'Accept' and 'Tolerate' My Gay Kid? That's Not Good Enough | HuffPost Voic

Contents:

• THE STORY BEHD THE INIC PHOTO OF GAY DADS KISSG
• MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX
• YOUNG GAY MEN KISSG STOCK PHOTOS AND IMAG
• WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?
• IS YOUR CHILD GAY?
• 'ACCEPT' AND 'TOLERATE' MY GAY KID? THAT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH
• DISNEY HAS S FIRST GAY KISS
• IS BARBIE GAY AND WHY IS THE NEW MOVIE RATED PG-13?
• MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI
• GAY KISS
• HOW GAY UPL TV MERCIALS BEME A MASTREAM PHENOMENON
• HOW DO I DISCS BEG GAY WH MY 8-YEAR-OLD?
• CHILDREN OF LBIAN AND GAY PARENTS
• CHARLIE KIRK CLAIMS DISNEY IS TRYG TO MAKE YOUR CHILDREN GAY
• GAY ‘KISS-S’ SMACK MORMON CHURCH

THE STORY BEHD THE INIC PHOTO OF GAY DADS KISSG

(Photo by Roberto Machado Noa/LightRocket via Getty Imag)Pacific Prs via Getty ImagA Filipo woman ss on a rabow flag wh her child durg a Gay Pri event Quezon Cy, east of Manila, Philipp, 2015. (Photo by Tabatha Fireman/Getty Imag)JACK GUEZ via Getty ImagAn Israeli girl ss on a relative's shoulrs wavg the rabow flag, the ternatnal symbol of gay pri, durg the annual Gay Pri para along the streets of Tel Aviv on June 6, 2008. (Photo by Gee Panagakis/Pacific Prs/LightRocket via Getty Imag)NurPhoto via Getty ImagKids are rried over the shoulrs of their parents durg the Annual Gay Pri para Tel Aviv on June 12, 2015.

MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

In the fall of 1982, Bghman’s attentn was ught by a small notice, almost missed, the Village Voice, an alternative newspaper New York Cy, for the monthly meetg of the Gay Fathers’ Fom support group. Wh a few weeks of the article, Robert was beg set up to be fired for beg gay, but he had wisely set the stage to protect his job by garnerg support om the chairman—a black man, who also unrstood what workplace discrimatn meant. Gay 3-year-old boys n’t verbalize their sire to be wh a man when they grow up—although many such children exhib cshlike behavr toward adult men—but they may be tryg to learn the behavr that will later attract a male partner.

YOUNG GAY MEN KISSG STOCK PHOTOS AND IMAG

So on the basis of some earlier, shakier rearch, along wh a good dose of mon sense, Bailey and Zucker hypothized that homosexuals would show an verted pattern of sex-typed childhood behavrs—ltle boys preferrg girls as playmat and beg fatuated wh their mother's makp k; ltle girls strangely enamored of field hockey or profsnal wrtlg—that sort of thg. Although only 12 percent of the women grew up to be genr dysphoric (the unfortable sense that your blogil sex do not match your genr), the odds of the women reportg a bisexual or homosexual orientatn were up to 23 tim higher than would occur a general sample of young women.

Bailey and Zucker, who nducted a retrospective study which adults answered qutns about their past, revealed that 89 percent of randomly sampled gay men relled cross-sex-typed childhood behavrs exceedg the heterosexual median.

There is also evince of a “dosage effect”: the more genr-nonnformg characteristics there are childhood, the more likely is that a homosexual or bisexual orientatn will be prent adulthood.

WHEN DO GAY KIDS START “ACTG GAY”?

Cross-cultural data show that prehomosexual boys are more attracted to solary sports such as swimmg, cyclg and tennis than they are to rougher ntact sports such as football and soccer; they are also ls likely to be childhood bulli. Bee the data often reveal very early emergg tras prehomosexuals, children who show pronounced sex-atypil behavrs may have more of a geic loadg to their homosexualy, whereas gay adults who were sex-typil as children might trace their homosexualy more directly to particular childhood experienc.

