My "Sad Gay Story"-- And Why I Tell It

Contents:

• GAYNGST
• FROM THE 'EVIL QUEEN' TO THE 'SAD LBIAN,' 'WHE LOT' ED MANY GAY TROP. WHY DIDN'T RAISE ANY RED FLAGS FOR SOME FANS?
• A LBIAN RPONDS TO GAY TV TROP
• CURE YOUR GAYS
• MY "SAD GAY STORY"-- AND WHY I TELL IT

GAYNGST

Characters sufferg om gayngst are prone to alholism and other forms of substance abe, self-loathg, Self-Harm, rampant homophobia towards themselv and others, rejectn by homophobic fay members, fallg tragic unrequed love wh heterosexuals, ntemplatg (and often mtg) suici, and wishg that they were straight.

FROM THE 'EVIL QUEEN' TO THE 'SAD LBIAN,' 'WHE LOT' ED MANY GAY TROP. WHY DIDN'T RAISE ANY RED FLAGS FOR SOME FANS?

Gayngst is a Pet-Peeve Trope of many bee while ually portrays gay people sympathetilly and addrs an issue many gay people Real Life go through, n be terpreted as sayg that 's impossible to be gay whout beg miserable, or that gay people don't serve Happy Endgs, or at s very worst and most eptly-handled, gay relatnships are nately disastro. If the story wants an upliftg tone, the character will eventually e to terms wh their sexualy, have the obligatory Comg-Out Story, and eher live Happily Ever After wh their love tert or morph to some other gay archetype (ually Straight Gay or Lipstick Lbian; eher this is their natural personaly or they still have some lgerg secury).

Dependg on how they're played, n be a Sub-Trope of Bullied to Deprsn, Why Couldn't You Be Different?, Internalized Categorism, Boomerang Bigot, and You Are What You Hate, and a Super-Trope of Inpatible Orientatn, Armoured Closet Gay, Out of the Closet, Into the Fire, Homophobic Hate Crime, and Gayngst-Induced Suici. Sayaka Saeki is mostly ntent wh beg gay, even though her feelgs for Too go unrequed, but took que hard when her senpai at her old school broke up wh her and apologized for makg her like gays, due to seeg homosexualy as a "phase" (which is actually a pretty monly held belief Japan; see Gay Romantic Phase for more tails).

Averted spe the explic Inpatible Orientatn on Outlaw Star; Fred Luo is perfectly fortable wh his nature as a Camp Gay merchant and even though he profs his undyg love for Gene Starwd, he's perfectly aware of the fact the heterosexual Gene don't reciprote and fact seems to enjoy teasg him by flirtg. Probably the most extreme example of gayngst Milk Moraga's work would be Miu's angst about her feelgs towards Fujiwara Secret of the Prcs, which nearly rults her jumpg off their school buildg's roof before Fujiwara talks her down. His suatn is even worse an alternate realy where he never left Mars: the people of his village shun him for his homosexualy and force him to live the hospable wilrns, and they eventually try to kill him by burng down his home, mortally woundg his lover the procs.

A LBIAN RPONDS TO GAY TV TROP

The disntued Chick Tract "Wound Children", f this to a T (although is also full of Narm), bee of his views of homosexualy Chick's tracts on the subject had the msage "There is nothg gay about beg gay" before shiftg to "Those who support or tolerate homosexualy are evil". They have several stanc of Unrolved Sexual Tensn and Distracted by the Sexy until she dnkenly tells Megane her feelgs, but that mak Vicky realize that she n never be happy sce her parents are homophobic and clearly stated they wouldn't hate to disown her if she was gay ('s actually the only thg they still agree on). Gay superhero uple Midnighter and Apollo were created to avoid this trope like the plague, wh pecially Midnighter beg a very "out and proud" Manly Gay but his lover/hband Apollo also beg pletely unnflicted about his sexualy.

CURE YOUR GAYS

Als wh Jenny's bt iend Terry and her gradual realizatn that she's homosexual, engagg wh this trope the procs — particular, Terry at one pot tearfully pleads wh Zot to know whether, his Utopian superheroic 'world of the future! A Magil Eveng has que a lot of this, wh Sofia and Lucda beg terrified for much of the early chapters of what will happen if Sofia’s fay fds out about their relatnship and Hilgard and Cl beg closeted while havg homophobic parents, somethg Cl adms was hell.

However, Le gets more secure about when he has a nightmare where his brothers beat him up while shoutg homophobic slurs, his mom cri over havg a gay son (he's bisexual but they don't see the difference), and his dad angrily throws him out of the hoe, while Lka is helpls to stop all. In the Hannah Montana fic "Thirst", when Miley realis that she's love wh Lilly she spends time agonisg over how her fay will react, rellg such past stanc as her father sayg nothg about an cint where a boy back Nebraska was beaten up for wantg to take another boy to prom or Jackson always lghg at gay jok.

Lampshad As Good as It Gets, when straight Melv (Jack Nicholson) asks gay Simon (Greg Knear) after all the horrible thgs that have happened to him if he thks his life would have been easier if he were straight, which Simon to ask back: "Do you nsir your life easy? In Mar (2018), Mar and Leon suffer homophobic bullyg om their Associatn Football teammat, which clus gay porn taped si Mar's locker, a pk dildo left his shirt, and a letter sent to his dad that says, "Your son sucks dicks stead of srg goals.

MY "SAD GAY STORY"-- AND WHY I TELL IT

In a meta sense, however, this trope was subverted; not only is there somethg of a happy endg for Trevor, but the film beme the basis of The Trevor Project, a suici preventn hotle for LGBT+ youth, givg people wh their own gayngst to al wh a place to go to for help. Acrdg to Word of God, Dumbledore om Harry Potter is gay and his rather bad experience wh his iend Gellert Grlwald was actually somethg of a romance, on Dumbledore's part anyway ('s never been said whether Grlwald was gay or not) that end up wh his sister gettg killed and a lifelong rift between Dumbledore and his brother.