Straight Women and Their Gay Hbands | Psychology Today

Contents:

• MY HBAND IS GAY: A WOMAN'S GUI TO SURVIVG THE CRISIS
• MY HBAND IS GAY: A WOMAN'S GUI TO SURVIVG THE CRISIS
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
• HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY
• IS MY HBAND GAY? 10 SIGNS THAT CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
• MY HBAND IS GAY
• IS MY HBAND GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BI‪?‬
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• MY HBAND IS GAY (268 RULTS)

MY HBAND IS GAY: A WOMAN'S GUI TO SURVIVG THE CRISIS

”—om MY HUSBAND IS GAYCarol and Jim were high school sweethearts who married their early twenti. Thirty years and two children later, Jim announced to his wife that he was homosexual. In an effort to sort out her pa and nfn, Carol Grever sought out other heterosexual women, of all ag, ethnici, and tnal backgrounds, who were married to gay men.

5 reviews1 followerApril 19, 2021Not what I expectedI thought that this book would give me guidance on what to look for spectg my hband is gayDisplayg 1 - 3 of 3 reviews.

95 (176pp) ISBN 978-1-58091-089-7After 30 mostly happy years of marriage, Carol Grever's hband told her that he is gay. As she disvered, the phenomenon is relatively mon, bee many gay men believe they are at enomic or social risk if they don't marry.

MY HBAND IS GAY: A WOMAN'S GUI TO SURVIVG THE CRISIS

In My Hband Is Gay: A Woman's Survival Gui, Grever shar her story and those of 25 other women of varyg ag and backgrounds. Thank you for your tert my book, My Hband Is Gay: A Woman's Gui to Survivg the Crisis.

When a hband tells his wife he's homosexual, the rultg crisis affects their entire fay. My Hband Is Gay tails regnizable stag of the healg procs, om ial shock to eventual rolutn.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

The book is tend primarily for heterosexual women who are, or have been partnered wh gay men, but is also eful for fai and iends of those mixed orientatn marriag. My Hband Is Gay is clud on the remend readg lists of ternatnal support group works, such as the Straight Spoe Network (SSN), Parents, Fai and Friends of Lbians and Gays (PFLAG), and Children of Lbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE). My Hband Is Gay was first published the Uned Stat by The Crossg Prs (Ten Speed Prs) 2001 and was distributed many other English-speakg untri.

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HOW TO COPE WHEN YOUR SPOE COM OUT AS GAY

This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi? Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay.

More often than not, he’s not gay or even bi. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men. A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me?

IS MY HBAND GAY? 10 SIGNS THAT CAN HELP YOU FIGURE OUT

And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay. So how do you terme if a man is or isn’t gay? ” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way.

'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN

Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. Another thg that I look for is homophobia.

MY HBAND IS GAY

When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. Intertgly, ’s the gay men who are homophobic. The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist.

A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them.

IS MY HBAND GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BI‪?‬

So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay. A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist.

The gay man is dog this bee ’s his sexual inty.

Even if he’s nfed and don’t want to e out as gay, this is who he is and over time that will e out.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

So this is a way of bondg wh men—ironilly, through sex—and happens not bee the man is gay but bee he don’t know any other way to get this need met. And then they ask me if this mak them gay.

It’s not gay or straight, ’s jt your an. Then I tell them that a lot of gay men don’t do anal at all, eher givg or receivg.

If the man is gay, the relatnship has ls of a chance of survival. The reason is that the guy really is gay and he wants to exprs that sexually and romantilly. Eher they’re worried that their man will eventually ci he’s gay and end the relatnship, or they want monogamy, and his cheatg is a threat to the marriage regardls of who he’s dog wh.

MY HBAND IS GAY (268 RULTS)

And I should pot out here that the men when they’re engagg this behavr (regardls of whether they’re gay, straight or bi) nearly always tell themselv that what they’re dog is not cheatg bee they’re dog wh a guy.

Then you disver that your spoe or partner is, fact, gay.