For Father's Day, NPR spoke to three, gay sgle fathers who ma the choice to bee parents via surrogacy.
Contents:
- ‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
- IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
- HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
- MY GAY DAD, MY QUEER FAY, HAPPILY EVER AFTER
- THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW
- IM GAY AND IM ATTRACTED TO MY FATHER..
- 10 THGS YOU’LL ONLY KNOW IF YOU’VE GROWN UP WH GAY PARENTS
- GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON
- HAPPY FATHER’S DAY: PEARLS OF WISDOM OM MY GAY DADS
- THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD
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Heynen planned to photograph for a book of photography featurg gay fathers and their children.
”Amerin culture has not been particularly starved of imag of gay fatherhood, particularly recent years. Celebri like Anrson Cooper have helped normalize the ia of gay men raisg children, and no longer feels revelatory to see them on televisn, as did when “Morn Fay” premiered mon, Mr. Heynen said, are imag of gay fathers who aren’t Instagram ready — like two men bg their dghters’ hair or tossg a football the ont yard.
IS YOUR DAD GAY—OR ARE YOU A GAY DAD?
I’m the proud owner of five dads. Before you ask, this breaks down as: my blogil father; my stepdad (his partner, y, my dad’s gay); my other stepdad (my mum's... * my gay dads *
It’s an unrstandable impulse, which he attribut to a sire among gay parents to feel “normal” after havg their pabili as parents ntually lled to qutn. Heynen said, but rather a celebratn of the day-to-day liv of gay Jt for the YoungCly Rose, 61, and Ryan, 12Cly Rose, who liv Manhattan, was first photographed for “Dads” three years ago after meetg Mr.
Heynen at an event at the Lbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgenr Communy Center New York Cy. Heynen “a lot of cred” for cludg a father like him — a sgle dad his 60s — sce he said there is often a lack of reprentatn of olr gay people art and media, which tends to foc on young, f men. As a Black, gay man raisg a son on his own, Mr.
HOW I ACCINTALLY FOUND OUT MY DAD IS GAY
Give a big Father's Day hug to Ricky Mart, Neil Patrick Harris, and Anrson Cooper — as well as the rt of our hight-profile gay dads. * my gay dads *
Are you a dghter whose dad is gay? Or are you a gay dad? gay: 1.
Most children whose dads are gay were born while their blogil mom and blogil dad were married and livg together. If you have a gay dad or a lbian mom, after they separate, which of them is most likely to remarry or to remarry and then divorce?
MY GAY DAD, MY QUEER FAY, HAPPILY EVER AFTER
Growg up wh a gay father created challeng for both my Dad & I. His journey out of the Bible Belt & closet was not easy. Most importantly though . . . * my gay dads *
Lbian moms are more likely than gay dads to marry their same-sex partner. But gay dads are ls likely to get divorced om their hbands than lbian moms are to get divorced om their wiv.
Gay men may experience more discrimatn than lbians, pecially if they are parents. Our society is still ls acceptg of gay men beg fathers than of lbians beg mothers.
But perhaps the most important rearch fdg is that gay dads and their dghters have closer relatnships when dads tell the tth—and the dads are ls clilly prsed than dads who hi this important rmatn om their children (Tornello, 2018). Sadly, gay fathers are more aaid than lbian mothers to tell their children the tth, regardls of their age.
THE GAY FATHER I NEVER KNEW
So if you as a dghter or as a gay dad are still tiptoeg around the topic, ’s time to give yourselv a gift by gettg this skeleton out of the closet. (2018) Adult children of gay fathers. Journal of Homosexualy, 65, 1152-1166.
My brother picked up the word for "gay" – a word my dad repeated several tim durg that that pot, my parents had told they had problems their marriage, but a few months later, when I was around ne years old, we still went on our annual fay summer holiday to France. Until, out of nowhere, my brother sudnly asked, "Dad, are you gay?
IM GAY AND IM ATTRACTED TO MY FATHER..
"There aren't a lot of gay people out there wh a wife and children, " he told me. I once tagged along wh him to his favoure gay bar, where I met all the iends he's ma there over the years. The only hardships of growg up wh a gay dad me om society, not om my wonrfully queer cred: iStockBy Alyssa RoyseMy parents were divorced when I was 6 or so.
10 THGS YOU’LL ONLY KNOW IF YOU’VE GROWN UP WH GAY PARENTS
I also knew that my dad mt be gay—bee, well, of urse. While I’d never met an out gay man, I kd of knew what they were supposed to be like om movi and TV, and Dad f the mold: He loved to ok; he cleaned obssively; he kept the Internatnal Male talog around, bee, he said, “I like the cloth. “You know, ” I said to Dad, “I asked Mom once if you were gay.
“Gay? “I’m not gay. ” she’d said our kchen—after a long nversatn she’d had wh an openly gay iend om llege, Pat, who had, apparently, been a nfidant of Dad’s.
Years later Mom told me that, acrdg to Pat, Dad had been active Lexgton and Louisville’s gay club scene.
GROWG UP WH A GAY FATHER – CONFSNS OM A STRAIGHT SON
) But to actually let me —to s on that blue blanket, look me the eye and tell me he was gay—was somethg he uldn’t do. “I asked Mom once if you were gay, ” I would have said. In this example, you happened to see him naked a settg that n be sexually arog for a lot of gay man.
Jt as you didn’t choose to be gay and have the feelgs you have. Im gay and Im attracted to my father.. At the age of 18 I talked to my parents and olr brother about me beg gay and they all pletely accepted me whout hsatn.
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY: PEARLS OF WISDOM OM MY GAY DADS
Then, I have hardly ever bond wh him any way, he ma some effort to aproach me and learn more about me and my gay life, but he is still the same person who ( my opn) didn't give a damn about me when I was a child. Y, the lack of a fatherly figure durg early teen years might be the culpr, I believe that thats what turned me gay anyway..
Re: Im gay and Im attracted to my father.. Do you know for a fact than your father is homosexual or bisexual? Jan 19, 2010 12:00amMy parents separated when I was very young, and as I grew up I realised was bee my Dad was gay.
I had no proof that they had actually had a physil relatnship, but as soon as I saw those msag, I felt so stupid for not realisg that Rob was gay. Before you ask, this breaks down as: my blogil father; my stepdad (his partner, y, my dad’s gay); my other stepdad (my mum’s partner); my father--law and my hband (the father of my two children).
THREE SGLE, GAY DADS REFLECT ON FATHERHOOD, SURROGACY JOURNEYS
But what you and everyone else wants to know is what is really like growg up wh gay parents? Here are 10 thgs that everyone wh gay parents n relate to.