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Contents:

• GAY LONDON, LGBTQ+ CLUBS AND EVENTS
• THE 30 BT GAY BARS NYC
• THE 50 BT GAY SONGS TO CELEBRATE PRI ALL YEAR LONG
• THE 10 BT GAY MILS OF ALL TIME
• DUMBLEDORE IS SO GAY!
• HOW TIME’S REPORTG ON GAY LIFE AMERI SHAPED—AND SKEWED—A GENERATN’S ATTUS
• HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
• COMG OUT GAY STEP-BY-STEP
• GAY
• RACG TO PRERVE THE HISTORY OF MAE’S 1ST GAY RIGHTS ANIZATN

GAY LONDON, LGBTQ+ CLUBS AND EVENTS

After Barclay cis to e out as gay at his school’s big pep rally, he is faced wh unexpected hostily, be at odds wh his team and don’t have his grandfather to turn to as he did before. While both discsg their experienc growg up gay small towns, the nversatn eventually led to Time Out.

1 athlete the state e out as gay and what effect that would have on the team, the school, the town, the state and most important, his personal relatnships, ” they said.

THE 30 BT GAY BARS NYC

In that spir, TIME is publishg this article by Eric Marc, thor of Makg Gay History. Over lunch one afternoon at our kchen table, wh the latt issue of TIME turned to an article about Ana Bryant’s succsful mpaign to repeal a gay-rights bill Da County, Fla., I raged over the jtice of both Bryant’s assertn that gay people were a danger to children and the wardly legislators who ved to prejudice and ignorance.

Unknowgly, my red-faced outrage offered another clue to my mother that there was more than a ltle self-tert at stake for me the fate of the gay civil-rights movement. June 20, 1997 TIME article about Ana Bryant’s mpaign to repeal a gay-rights bill Da County, Fla. It wasn’t until more than a later, when I began rearchg an oral-history book on what was then lled the gay and lbian civil-rights movement, that I realized that TIME magaze had also played a role shapg how my mother thought of homosexuals — and how she’d e to view her teenaged gay son.

THE 50 BT GAY SONGS TO CELEBRATE PRI ALL YEAR LONG

In my rearch, as I stggled to ga an unrstandg of why people saw homosexuals as sick, sful and crimal, I stumbled on a 1966 say TIME that jt about burned the sk off my face as I read . I thk was meant as a medatn on what to make of the then-growg visibily of gay life Ameri. The media those years, as is most often the se today, reflected society’s prevailg views about homosexuals.

THE 10 BT GAY MILS OF ALL TIME

Back then, homosexualy was still nsired a treatable mental illns, sexual relatns between two people of the same sex uld get you arrted almost every state, and thoands — perhaps tens of thoands — of gay men and lbians had been hound out of feral employment sce Print Eisenhower signed an executive orr 1953 banng them om ernment jobs.

DUMBLEDORE IS SO GAY!

In New York, a state law about “disorrly” nduct was terpreted as makg illegal to serve known homosexuals alhol, and the police routely raid gay bars.

The now-celebrated 1969 Stonewall uprisg — triggered by a police raid of the Stonewall Inn gay bar — which is beg marked this month by 50th anniversary celebratns, march and protts, got a particularly pungent headle the New York Daily News: “Homo Nt Raid, Queen Be Are Stgg Mad.

HOW TIME’S REPORTG ON GAY LIFE AMERI SHAPED—AND SKEWED—A GENERATN’S ATTUS

” The Village Voice, an alternative downtown newspaper, published an article the immediate aftermath of the first night of rtg which the reporter ed a slur to refer to the uprisg’s participants, earng the Voice, jt days after the start of the uprisg, one of the first public protts that would e to characterize the newly ant era of “gay liberatn. 31, 1969, ver story was headled “The Homosexual: Newly Visible, Newly Unrstood.

And yet the picture the article pated of the “newly unrstood” homosexual was still drippg wh sarsm and ntempt.

HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY

One sectn of the report noted several “typ” of homosexuals: “The Blatant Homosexual, ” “The Secret Lifer, ” “The Dperate, ” “The Adjted, ” “The Bisexual, ” “The Suatnal-Experimental. ” After scribg the different tegori, the wrer not: “The homosexual subculture, a semi-public world, is, whout qutn, shallow and unstable. ” Although that ver story also said some paratively nice thgs about homosexuals, is any wonr members of the newly formed Gay Liberatn Front and the Dghters of Bilis (an anizatn for lbians found 1955 San Francis) picketed the Time-Life buildg after s publitn?

COMG OUT GAY STEP-BY-STEP

When I told my mother eight years later that y, I was gay, she jt looked at me wh a blank stare.

In tth, I was a prsed gay teenager who feared that his life was ed bee of this one, immutable flaw. ” I’d e to unrstand om the rearch I’d done the Vassar College library that parents of gay children often felt that was their own flt (also thanks to TIME and all the other news outlets and so-lled experts who blamed homosexualy on a domant mother and passive father).

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Even before my mother asked me that fateful qutn, TIME had published a ver story on Leonard Matlovich, who was challengg the ban on gay people servg the ary.

RACG TO PRERVE THE HISTORY OF MAE’S 1ST GAY RIGHTS ANIZATN

That and subsequent ver stori — the 1997 Ellen DeGener “Yep, I’m Gay” ver or the 2014 Laverne Cox ver about transgenr civil rights, for example — helped rhape a posive way how people like me thought of ourselv and how the rt of the world saw .

Marc and his mother at the 1993 March on Washgton for Lbian, Gay, and Bi Equal Rights and Liberatn.

My mother me around, too, and by the early 1990s was an activist her own right, volunteerg to lead a support group for gay men whose partners had died om AIDS and helpg found the Queens chapter of PFLAG (once known as Parents, Fai and Friends, of Lbians and Gays). Eric Marc is the thor of Makg Gay History: The Half-Century Fight for Lbian and Gay Equal Rights and the founr and host of a podst of the same name. When down to , there is no reliable "Am I Gay tt", so the only way to know that you are gay (fn of gay) is to look wh yourself to terme your own thoughts and feelgs towards others of the same sex.

You might also want to nsir the possibily that you are neher gay nor straight and are bisexual or jt cur. There is no one way that gay people act or look – gay people are jt as diverse as straight people. Jt bee you are a man who is effemate or a woman who is boyish, that do not mean that you're necsarily gay.

When lookg at the signs you are gay, you might want to ask yourself the qutns:1. There is no need to sh to a cisn or tell anyone about your exploratn or e out gay. And if do turn out that you are gay, remember that there is nothg wrong wh beg gay – is jt part of who you are.