How to Pick Up Gay Men: Buildg Confince & Makg a Move

Contents:

• 8 OPENLY GAY BILLNAIR
• ARE GAY MEN REALLY RICH?
• JAGS' MAXEN IS FIRST MALE AMERIN PRO SPORTS ACH TO E OUT AS GAY
• GAY RICH MEN
• GAY MONEY
• KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY
• KEN HAS ALWAYS BEEN BARBIE’S GAY BT FRIEND—NOT HER BOYIEND
• THE MYTH OF GAY AFFLUENCE NOT EVERYONE IS FABULOLY WEALTHY
• RICH GAY, POOR GAY
• ONLE DATG GAY GUYS MATCH
• IS THE BODYBUILDG INDTRY GAY FOR PAY? BODYBUILDG TROLL VCE GOODM TAK SHOTS AT NICK TRIGILI
• STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
• GAY DADDY DATG
• TOP 13 COUNTRI WH BIGGT GAY POPULATNS
• WHY STRAIGHT MEN ARE GOG ‘GAY FOR PAY’ ON MERA

8 OPENLY GAY BILLNAIR

He also vted Facebook and asked for his opn on why more CEOs aren't openly gay, Thiel said, "A lot of the bs are global reach, and when you have ctomers all over the world, be a qutn of ‘Will they hold that (beg gay) agast you? Lee BADGETT: One possibily is a gay person says, well, I know I’m gog to face some stigma and discrimatn the labor market, maybe my bt fense agast havg an e disadvantage is to get a lot of tn.

That gay men are more affluent, probably bee they’re more highly ted, and bee they’re much ls likely to have kids, which means they have the money to live really nice neighborhoods. DUBNER: Okay, so if the Cens don’t ask directly about sexual orientatn, how do we know what we’ve been tellg you about – that, for stance, gay upl earn about 20 percent more than straight upl? Badgett says that, while her data may not be so great eher, appears that if you took two observatnally equivalent men — same background, same tn, and so on – that the gay man would earn ls than the straight man, not more.

In fact, earlier this year, Badgett and two -thors released a Williams Instute study which found that gays and lbians are more likely to live poverty than observatnally equivalent heterosexuals. BLACK: I thk there is some good evince that gay men do take occupatns that are, you know, they look more female like, and of urse female occupatns tradnally pay a ltle b lower so that uld expla a part of . Now, aga, keep md, an analysis like this reli on self-intified gay men who live wh a same-sex partner but, among that group, a gay man was about 16 tim more likely than a straight man to teach prchool or krgarten.

ARE GAY MEN REALLY RICH?

And I spect that that differential treatment between the gay and the straight applints is likely to be seen other ways, if we uld actually study this further to the employment procs. So when we ask a private, veiled way, people are more likely to adm that they would be unfortable havg a gay manager, or that they thk ’s okay to discrimate agast gays and lbians.

JAGS' MAXEN IS FIRST MALE AMERIN PRO SPORTS ACH TO E OUT AS GAY

BLACK: Well uld have negative effects on enomic out the sense that particular I thk givg greater accs to adoptn on the part of gay and lbian upl might duce them to suffer, if you will, the nsequenc of havg children, and of urse achieve the obv benefs to havg children as well. Billnair have exprsed their allegiance for their gay dghters and sons fancially: hedge fund billnaire Pl Sger has given more than $10 ln to support marriage equaly – his gay son, Andrew, tied the knot – while Progrsive surance’s Peter Lewis, recently ceased, donated $250, 000 to the Gay & Lbian Victory Fund 2008, as my lleague Clare O’Connor noted. Of urse, some untri are more equal than others terms of gay rights, which might expla why natns wh the send- and third-hight number of billnair – Cha, 152, and Rsia, 111 – do not list a sgle LGBT billnaire.

-- Jaguars assistant strength and ndng ach Kev Maxen has bee the first male ach major Amerin men's profsnal sports to publicly e out as gay, tellg he ma the cisn bee he didn't want to hi who he is any longer and to possibly spire others siar 's a cisn and move that drew praise and support om owner Shad Khan, who was a vol and emphatic supporter of a cy ordance that expand protectns on the grounds of sexual orientatn, genr inty and genr exprsn. Geffen was also part of the mpaign agast California's antigay Proposn 8; spe the efforts of Geffen and others, voters approved the anti-marriage equaly measure, but was later stck down urt.

