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Contents:
- HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
- A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’
- SAVAGE LOVE: I AM A LONELY, AGG GAY MAN; WHAT SHOULD I DO?
- GAY, MIDDLE-AGED, AND LONELY AS HELL
- ON BEG OLR, GAY, SGLE, MALE AND LONELY: PART 2
- GAY PEOPLE 'AT RISK OF A LONELIER OLD AGE'
- SO GAY = OLD AND LONELY?
HOW TO COPE WHEN YOU'RE GAY AND LONELY
Advice on how to nont ageism the gay muny spe earlier loss and how to avoid beg alone. * old gay and lonely *
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A GAY MAN AT MIDLIFE PONRS BEG LONELY AND ‘INVISIBLE’
I am a gay man my late 50s and have never been a relatnship. I am so lonely, and the paful empts I feel is beg absolutely unbearable. * old gay and lonely *
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SAVAGE LOVE: I AM A LONELY, AGG GAY MAN; WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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GAY, MIDDLE-AGED, AND LONELY AS HELL
Above all, try to remember we’re lucky we’ve gotten to see and live through our middle years; so many of our loved on did different do you thk agg our society is for gays vers straights? Hobb is a reporter for HuffPost and recently wrote a mi-book-length piece tled “Together Alone: The Epimic of Gay Lonels.
” Durg his rearch, Hobb found that, spe growg legal and social acceptance, a worryg percentage of gay men still stggle wh prsn, anxiety and suicidal iatn. “LAG isn’t the only gay guy who has aged out of the bar scene—so have I—and stggl to fd sex and pannship away om alhol and right swip, ” said Hobb. I see others, gay and straight, havg long-term relatnships, gettg engaged, gettg married, and mak me sad and jealo.
ON BEG OLR, GAY, SGLE, MALE AND LONELY: PART 2
“At every age, every study, gay men are ls likely to be partnered, habg or married than our straight and lbian unterparts. In our lifetime, the gay muny has ma more progrs on legal and social acceptance than any other mographic group history.
GAY PEOPLE 'AT RISK OF A LONELIER OLD AGE'
Still, even as we celebrate the sle and speed of this change, the rat of prsn, lonels and substance abe the gay muny rema stuck the same place they’ve been for s. Gay people are now, pendg on the study, between 2 and 10 tim more likely than straight people to take their own liv.
SO GAY = OLD AND LONELY?
In a survey of gay men who recently arrived New York Cy, three-quarters suffered om anxiety or prsn, abed dgs or alhol or were havg risky sex—or some batn of the three.