Lang, Elton John and Rachel Maddow's close relativ, but I n only image that the straight k are far better off terms of their own reproductive opportuni than they would be whout a homosexual danglg so magnificently on their fay tre. So cultivate your ltle prehomosexual's native talents, and your ultimate geic payoff uld, strangely enough, be even larger wh one very special gay child than would be if 10 medcre straight offsprg leaped om your los.

I n say as a once prehomosexual pipsqueak that some preparatn on the part of others would have ma easier on me, rather than nstantly fearg rejectn or worryg about some rels slipup leadg to my “exposure. And another thg: mt be pretty hard to look to your prehomosexual toddler's limpid ey, bsh away the okie cmbs om her cheek and toss her out on the streets for beg article was origally published wh the tle "Is Your Child Gay? I cherish the good stori, but there's often a moment those good stori that mak my heart hurt: when they tell me how happy they are that their parents "still" love them -- bee all those kids knew that not lovg them was an policians there is a lot talk of "acceptance" and "tolerance" when to homosexualy, and I n't help but thk that those are the wrong words.

IS YOUR CHILD GAY?

Lovg someone but hatg the fact that he or she is gay would be like lovg someone but hatg the fact that he or she has arms or what about those parents who do "accept" and "tolerate" their gay children? " When we cherish and celebrate who our children are, then maybe the sred gay kids this untry will stop worryg about whether their parents will "still" love them and will simply know they are loved unndnally.

'ACCEPT' AND 'TOLERATE' MY GAY KID? THAT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH

Ratburn and his (unnamed) hband got married a highly anticipated episo of Kids/YouTubeArthur has been a rnerstone of PBS Kids sce 1996, but 2019, the show featured s first gay character... Ma characters they are not, but we love to see LGBTQ+ fai and, hontly, we didn’t realize how much we were missg gay zebras until Chip and Potato, rated TV-Y, on Ltle Pony: Friendship Is MagicSotaloo is raised by a lbian uple, Aunt Holiday and Auntie KenneyMy Ltle Pony: Friendship Is Magic follows the adventur of unirns, pegasi, and poni throughout Equtria, where they solve problems and, ocsnally, battle the forc of darkns, cludg the Cutie Mark Csars, Apple Bloom, Sweetie Belle, and Sotaloo.

DISNEY HAS S FIRST GAY KISS

It’s a show about figurg out who you are, and that clus Cys, one of Andi’s bt iends, who out as gay Season years after Cys me out on the show, Joshua Rh, who played Cys on the show, me out on Twter as bisexual. While there are some mor gay characters on the show, ma character Jeff is beg raised by two moms, EJ (voiced by Lea DeLaria) and Sue (voiced by Tig Notaro) one pot the seri had unnamed gay characters kissg (the b is funny, though the edy isn't their kiss).

IS BARBIE GAY AND WHY IS THE NEW MOVIE RATED PG-13?

”Stream Twelve Forever, rated TV-PG, on FayMchell and Cam were among the first proment gay parents a KenneyWhen Morn Fay premiered 2009, Cam and Mchell were among the few gay ma characters on a work s (and, let’s be hont: ’s still not mon).

But all is well and, throughout the seri, while their gay inty is sometim a plot pot, more often they’re jt another fay on the the most part, the plotl wrten for Cam and Mchell uld easily be wrten for a straight uple. But addn, gay and lbian teens often al wh an extra layer of strs — like whether they have to hi who they are, whether they will be harassed about beg gay, or whether they will face stereotyp or judgments if they are hont about who they are.

Such a photograph would have been extraordarily rare jt s ago, but now is one of many published the book “Dads, ” a four-year visual archive of gay fatherhood across Ameri that began 2016. “I felt a ltle b lonely as a gay dad – although there are two of – but lonely the sense that all the other fai I knew were straight parents, ” Heynen said a vio ll, explag why he began photographg the seri.

MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI

Hosted by Wt Hollywood uple Yan and Alex, the dads e each episo to chat parentg and relatnships, and lately have been focg each episo on the gay rights and fatherhood pathways by untry, and vg a gay father om each lotn on as a gut. There are still a lot of nservativ who fight back agast the characters, storyl, and scen – which is upsettg, but very an effort to celebrate the moments, we’ve put together a list featurg some of our favore gay kissg scen om film and televisn.