GAY RICH MEN

) But the statistil evince for discrimatn as a e of lower gay is weak at bt, and of urse falls down pletely the se of lbians, who, most studi agree, have higher than straight femal. Per Outsports, Maxen is the “first publicly out male ach a major Amerin men’s pro sports league, ” wh WNBA ach Curt Miller, who publicly me out to the media as gay 2015, also a publicly out male ach an Amerin profsnal sports league.

The film won’t say , but a post-creds punchle about Ken’s handwrg, plete wh hearts and stars surroundg his name, tells what we need to heavily implied nature of Ken’s gayns Toy Story 3 harkens back to Hollywood’s tradnal gay bt iend-type characters. In the Hays Co era, explic referenc to homosexualy weren’t allowed, so characters like Van Buren (Frankl Pangborn) 1937’s Easy Livg, Kip (David Wayne) 1949’s Adam’s Rib, or Addison (Gee Sanrs) 1950’s All About Eve stead were imbued wh effemate characteristics, offerg a glimpse outsi of heteronormativy whout explicly beg of the characters were the same—some were tty, others sweet.

In movi like Mean Girls (2004), The Devil Wears Prada (2006), Easy A (2010), No Strgs Attached (2011), and Isn’t It Romantic (2019), gay iends exist entirely the orb of their female iends. As a rult, gay men bought the doll drov, and spe Mattel ultimately rellg the doll and wipg away any trace of Earrg Magic Ken, was near-impossible to see Ken as anythg but the glor homosexual he was born to be om then on.

GAY MONEY

While there is no way to “drs gay, ” there are several dolls that seem to suggt otherwise, such as:Fashnista Ken #193, who looks very exced to tell you about his new obssn, Troye Sivan;Travel Ken Doll, who has a satchel perfect for bathho and a purple overnight bag that lerally proclaims he’s “extra;”Ken Looks Doll, servg “I’m gonna give you a makeover”-type realns while sportg black pleather pants;This Ken, who wears the least heterosexual double nim I have a feelg the new Barbie movie will put the work to nvce that Ken is a hetero du who lov nothg life more than Barbie herself, the wrg’s already on the wall: Ken is, and always will be, Barbie’s gay bt obssg!

KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

" This is not whout danger: a few years ago, a proment and secretly gay 55-year-old New York real tate lawyer, David Schwartz, was stabbed to ath by an 18-year-old street htler a seedy Bronx motel room. "There's always gog to be a small segment of the populatn -- gay or straight -- who are terted much younger partners, " says Kev Neil, director of Metro Teen AIDS, a Southeast Washgton service center for young people sufferg om the disease. Cunanan was "a jewel the crown of La Jolla's closeted society, " says Ramirez-Murray, social lumnist for the cy's Gay and Lbian Tim, bee the young man uld hold a nversatn on nearly anythg -- polics, antiqu, w, Elton John.

Some olr men feel unable to go to the gay clubs that attract the youngt crowd bee "there's this perceptn that olr gay men are gog after young boys and the mute an olr man go near a young man, they're brand as pedophil, " says Neil, the Metro Teen AIDS director.

KEN HAS ALWAYS BEEN BARBIE’S GAY BT FRIEND—NOT HER BOYIEND

Some of the young men are products of poor ral or urban muni which homosexualy is still kept unr wraps, boys who e to the big cy and fd both fancial support and sexual license om olr men who seem to know the rop. Harris -- whose book is at tim nostalgic for the separate and secretive gay culture that arose om rejectn and reprsn -- believ the sugar daddy-gigolo relatnship will gradually vanish om the gay scene. The myth of ultra-rich gay men and the six-packs who love them or the geo L Word power lbians stompg around Wt Hollywood, San Francis and New York movg and shakg looms large, partly bee some of the folks do exist and partly bee their story is so darn mediagenic.

We prise a diverse swath of rac, creeds, lors, religns, socenomic reali and subcultur – hello Dyk on Bik, Theater Queens, Bears, Otters, Hipsters, Gym Bunni, Gay Dads, Heather Mommi and (gasp!

THE MYTH OF GAY AFFLUENCE NOT EVERYONE IS FABULOLY WEALTHY

Buyg to the stereotype that all gay people are rich (or at the very least, upper middle class) is about as accurate as sayg that The Real Hoewiv of Beverly Hills reprents all the straight married women Southern California. – I’m nvced that when a polician says he/she wants an issue to be cid by the stat, ’s spels weenie for, “I’m actually a ragg racist/sexist/homophobe/advote of firearms pre-schools but don’t want to go on rerd explicly sayg .

