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For gay men, ‘stanng’ – beg a super fan of – female pop stars n be a valuable part of your inty. But too often this fandom laps to misogyny and body shamg * dark side gay *

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But gay men and the women they worship are ually happy to bask the mutual affectn. This year, Spears was honoured wh an award by the US’s Gay and Lbian Alliance Agast Defamatn (Glaad) for promotg equaly.

Scratch lightly at the surface and what flak off is, y, reciprocy and genue affectn, but also llo theory of the gay fan-diva lk is that of shared opprsn – gay men and women are both ground unr the wheel of hetero-patriarchy.

But there was nothg knowg the way another gay fan photoshopped an umbrella to his meet and greet photo wh the unwtg star and later circulated onle. The actns have a distct edge of mockery, the air of a joke that their subject is not Michael Bronski, a Harvard Universy profsor and the thor of books on queer history and gay culture says “There is a long history of gay male fan culture latchg onto famo women and then turng on them. ”The love-hate dynamic of gay stan culture that Bronski scrib is now largely mediated through social media.

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Sami Baker is 21 and a self-profsed gay stan – his favour are Gran, Beyoncé and Charli XCX. The language ed wh this culture is taken om the same place that Drag Race gets s lexin, namely the unrground subculture where LGBT people pete var drag and performance tegori, documented the film Paris is Burng, and an spiratn for Madonna and Beyoncé many gay men, Baker and myself clud, gay pop stan culture is the distillatn of everythg meangful life. Photograph: LogoTVIt is hard to overtimate how meangful the fan-diva relatnship is for gay men.

Wh hours, stan Twter had unearthed and circulated crimatg tweets by Kiyoko om ne years ago (when she was 18) an attempt to “ncel” her – excludg a person entirely om onle disurse, except as the target of hate mem – for darg to crique a song they Adam Byrne, a 23-year-old gay stan, this was a prime example of gay misogyny: “They didn’t re what she had to say.

”For him, this behavur typifi gay stan culture: female artists mt obey the l or suffer the nsequenc. ’ Look at the smug tweets about Nade Coyle ncellg her tour; the way Katy Perry beme gay Twter’s punchg bag.

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Perhaps, this ntext, ’s unsurprisg that gay men seem to revel the perceived setbacks and shortgs of their stanned subjects. The behavur is ls like a playful poke the ribs, and more like a slap the last week, sger Mara Diamandis – an idol of the gay muny – tweeted back to a fan who is part of the gay stan muny after he sent her an abive tweet.

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Even when gay men aren’t rag outright abe on the women, their praise n sometim reveal different forms of misogyny. Though is ed figuratively to imply flawlsns, is revealg that a word historilly ed to police female physily has naturally evolved the gay male vernacular.

Ined, “skns” is jt one of many hyper-feme tras that gay men seem to prize our stanned women.

Helen Moynihan, 23, is a self-intifyg queer woman who says the stanng of Ariana Gran exemplifi precisely what is problematic about gay male idolatry. “Often I thk gay men only see bety hyper-feme, not butch, women, ” she says.

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”Gran’s bldg highlighter, swgg ponytail and heels are ubiquo hallmarks of the gay stan hall of fame.

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