An Army sergeant asks how to troduce his girliend to a married gay uple, one of whom is an officer.
Contents:
- BT GAY DATG APPS FOR HOOKUPS, RELATNSHIPS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN
- IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
- HOW TO INTRODUCE A MARRIED GAY COUPLE
- GAY COUPL CAN TEACH STRAIGHT PEOPLE A THG OR TWO ABOUT ARGUG
- GAY MALE UPL FACE MORE CHALLENG, HIGHER STS TO START A FAY
- GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
- 36 BT WEDDG GIFTS FOR GAY COUPL TO CELEBRATE THEIR WONRFUL RABOW LOVE
- AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
BT GAY DATG APPS FOR HOOKUPS, RELATNSHIPS, AND EVERYTHG BETWEEN
Alternate headle: “Science Confirms That Gays Are Better at Yearng Than Everyone Else.” * gay couple or friends *
It’s a time-honored queer tradn to yearn for our most timate iends, and a new study has nfirmed that gays, ed, do Jay Gatsby-que pg better, along wh jt about everythg else. They started hostg weddgs after their own venue told them — the week of their weddg — that would not acmodate a gay uple. A 2019 Gallup poll found that 63% of rponnts believed gay marriage should be regnized as valid — and 93% thought that gays and lbians should have equal rights terms of job why do the phenomenon of misreadg same-sex upl as "jt iends" persist?
Adam Blum, founr and director of the Gay Therapy Center, said that disfort around upl beg misread n stem om an issue of validatn. "I thk to undo the impacts of a homophobic world, 's very healthy for most queer people to have at least one timate iendship wh a queer person who's gonna support you and miserate and validate and share their own same experienc, " Blum said.
IS IT GAY HBAND? LBIAN WIFE? OR WHAT?
Apps like Grdr, HER and even OKCupid n help when you've already dated all the gay people you know. * gay couple or friends *
Boomg|Is It Gay Hband? 27, 2012Every other Tuday, Steven Petrow, the thor of “Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lbian Manners, ” (Workman, 2011), addrs qutns about gay and straight etiquette for a boomer-age dience. " I am a straight man my 50s, and most same-sex upl of my age group e “partner” to refer to each other although younger gay male iends speak of their “hbands” wh lbian upl routely g “wife.
Given today’s crazy-quilt mix of state marriage laws (ma even more so by the Electn Day victori for gay weddgs), ’s no wonr you are nfed about how to refer to our signifint others.
HOW TO INTRODUCE A MARRIED GAY COUPLE
Follow a gay uple’s lead as to how to refer to one spoe. And when doubt, “partner” ually satisfi everyone. * gay couple or friends *
The other day I heard about a recently married gay man who mentned his “hband” passg to a woman of a certa age (meang ours! It’s tertg to me that you rrectly intify the generatnal difference among your gay, lbian and bisexual iends (two snaps for payg attentn! ) and I’ll bet you’re likely to rell when other terms were vogue — “longtime pann” was obuary for “gay” – and back the day the sexually suggtive “lover” was the mon moniker for many a practil level what I suggt dog is listeng to how a uple troduc or refers to each other.
For stance, I recently overheard a gay iend a long-term relatnship refer to his better half as his “spoe” only to hear one of the straight folks ask him mut later what kd of work his “iend” did.
I’d love to see Endora st a spell on Congrs and get to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which prohibs Feral regnn of gay and lbian weddgs (and ni more than 1, 100 benefs like Social Secury for survivg spo or hospal visatn rights). If you need advice about gay/straight suatns or issu (geared to a boomer-aged dience), send them to Mr. Related: Bt Gay Movi Streamg on NetflixTo make sure the movi liver all the passn, fatuatn, urtship and flirtatn you may be cravg, our remendatns only clu movi where romantic relatnships are ont-and-center—which means such LGBTQ+ gems as, say, Can You Ever Five Me?