– While I hate to enter to a ‘whose pa worse’ pissg match, I n say wh nfince that whatever gays and lbians experience terms of the above is a kewalk pared to the discrimatn and outright mistreatment transgenr dividuals face every day. The qutn is this; if we are among those lucky enough to lead marveloly privileged gay liv–for whom hunger only signifi disfort at the end of a six-day juice fast–do we owe to our impoverished brothers and sisters to help?

"It's a microsm of a broar shift, of the slow seepage of gay culture to mastream culture, " said Andrew Sullivan, the gay wrer, who bought a small apartment here years ago when real tate was more affordable. Patrick Lamerson, a high school teacher Boston who has been g to Provcetown for nearly 10 years, said that the rift town was ls between rich and poor than "between gays who need muny and gays who don't.

RICH GAY, POOR GAY

" And those who don't, he said, will probably prevail the end and the Provcetown that he has known will go the way of other bohemian bastns that had their moment and then any event, he said, gay Provcetown has had a good, long n. Vce Goodm, a YouTuber whose b simply reads “The First Ever Bodybuildg & Fns Inter Troll Of The Indtry, ” lled out Generatn Iron on his YouTube channel for mors that ntributor Nick Trigili was volved gay for pay schem spe not actually beg gay. While rearchg for this piece, we spoke wh many people unr anonymy who were surprised to see how many knew of bodybuilrs havg gay for pay sex pag onle wh other men but sistg they were straight.

“I am happy to dispel any mors or misnceptns and am que proud to say that I am a very ntent gay man livg my life to the fullt and feel most fortunate to be workg wh wonrful people the bs I love, ” he said an exclive statement to People. Thanks to the shownners drivg thentic stori, filmmakers buckg s-old heteronormative paradigms, actors embolned to live more hontly and platforms bankrollg so much of , beg gay, queer, transgenr or any other other has never been more wily embraced the entertament s gural Pri issue, The Hollywood Reporter homed on the talent and makers helpg boost visibily and creatg opportuni for members of the extend LGBTQ muny.

After more than a of Watch What Happens Live Wh Andy Cohen, where he beme the first openly gay host Amerin late night, Bravo's exec turned talent tackl all kds of media (SiriXM show Rad Andy, multiple books), while upliftg and advotg for the LGBTQ muny. Puttg his stamp on The Ln Kg — he played Timon to great acclaim the billn-dollar-earng Disney reboot — the out-and-proud funnyman will next play Matt Ddge  Amerin Crime Story: Impeachment while his upg Judd Apatow-produced feature at Universal is set to be the first gay rom- om a major stud.

ONLE DATG GAY GUYS MATCH

Creator of the NBC s One Big Happy and her own YouTube talk show This Jt Out, Feldman recently ma her Netflix edy outright queer, as Dead to Me's sophomore season revealed a lead character to be bisexual. In 2019, the bisexual actor uld be seen as French New Wave in Jean Seberg Venice premiere tle Seberg, as a secret agent Sony's Charlie's Angels reboot and on a particularly gay episo of SNL.

The queer Salvadoran edian translated the handful of breakout Saturday Night Live scen he wrote to multiple als at HBO — where he buted the edy special My Favore Shap  2019 and is readyg season two of Los Espookys, the half-Spanish, half-English, entirely absurd edy which he stars as the gay heir to a cholate fortune.

IS THE BODYBUILDG INDTRY GAY FOR PAY? BODYBUILDG TROLL VCE GOODM TAK SHOTS AT NICK TRIGILI

After 45 seasons, 's hard to believe there are any firsts left for Saturday Night Live — but Yang arrived at 30 Rock 2019 as the st's first Che Amerin stmember and only s third openly gay male. It may appear quat now, when we have TV seri like Hulu’s Love, Victor (about a Latx teen explorg sexual fluidy) or Netflix’s Bondg (about sex work and alternative sexualy), but the great gay panic set off by Ellen DeGener g out on her s 1997 was a bombshell that didn’t necsarily nvce the works that they’d open the gat to LGBTQ experienc.

STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS

Luckily Will & Grace buted 1998 and the groundbreakg NBC seri nvced many that gay people might not be so toxic (and wouldn’t sre off advertisers) — so much so that Vice Print Joe Bin later creded wh changg his md about same-sex marriage. Dpe the fact that lns of Amerins wnsed two men raise a happy and healthy dghter om the fort of their livg room sofas, took a fan mpaign to lobby Disney-owned ABC to fally allow Mchell (gay actor Jse Tyler Fergon) and Cameron (straight actor Eric Stontreet) to kiss ( fally happened 2010).

GAY DADDY DATG

From the Roy Cohn-flected Army-McCarthy heargs — which was the first time many people heard the word “homosexual” uttered on TV — through the “don’t ask, don’t tell” Neti, that clud The Goln Girls and Digng Women, to our current glter-and-glam era of RuPl’s Drag Race and almost-anythg-go pansexualy. In that way, ’s breakg siar ground to the Sundance Now seri This Close, om af actors Shoshannah Stern and Josh Feldman, about a straight woman and gay man who are bti lookg for love and unrstandg.

And while the seri received as much hate mail as adoratn — an evable byproduct of beg the first show to have openly gay male lead characters — lasted eight seasons before endg 2006. It was Cher-lovg Jack (Sean Hay) and alholic, right-wg sociale Karen (Megan Mullally) as much as Will (Eric McCormack) and Grace (Debra Msg) that enared Amerins to the sassy s, wh l like: “Commandment number one the gay bible: Thou shalt not vet my ex’s ass. Adapted om gay director Jt Simien’s breakout film of the same name, about black llege stunts g to terms wh a “post-racial Ameri, ” the seri explor them of race, genr, and sexualy by skewerg jt about everyone for hypocrisy and double standards.

In the send season, he manag to evolve beyond simple trop and is given space to explore his queer inty, cludg havg his heart broken by Silv (a self-scribed “Mexin Italian gay vers top otter pup”), fdg a boyiend (of sorts), and even beg rejected by another black man bee of his sk lor — provg that, spe all the talk of “muny, ” ’s never easy to fe lastg bonds. When her straight male roommate’s twentysomethg girliend, Francis, qutns why Leila is so terrified to tell anyone that she has sex wh both men and women, Leila tells her ’s plited bee ’s “a gay thg.

TOP 13 COUNTRI WH BIGGT GAY POPULATNS

Matilda has high-functng tism, and some of the bt scen revolve around her explorg her fluid sexualy, while both girls embrace their gay half-brother’s relatnship failur as send nature.

Pl, managed to change many nservative viewpots the black muny — cludg Timbaland, who crafted the seri’ tchy origal tracks — and was a rare moment which a gay character of lor had so much visibily. The bt of the volv Otis’ gay bt iend Eric (Ncuti Gatwa), which is ls a tradnal g-out story (everyone already seems to know when the show begs) than about Eric beg more fortable how he feels about himself and how he prents himself to the world. But there are a lot of other smart stori on LGBTQ subjects, om the technil (a gay virg learns the logistics of anal douchg) to the emotnal (former bt iends don’t work as a uple after both e out) — so many, fact, that ’s a b easier to five when one of the seri’ queer storyl (volvg a homophobic bully) don’t really work.

K., who was technilly still an executive producer at the time — but one of the most important them is Tig tryg to fd a gay muny this part of the world where she feels fortable, and the growg csh she’s velopg on her apparently straight rad producer Kate (played by Notaro’s wife, Stephanie Allynne). Holm), hers some of origal-recipe Rob’s most memorable obssns and quirks — among other thgs, Simon is the one who giv the speech about patibily pendg on what you like, not what you are like — even as his story is very different, startg wh the fact that he and the new Rob break up bee he’s gay.

WHY STRAIGHT MEN ARE GOG ‘GAY FOR PAY’ ON MERA

The entire n of this lightful throwback s has queer-iendly ntent, but particularly s first season (still streamg on Netflix, even though the latt season was ma for Pop), which slowly but refully charted the journey of Elena (Isabella Gomez), a Latx teen g to the realizatn that she’s gay, and gradually disverg how to tell her very Catholic fay about . And the fale’s most powerful subplot, he says the words “I’m gay” aloud — a first not only for him, but for a teen televisn character (and one played by an out actor Wilson Cz). While parts of may not have aged so well, the seri ntaed lots of TV firsts — cludg the first legally wed gay uple, first gay adoptn, and HIV-posive/negative uple — wh -stars Hal Sparks, Peter Paige, and Stt Lowell explorg what meant to have relatnships and stggle for acceptance.