports edor, stunt senator, the gregar partier, and on the other the shield of secln - a closeted gay stunt who don't dare reveal his te nature for fear of beg shunned by peers, and at parti. We now have prom kgs who are gay, prom queens who are drag queens, and prom queens who are simply proudly have out llegiate athlet, stunt lears and gay aterni; however, some s our openns hs a wall, and those walls are those brick-led at ho that s forebodgly on the edge of llege mp and on the edge of our n still ny. Contued exposure and g forward n help ero the lter of the two, we n only hope that someday there is ls loose change the antigay at boys piggy bank and ls ppers the closeted gay penny Casey is a PR profsnal and an Adjunct Profsor at Wagner College New York Cy, and a equent lumnist for The Advote.

Wh theater doors bolted shut for the next…foreeable future, we’re thrilled to see some Broadway talent pop up the pilot episo of Boy•Friends, a new edy based off the My Gay Boyiend web-seri.

GAY AND GREEK: THE EXPERIENCE OF BEG GAY AND A ATERNY

“So what I was thkg, ” Ohlger said, “what really me down to was, if I uld change the opn of how 60 straight at guys viewed one gay person, or the whole gay muny, while I hung out wh my bt iends and had a really good time, why wouldn’t I do ?

MY ATERNY YEARS AS AN OUT GAY MAN

“But you know you need to put up some sort of faça, ’s part of somethg that you learn growg up that most people, most gay guys do and I’ve talked to other gay guys who are the same way. Javier, who me out to his aterny brothers as an unrgraduate at Rockhurst Universy Kansas Cy, Mo., spoke about the stereotyp and perceptns that surround the Greek muny and the psychology behd why many gay stunts feel unfortable g out. “There’s been gay marriage proposals a variety of stat sce that survey, so I thk maybe that fluenc peopl’ perceptns of how they teract wh the LGBT muny, but I don’t know how much or if has at all, ” Parrz said.

Class, and the odd profsor, on his way to teach , who all knew I'd jt “shacked, ” a term ually rerved to slut-shame sorory women but which was applied jt as egregly to me, the out gay man who wasn't Greek but sperately wished he were. The sex was eher borgly heteronormative, like the top-tier aterny man who wanted me to lie there silently as he thst and out of me, leavg $50 on my nightstand as he left bee he thought I “need” , or vlently homophobic, as wh the man om the “date rape aterny” who liked to smack me the face and sp on me, remdg me what a ltle queer I am.

GAY MEN BLACK FRATERNI

I see Greek life as a system that upholds the opprsive stctural forc of racism, sexism, classism and homophobia, and my head I n nstct exactly why aterni and sorori are such pernic stutns. Worst of all, though, the shame attached to the memori of those first tim marred how I would approach sex for was listeng to Years & Years’ new song “Sanctify, ” and seeg the band’s out gay sger Olly Alexanr talk about how the song was spired his sexual trysts wh straight men, that I realized that the feelgs are way more mon than people let on. Sure, I know all about gay guys havg sex wh straight guys, but felt reassurg to see him scribe the “sat and sner role” he embodied durg those experienc, and to hear the uncertaty and melancholy weaved to the than anythg though, was the repeated lyril mantra of “I won’t be ashamed.

The Syrace Universy chapter of Theta T was spend this week after the school’s newspaper, the Daily Orange, published shockg vios of at boys makg racist, homophobic, anti-semic oaths and engagg tly plorable behavr.

The vios also clu simulatns of oral sex, masturbatn, glory hol, and dg e, and crackg homophobic jok: “Get together and [talk] about their signifint others while drkg different w and talkg gay girly accents! The weddg's lor scheme (red and whe), as well as Gay and some weddg atten holdg aloft the same hand signs (reprentg a Playboy bunny), bpoke Gay's aternal affiliatn: Kappa Alpha Psi. Stigmas attached to homosexualy may lead to gay pledg beg treated worse or harsher than normal, although most gay members don't believe that they were personally treated differently.

GAY HISTORY OF MEN’S FRATERNI

It wouldn't be surprisg to fd a sizeable portn of heterosexual black aterny members who believe that gay members should eher be expelled or have their nduct regulated (or to have gay aspirg members refed membership).

However, the same dividuals fail to nsir how a whole range of black aterny members' behavrs damage the anizatns' brand and how the "brand" argument may simply panr to the attus of homophob. This puts black aterni that (or members who) might seek to discrimate agast gay aspirg llege chapter members, for example, to nsir the implitn of such a policy on the viabily of llege chapters.