1987’s Mrice featured a very subtle and tentative – but still inic – gay kiss between Clive (Hugh Grant) and Mrice (Jam Wilby) durg a time when queer romance wasn’t at all somethg we expected to see on the big screen.

Although this was not the first lbian kiss on the show, was the first not done to thwart creepy men htg on Warrr Prcs Durg the 1990s and 2000s, viewers excedly watched actrs Lucy Lawls (Xena) and Renee O'Connor (Gabrielle) lock lips on several ocsns, all while wonrg if the two were gay or not. However, a recent episo ma headl for featurg TV's youngt gay kiss history: It occurred between teenage characters Ju and & Grace Classic edy Will & Grace had dienc cheerg durg a 2000 episo when Will and Jack locked lips.

GAY KISS

Wh that over wh, now there have been plenty of kiss sce and a same-sex weddg, of Our LivAlthough late to the party, NBC's Days of Our Liv aired s first gay kiss 2012, between Will (Chandler Massey) and Neil (Jse Kristofferson). LookgAs the HBO dramedy centered on gay men, had no shortage of same-sex kissg, but the kiss between protagonist Patrick (Jonathan Groff) and Kev (Rsell Tovey) had the extra forbidn air -- Kev was not only partnered, he was Patrick's is the New BlackWe uldn't have this list and not feature the impet for ! There are many lovely lbian kiss on this show, but how about when Piper (Taylor Schillg) fally giv to her attractn to Alex, the no-good ex who helped land her ItThe entire MTV show may be foced on the fx lbian relatnship of Karma and Amy, but 's De and Shane who live out every gay teen's wet dream.

Connor and Oliver are the clear power gay uple, but was revealed that Annalise Keatg is attracted to both sex and has a stunng ex-girliend (Famke Jansen) to To Get Away Wh MurrIt's an absolute necsy to clu law stunt, Connor (Jack Falahee), and his boyiend, Oliver (Conrad Rimora) on this list. EmpireAlthough there isn't any vio footage available of the gay kiss between Jamal Lyon (Jsie Smollett), Empire's heir, and his boyiend Michael (Rafael la Fuente), the picture explas all.

Chucky is changg the horror game once the latt, fifth episo of the Chucky TV seri, Jake, the 14-year-old gay protagonist got his first kiss, and uldn't have happened a better and his iend Devon have been gettg closer all season, dancg around their feelgs. Remember, we’re talkg about velopg children here, about kids who have not yet e to puberty (or, who have jt e to puberty), and now some of their favore TV characters are actg out their homosexual sir, makg for a whole new kd of role mol. I’m aware, of urse, that gay-intified kids still get bullied many schools across the natn, but I’m also aware that many other schools, g out as gay is seen as ol or even the thg to do.

HOW GAY UPL TV MERCIALS BEME A MASTREAM PHENOMENON

This was nfirmed to me by a very liberal md middle school teacher who told me about a 12-year-old boy who me out as gay her class, only to e to her the next day and say, “I thk I ma a mistake. Add to all this the fluence of “Gay Straight Allianc” middle schools and high schools, where kids are enuraged to “e out” to peers and faculty whout their parents even knowg about , upled wh the fluence of Hollywood, the Inter, and aggrsive pro-gay school curricula, and ’s all too easy for kids the formative years to bee even more nfed about their sexualy.

One study I read found that roughly 25 percent of young teens terviewed thought that they might be gay, but 10 years later, the number of those who intified as gay was one-tenth that amount. Although 's not meant as an stctnal vio, the curly haired duo go at is slowly and diligently, teachg all those awkward smoochers--gay or straight, male or female--how to do 's mmerizg and better than any porn we've seen recently s abily to aroe.

We've e a long way recent years when to real, thentic pictns of gay love on-screen, and while same-sex kiss are still fairly new when you nsir the overall history of Hollywood and media, there's still a whole lot of gay love, specifilly gay kiss, to watch and choose om.

