Why do people break up? The sad tth is that ’s easier to fall love than to stay love. Did you know that 70 percent of straight unmarried upl break up wh the first year? This is acrdg to a longudal study by Stanford soclogist Michael Rosenfeld who tracked more than 3,000 people, married and unmarried straight and gay upl sce 2009 to fd out what happens to relatnships over time. The study found that after five years there was only a 20 percent chance that a uple will break up and that figure dwdl by the time they have been together for ten years. The qutn is, why do so many upl break up wh a year or two? Experts say there are ne key reasons for why this happens.
Contents:
- GAY RELATNSHIP BREAKUP CAN BE PROBLEMATIC. HERE’S HOW TO AVOID THE RISKS
- 5 TIPS FOR GETTG OVER YOUR FIRST (GAY) BREAKUP
- HOW TO SURVIVE (AND W) A GAY BREAKUP
- GAY BREAKUPS: WHEN THE RABOW ENDS
GAY RELATNSHIP BREAKUP CAN BE PROBLEMATIC. HERE’S HOW TO AVOID THE RISKS
* first gay relationship breakup *
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Obvly, 's not jt gay men or lbian women who get their hearts broken right out of the gate.
However, there are unique ltle twists when 's your first gay romance that gets s bubble burst. It's enough to e you to beele back to the closet and curl up wh the dt bunni, mothballs and yterday's fashns, and never reveal your gay self to anyone aga. Gay, straight, bi, pan, or whatever, we're all virgs until we're not.
5 TIPS FOR GETTG OVER YOUR FIRST (GAY) BREAKUP
Straight or gay, we've all got luggage om past relatnships eher wh our old partners, parents, siblgs, school csh or even lleagu.
If you learned nothg else om breakg ee om the closet, remember that bottled up emotns and pent up anxiety didn't make you gay; only prevented you om beg your te gay self. Ok, you n have a few hetero members too, but there's somethg to be said for kibzg wh other guys or ladi who have been tryg to unver the Holy Grail of datg as a gay man or a lbian.
HOW TO SURVIVE (AND W) A GAY BREAKUP
At s re, love is love, but there is fely somethg unique about the homosexual experience. Us gays, wh our propensy for the dramatic, might wish that when a relatnship ends we'd bee Dty's Child and emerge om the tear-staed sea, cked mo, reborn strong and pennt "Survivor"-style, but realistilly you're gog to be a plete fuckg begs are predictable creatur.
Tl;dr - experienced my first gay breakup a month ago and feel stupid for not beg over . ” (The first openly LGBTQ+ doll, Gay Bob, was released 1977. “I do rell the male Mattel signer—who was married wh several children and workg on the project—sayg to me: ‘They will turn Ken gay wh this doll!
And the answers he has found—at least those he has mtered so far (the study is ongog)—are pretty chart below shows how the likelihood of breakg up chang as time go by for straight and gay upl, both married and are obv patterns, of urse. Both straight and gay married upl are far ls likely to separate than their non-married same-sex married upl, the break-up rate falls om roughly 8 percent for those who have been together for 5 years to unr 1 percent for those who have been together for at least 20 years. Unmarried upl on the other hand, both straight and gay, have much higher break-up rat—even when they have been together for more than twenty is ltle to be surprised about here.
GAY BREAKUPS: WHEN THE RABOW ENDS
Notice how steep the curve is for both straight and gay upl early percent of the unmarried upl who had been together for ls than 2 months durg the first wave of Rosenfeld's study were no longer together when he checked up aga the followg year.
Over the first five years, the rate falls by roughly 10 percentage pots each year, reachg about 20 percent for both straight and gay upl. And the rate ntu to fall until about 15 years , when levels off for both—at jt over 10 percent for gay upl and roughly 5 percent for straight Well, 's fairly straightforward.
It's mon for gay men to rema iends wh their ex-boyiends; ci for yourself if this is somethg that you would be able to do, and if so, allow yourself some time and space first to grieve. Rzepczynski, The Gay Love Coach.