The Gay Voice - Universy of Toronto Magaze

Contents:

• WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN
• GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• OP-ED: WHEN STRAIGHT GUYS TREAT GAY GUYS LIKE WOMEN, IS IT PROGRS?
• THE GAY VOICE
• BEG A GAY WOMAN – LABELS AND STEREOTYPG
• WHY ARE SO MANY GAYS AND LBIANS ATTRACTED TO SAME-SEX PEOPLE WHO LOOK LIKE THE OPPOSE SEX?
• WHY ARE THERE GAY WOMEN?

WHY STRAIGHT WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO GAY MEN

In many ways, gay men and straight women are a perfect pairg. For the most part, relatnships between gay men and straight women are healthy and posive, wh one exceptn I'll get to later.

In the vast majory of s, relatnships between gay men and straight women are platonic. Sure, an ocsnal teenage girl falls for a boy who's gay, but don't take most girls very long to figure out that, this se, where there's smoke, there's most fely not fire. In general, the attractn women feel for gay men tends to be emotnal nature, clearg the way for a highly satisfyg relatnship that outlasts most other relatnships gay men and straight women have.

GAY MEN HAVG SEX WH WOMEN?

To beg, I'll addrs how and why straight women are emotnally attracted to gay men—an attractn, by the way, that is returned by gay men spas. Reasons women may be attracted to gay men. First, bee most straight women don’t feel sexual toward gay men, the relatnship don’t rry the threat of sexual tensn.

Send, straight women love gay men bee closens wh gay men provis a wdow to how the mds of men work, somethg that women want to know as they navigate datg waters wh their straight male peers.

Though there are, of urse, differenc between straight and gay men, gay men are neverthels men who share many characteristics and motivatns wh straight men. When to the sexualy of young straight and gay men—meang, how equently they thk about sex, want , or feel impatient to get to the actual sex part—there are undoubtedly siari. When a straight woman hangs out wh a gay man, she begs to put the puzzle together that men, general, treat sex differently than women do.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

Fally, straight women love gay men bee they are emotnally attracted to the fearlsns and lack of self-nscns gay men.

In general, gay men, and gay women, too, tend to be more fearls than their straight unterparts—particularly straight men—bee they’ve ually experienced bullyg and prejudice bee of their sexual orientatn. The experienc fortify gay men wh thicker sk. As out adults, gay men ually learn to accept themselv and stop tryg so hard to w the approval and acceptance of others.

Siarly, the iendship of gay men offers somethg different than the pannship of straight men. Meanwhile, gay men have the social license to be as outrageo or emotnal as they want to be bee gay men don't have to f to such a tightly prcribed role. As I mentned at the begng, not all relatnships between straight women and gay men are healthy.

OP-ED: WHEN STRAIGHT GUYS TREAT GAY GUYS LIKE WOMEN, IS IT PROGRS?

While not the majory, some straight women love gay men for different reasons. The group of women I’m referrg to are often lled "f*g hags, " a term that manag to be rogatory toward two groups: women and gay men. The term "f*g hag" refers to a woman, ually her 20s or 30s, who lov htg the gay bars wh her gay male iends.

Instead, they feel more fortable removg the sexual factor that exists at straight bars and prefer the harmlsns that wh socializg wh gay men gay surroundgs. This type of relatnship is often unhealthy, wh women choosg gay men as iends for superficial reasons: bee they're more fun and love to shop.

THE GAY VOICE

Siarly, their gay male iends often treat their female iends as social accsori until the men fd a guy to hook up wh up later the night.

Overall, the relatnships between straight women and gay men are special, wh the ocsnal negative exceptns. If straight women and gay men foc on fdg iendships where there's te emotnal patibily and rpect, they n velop one of the most rewardg relatnships a person uld have.

BEG A GAY WOMAN – LABELS AND STEREOTYPG

To answer your qutn plaly wh the rmatn that you’ve shared, ’s likely that some gay men do have sexual relatnships wh women to hi their te orientatn, due to fear of g out. Ined, there are gay men who feel prsured to mask their sexualy bee of cultural, faial, relig, or personal beliefs that beg gay is wrong. It's also possible that someone who intifi as gay may want to have sex wh someone of another genr.

In that stance, a cisgenr gay man may be able to get an erectn and ejaculate equally well.

In fact, some surveys have shown that gay men have had sex wh people of other genrs throughout their life. And, although scientific studi this field are rare, sexual aroal to women has been measured groups of men wh several different sexual orientatns, cludg those who intify as gay.

WHY ARE SO MANY GAYS AND LBIANS ATTRACTED TO SAME-SEX PEOPLE WHO LOOK LIKE THE OPPOSE SEX?

Archiv, sexual orientatn is ually prised of several parts: attractn, how one acts on that attractn, and how one intifi (gay, straight, bisexual, etc). People often thk about beg straight, gay, bisexual, or other inti as both a person's romantic and sexual attractns. A cisgenr man may experience romantic attractn towards other men, sexual attractn towards men and women, but he choos to intify as gay.

Another cisgenr man that same suatn may choose to intify as homoromantic bisexual.

WHY ARE THERE GAY WOMEN?

Surveys among high school stunts found differenc between inty and sexual behavrs, wh many of the self-intified gay or lbian stunts mentng that they engage sexual activi wh those of other genrs. My Hband’s Not Gay, a show on TLC, has ed an uproar.