Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, QUEER, & INTERSEX LIFE
- COMPARG GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN ON SEXUAL BEHAVR, NDOM E, AND PSYCHOSOCIAL VARIABL RELATED TO HIV/AIDS
- ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
- STRAIGHT, GAY OR BI?
- BISEXUAL ADULTS ARE FAR LS LIKELY THAN GAY MEN AND LBIANS TO BE ‘OUT’ TO THE PEOPLE THEIR LIV
- ARE YOU GAY, BI, OR STRAIGHT?
- LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, AND QUEER (LGBTQ) TEENS
- IF YOU’RE ASKG, ‘AM I GAY? LBIAN? BI? TRANS? QUEER?’ HERE’S A START
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
Many young men intify as mostly straight — a sexual orientatn that is not que straight but also, they say, ls gay than bisexualy * gay vs bi vs straight *
Sexual orientatn refers to the endurg physil, romantic and/or emotnal attractn to members of the same and/or other genrs, cludg lbian, gay, bisexual and straight orientatns. As GLAAD not, "Transgenr people may be straight, lbian, gay, bisexual or queer.
A person who transns om female to male and is attracted solely to men would typilly intify as a gay man.
Sexual orientatns clu gay, lbian, straight, bisexual, and asexual.
LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, QUEER, & INTERSEX LIFE
* gay vs bi vs straight *
This means that beg transgenr (feelg like your assigned sex is very different om the genr you intify wh) isn’t the same thg as beg gay, lbian, or bisexual.
People who’re attracted to people of the same genr often ll themselv gay or homosexual. Gay women may prefer the term lbian. Many asexual people feel romantilly attracted to people — so they may intify as asexual, and also as gay, lbian, bisexual, or straight.
We hear a lot about the Big Three Sexuali — straight, bisexual and gay. If you’re a young man, you might assume that eher you’re straight or you’re not, meang you’re likely gay and maybe bisexual.
COMPARG GAY AND BISEXUAL MEN ON SEXUAL BEHAVR, NDOM E, AND PSYCHOSOCIAL VARIABL RELATED TO HIV/AIDS
Interviews were nducted wh 750 men, reced om a variety of sourc Chigo, who reported sex wh men the past 3 years. Behavral creria were ed to tablish groups of gay and bisexual men. We predicted that gay men, pared to bisexual men, would report more male sexual partner … * gay vs bi vs straight *
Yet the evince suggts that more young men intify or scribe themselv as mostly straight than intify as eher bisexual or gay bed. Yet when the men were forced to choose between straight, bisexual or gay, about three-quarters marked straight bee for them bisexual, even if is unrstood as “bisexual-leang straight, ” is too gay to accurately scribe their inty. Tradnally, our unrstandg has been that if you’re male and have even a slight attractn to the same sex, then you mt be gay.
He knows he’s not gay, but straight wh a dash of gayns. But how much gayns? He’s not transng toward intifyg as bisexual or gay.
He’s not a closeted gay man who fears beg gay yet wants to keep a slight, perhaps secretive, gay si by danglg his potential for guy sex. He may retreat om a full intifitn wh heterosexualy, but rarely do he gravate toward bisexualy, and almost never do he move toward homosexualy of any sort.
ABOUT THE CENTERSCE 1983 THE CENTER HAS BEEN SUPPORTG, FOSTERG AND CELEBRATG THE LGBT MUNY OF NEW YORK CY. FD MORE RMATN ON AND OUR WORK ABOUT THE CENTER. VIS ABOUT THE CENTEROUR MISSNCYBER CENTERCENTER HISTORYRACE EQUYMEDIA CENTERLEARSHIP & STAFFEMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNICORPORATE PARTNERSHIPSANNUAL REPORTS & FANCIAL INFORMATNCONTACT USHOURS & LOTNSEMAPSUPPORT THE CENTER
LGBTQIA+ is an abbreviatn for lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr, queer or qutng, tersex, asexual, and more. The terms are ed to scribe a person’s sexual orientatn or genr inty. * gay vs bi vs straight *
It is Mostly Straight: Sexual Fluidy Among Men, not Mostly Straight: Sexual Fluidy Among Gay Men.
In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi? Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay.
STRAIGHT, GAY OR BI?
More often than not, he’s not gay or even bi. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men.
A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me? Am I gay?
And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay. That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay. So how do you terme if a man is or isn’t gay?
BISEXUAL ADULTS ARE FAR LS LIKELY THAN GAY MEN AND LBIANS TO BE ‘OUT’ TO THE PEOPLE THEIR LIV
Most gay or bisexual men will say y. ” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way. Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women.
Another thg that I look for is homophobia. When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic.
ARE YOU GAY, BI, OR STRAIGHT?
Intertgly, ’s the gay men who are homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist.
A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.
LBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENR, AND QUEER (LGBTQ) TEENS
A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist. And that’s too gay for them anyway.
The gay man is dog this bee ’s his sexual inty.
IF YOU’RE ASKG, ‘AM I GAY? LBIAN? BI? TRANS? QUEER?’ HERE’S A START
Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out. But the gay man r. So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met.