Why Straight Women Are Attracted to Gay Men | Psychology Today Uned Kgdom

Contents:

• WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
• GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• OP-ED: WHEN STRAIGHT GUYS TREAT GAY GUYS LIKE WOMEN, IS IT PROGRS?
• THE GAY VOICE
• BEG A GAY WOMAN – LABELS AND STEREOTYPG
• WHY ARE SO MANY GAYS AND LBIANS ATTRACTED TO SAME-SEX PEOPLE WHO LOOK LIKE THE OPPOSE SEX?
• WHY ARE THERE GAY WOMEN?

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN

In many ways, gay men and straight women are a perfect pairg. For the most part, relatnships between gay men and straight women are healthy and posive, wh one exceptn I'll get to later. In the vast majory of s, relatnships between gay men and straight women are platonic.

Sure, an ocsnal teenage girl falls for a boy who's gay, but don't take most girls very long to figure out that, this se, where there's smoke, there's most fely not fire. In general, the attractn women feel for gay men tends to be emotnal nature, clearg the way for a highly satisfyg relatnship that outlasts most other relatnships gay men and straight women have. To beg, I'll addrs how and why straight women are emotnally attracted to gay men—an attractn, by the way, that is returned by gay men spas.

GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?

Reasons women may be attracted to gay men. First, bee most straight women don’t feel sexual toward gay men, the relatnship don’t rry the threat of sexual tensn.

Send, straight women love gay men bee closens wh gay men provis a wdow to how the mds of men work, somethg that women want to know as they navigate datg waters wh their straight male peers. Though there are, of urse, differenc between straight and gay men, gay men are neverthels men who share many characteristics and motivatns wh straight men.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

When to the sexualy of young straight and gay men—meang, how equently they thk about sex, want , or feel impatient to get to the actual sex part—there are undoubtedly siari. When a straight woman hangs out wh a gay man, she begs to put the puzzle together that men, general, treat sex differently than women do.

Fally, straight women love gay men bee they are emotnally attracted to the fearlsns and lack of self-nscns gay men.

In general, gay men, and gay women, too, tend to be more fearls than their straight unterparts—particularly straight men—bee they’ve ually experienced bullyg and prejudice bee of their sexual orientatn. The experienc fortify gay men wh thicker sk. As out adults, gay men ually learn to accept themselv and stop tryg so hard to w the approval and acceptance of others.

OP-ED: WHEN STRAIGHT GUYS TREAT GAY GUYS LIKE WOMEN, IS IT PROGRS?

Siarly, the iendship of gay men offers somethg different than the pannship of straight men.

THE GAY VOICE

Meanwhile, gay men have the social license to be as outrageo or emotnal as they want to be bee gay men don't have to f to such a tightly prcribed role. As I mentned at the begng, not all relatnships between straight women and gay men are healthy. While not the majory, some straight women love gay men for different reasons.

The group of women I’m referrg to are often lled "f*g hags, " a term that manag to be rogatory toward two groups: women and gay men.

The term "f*g hag" refers to a woman, ually her 20s or 30s, who lov htg the gay bars wh her gay male iends.

BEG A GAY WOMAN – LABELS AND STEREOTYPG

Instead, they feel more fortable removg the sexual factor that exists at straight bars and prefer the harmlsns that wh socializg wh gay men gay surroundgs. This type of relatnship is often unhealthy, wh women choosg gay men as iends for superficial reasons: bee they're more fun and love to shop.

Siarly, their gay male iends often treat their female iends as social accsori until the men fd a guy to hook up wh up later the night. Overall, the relatnships between straight women and gay men are special, wh the ocsnal negative exceptns. If straight women and gay men foc on fdg iendships where there's te emotnal patibily and rpect, they n velop one of the most rewardg relatnships a person uld have.

WHY ARE SO MANY GAYS AND LBIANS ATTRACTED TO SAME-SEX PEOPLE WHO LOOK LIKE THE OPPOSE SEX?

To answer your qutn plaly wh the rmatn that you’ve shared, ’s likely that some gay men do have sexual relatnships wh women to hi their te orientatn, due to fear of g out. Ined, there are gay men who feel prsured to mask their sexualy bee of cultural, faial, relig, or personal beliefs that beg gay is wrong. It's also possible that someone who intifi as gay may want to have sex wh someone of another genr.

WHY ARE THERE GAY WOMEN?

In that stance, a cisgenr gay man may be able to get an erectn and ejaculate equally well. In fact, some surveys have shown that gay men have had sex wh people of other genrs throughout their life.