HOW DO I DISCS BEG GAY WH MY 8-YEAR-OLD?

Man took all the guswork out of tryg to e up wh the bt gay kiss of all time and piled a handy list of the top 100 that clus the lik of the Osr-wng 2016 Barry Jenks film Moonlight, Timothee Chalamet and Armie Hammer's Call Me by Your Name, Showtime's long-nng Shamels, Netflix's cult-favore Sense8, and so many more beloved movie and televisn tl. The same-sex kiss first ma headl last month, when Pixar animators spoke out agast Disney an open letter obtaed by Variety, sayg that rporate executiv had mand cuts "om nearly every moment of overtly gay affectn. But was later rtored light of Disney's "Don't Say Gay" ntroversy, when was revealed the pany had donated roughly $200, 000 to Republin policians who supported the bill, which forbids discsns of sexual orient elementary school classrooms.

CHILDREN OF LBIAN AND GAY PARENTS

"Other live-actn Disney films have relegated queer characters to the background, like a blk-and-you'll-miss- kiss between two women "Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker, " or the "exclively gay moment" of Josh Gad's LeFou dancg wh another man "Bety and the Beast. But as much as I thought was adorable, I also dread moments like the, bee as the father of a gay child, the only thg that really worri me is other people's potential reactns to him: Will he say or do the wrong thg to the wrong person?

Televisn ads aren’t as important the digal marketg age as they were a generatn ago, but some ways they reprent a fal ontier of mastream cultural acceptance for gay equaly, acrdg to several marketg experts who specialize helpg major rporatns sell products to the gay muny.

CHARLIE KIRK CLAIMS DISNEY IS TRYG TO MAKE YOUR CHILDREN GAY

Weck, the LGBTQ market expert, has seen the spendg power of gay, lbian, bisexual and transgenr Amerins uptick slightly om about $790 ln 2012 to more than $800 ln to date by his own timat. Heterosexual Milliennials’ overall fort beg around gay and lbian dividuals dropped om 53% 2017 to 45% 2018, acrdg to the latt rults of the annual Acceleratg Acceptance report missned by GLAAD and rried out by Harris Insights & Analytics. " The qutn of why is lled gay is a whole different story, but the good news is that when you don't know the answer to a qutn, is perfectly fe to simply say, "You know, I don't know the answer to that!

" Some parents may fear that if they tell their younger children that "gay" is what means when people of the same genr are attracted to each other that they will be forced to answer qutns about sexual relatns between same sex upl, but my experience that is rarely the se - don't occur to most kids that age to ask. To date, however, there is no evince that the velopment of children wh lbian or gay parents is promised any signifint rpect relative to that among children of heterosexual parents otherwise parable circumstanc. Havg begun to rpond to heterosexist and homophobic qutns posed by psychologil theory, judicial opn, and popular prejudice, child velopment rearchers are now a posn also to explore a broar range of issu raised by the emergence of different kds of gay and lbian fai.

' | Cred: Pixar News that Disney had removed s first on-screen same-sex kiss me amid reports that the pany had donated large sums of money to Florida policians supportg the "Don't Say Gay" bill, which stat, part, that nversatns around sexual orientatn and genr inty "may not occur krgarten through gra 3. Public opn studi over the 1970s, 1980s, and 1990s routely showed that, among large segments of the public, lbian, gay, and bisexual people were the target of strongly held negative attus. The associatn of HIV/AIDS wh gay and bisexual men and the accurate belief that some people held that all gay and bisexual men were fected served to further stigmatize lbian, gay, and bisexual people.

GAY ‘KISS-S’ SMACK MORMON CHURCH

Dpe the persistence of stereotyp that portray lbian, gay, and bisexual people as disturbed, several s of rearch and clil experience have led all mastream medil and mental health anizatns this untry to nclu that the orientatns reprent normal forms of human experience. Helpful rpons of a therapist treatg an dividual who is troubled about her or his same sex attractns clu helpg that person actively pe wh social prejudic agast homosexualy, succsfully rolve issu associated wh and rultg om ternal nflicts, and actively lead a happy and satisfyg life.