GAY COUPL CAN TEACH STRAIGHT PEOPLE A THG OR TWO ABOUT ARGUG
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Fire Island (2022)Pri and Prejudice leans to pri Spa Night and Driveways director Andrew Ahn's magnificent rom- (wrten by star Joel Kim Booster) that loosely adapts Jane Aten for gay mec. Love, Simon (2018)You may never fd a film more quietly revolutnary than Love, Simon, the first-ever Hollywood stud-released picture centered on a gay teen.
GAY MALE UPL FACE MORE CHALLENG, HIGHER STS TO START A FAY
Gay male upl often face an expensive journey to parenthood, wh surrogacy or adoptn their primary choic. Workplace fertily benefs often fall short. * gay couple or friends *
Stranger by the Lake has so much on s bra that would be entirely rctive to jt label a "gay movie. The platiffs the Obergefell se – a gay uple – were, every way asi om their same genr, ngent wh what most Amerins unrstand a married uple to be. They marshaled evince showg that a gay or lbian uple had the same abily to love, be timate and raise children.
24, 2013Every other Tuday, Steven Petrow, the thor of “Steven Petrow’s Complete Gay & Lbian Manners” (Workman, 2011), addrs qutns about gay and straight etiquette for a boomer-age dience.
Send qutns for Civil Behavr to Dear Civil Behavr: I’m a sergeant the Army, and my girliend and I are to meet wh a married gay uple (he’s an officer). ” This year, thanks to the Supreme Court’s double punch June — guttg the feral Defense of Marriage Act and dismissg California’s Prop 8 — the floodgat have opened and gay upl are shg to take advantage of this momento time.
GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
’ ”Ined, etiquette n sometim seem like a strajacket (“do this, not that”), but also sets out protol, as this suatn, that simply mak for fewer missteps or fx that said, I know om iends and my own recent marriage that changg monikers tak some gettg ed to — by both gays and straights. For stutns still adaptg to openly gay service members, the chang etiquette mt seem head-spng ed.
36 BT WEDDG GIFTS FOR GAY COUPL TO CELEBRATE THEIR WONRFUL RABOW LOVE
Or a way to addrs nflict that is specific to gay men? While there is not much rearch to draw om, the studi that do exist suggt that, on average, same-sex upl rolve nflict more nstctively than different-sex upl, and wh ls are always exceptns, and even the healthit of gay upl are not ntually baskg a rabow-hued utopia. They have problems jt like everyone they did not, “I’d be out of bs, ” said Rick Miller, a psychotherapist Boston who works wh gay and straight upl.
Likewise, is unfair to lump all straight upl together, and disgenuo to suggt that they are not pable of argug a healthy bee male and female same-sex upl each have different strengths that help them endure, we n all learn om them, Miller are some nstctive methods to handle disagreements, as observed by rearchers of gay upl:Use humor to fe angerCrackg a joke the midst of a heated moment n backfire, but when done properly, “ almost immediately releas the tensn, ” said Robert Rave, 45, who liv wh his hband, David Forrt, Los ced a recent r trip where Forrt, 35, ed humor to help end an latg argument over whether they should rely on Google Maps. “Gay and lbian upl were gentler raisg issu, far ls fensive, and ed more humor than heterosexual partners, ” said John M. A 2018 study suggted that when members of a same-sex uple try to fluence one another, they are more likely to offer enuragement and praise rather than cricism or lectur when pared to different-sex mdful of each other’s emotnal needsUnlike gay men, women who are married to women are “nstantly monorg each other’s emotns and needs and rpondg to them — but they are dog for each other, so ’s reciproted, ” said Debra Umberson, Ph.
Umberson, who has studied gay upl for more than a . More about Christa CaronA versn of this article appears prt on, Sectn D, Page 4 of the New York edn wh the headle: When Gay Coupl Argue, It’s Different. "Why gay male upl face higher stsAlon Rivel, left, wh his fay.
AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
"As I grew up, I realized I was gay, " said Rivel, 34. He and his hband believed that "this is plete discrimatn on the surance pany's part bee we are gay men.
This all got me thkg about my own iendships and those of my gay male clients.