Moreover, anxieti about homosexualy wh the ranks of black aterni may have a nstrag effect on how black masculy is performed by members, fluencg issu like amic achievement, hazg and the abily of members to work together effectively on matters ternal and external to the anizatns.

JAGS' MAXEN IS FIRST MALE AMERIN PRO SPORTS ACH TO E OUT AS GAY

Obvly, there have always been iendships between gay men and straight men, but only recently have they bee more promently, and fortably, reprented TV shows, movi, books and is often a tradnally mascule sense of faiary at play the portrayals, exudg a feelg particular enough to suggt s own term: bromosexual emergg reprentatn ntrasts wh one that has bee a cliché: the nnectn between a straight woman and her gay male bt latt media reflectn also tak a signifint leap om one of s earlit eratns. From 2003 to 2007, “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” prented gay men as magil begs who functned as helpers to heterosexual men, schoolg them matters of fashn and home dér while keepg much of their own liv ntrast, the last season of “Scream Queens” found the hunky Nick Jonas prentg himself as a gay at boy who bonds over golf wh his straight aterny brother and bt iend, MenIn the recent documentary “Strike a Pose, ” about Madonna’s dance troupe om her “Blond Ambn” tour, a key plotle trac the arc of the lone straight dancer om homophobe to a man who be emotnally liberated by his many gay iends. Another Bravo seri, “Manzo’d Wh Children, ” promently featur the relatnship between the heterosexual lead brothers and their gay bt iend, who was prevly their that work’s most regnizable reprentative, Andy Cohen, who is gay, rarely miss an opportuny to toast his close kship wh the guar hero and ultimate ladi man John Cohen mentns Mr.

In one outg, durg gay pri weekend, they attend a ncert by an rnatn of a band both men love, the Grateful Cohen wrote that a iend had texted him: “if I’d celebrated gay pri any more of a straight way, I’d have had sex wh a girl at the Super Bowl.

Liaison for the district’s public schools, said the chang relatnships between straight and gay men have been so rapid that he se a signifint difference jt sce he graduated om high school. “Our tradnal way of thkg of relatnships wh gay and straight men is that they are hostile, even bullyg, ” said Michael LaSala, 57, the thor of “Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child. ”A Balm for Old Wounds“There’s a sense of a reprieve, ” said Odie Ldsey, 45, a straight fictn wrer and gulf war veteran, whose new book of short stori, “We Come to Our Sens, ” featur several gay characters.

THE 'GAY' SI OF HAZG

“That kd of csh seems really antique, ” said Lus Whehead, 29, a straight man who liv a brownstone Fort Greene populated by a revolvg mix of heterosexual and homosexual his i, he reports zero self-nscns about havg gay iends or roommat. He also found that gay and bisexual members joed a aterny for siar reasons as heterosexual members, namely to fd iendship and mararie, as a social outlet, and to have a support group and sense of belongg. The Lambda 10 Project Natnal Clearghoe for Gay, Lbian, Bisexual Fraterny and Sorory Issu was found 1995 at Indiana Universy to heighten the visibily of gay, lbian, and bisexual members of the llege aterny system by servg as a clearghoe for rourc and tnal materials.

Three years later, Out on Fraterny Row: Personal Acunts of Beg Gay a College Fraterny was the first book to look closely at the llective experience of sexual inty and aterny life.

FIRG OF GAY CATHOLIC SCHOOL TEACHER ULD TT LATT SUPREME COURT LG

This anthology chronicled the posive impact of gay and bisexual brothers wh aterny life, the llective harms of homophobia on iendship/brotherhood, and the prevalent “nial dynamic” jog a aterny–the belief that somehow by jog a aterny my “gay feelgs” will subsi. The acceptance of gay and bisexual aterny brothers is relatively greater when members jo the aterny closeted, tablish a close iendship and brotherhood, and then disclose their sexual inty.

Free of heterosexism and homophobia, the aternal environment provis a safe, fortable space for men to velop a strong sense of iendship and a balanced sexual inty—whether be gay, bisexual, or heterosexual. The men are able to ga the promise of aterny life—iendship, valuable learship skills, and a posive self-teem whout the hostily and hatred often prent toward gay and bisexual men a tradnal aterny.

YOU’RE NOT BREAKG BARRIERS BY BEG GAY A ATERNY

While gay men and bisexuals are certaly fdg more opportuni to be a part of the aterny experience, transgenr stunts will face a tougher battle, pecially if they want to jo existg aterni. As more and more people e out of the closet and at younger ag, aterny members will see an crease the number of gay and bisexual men who sire to be a part of the Greek experience (Baker 2002).