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two gay sons

Photographer Bart Heynen set out across the untry to make a visual archive of gay fatherhood "Dads."

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NAVIGATG ONE SON'S G OUT N BE A BIG AL. FOR PARENTS WH SEVERAL GAY CHILDREN, N BE OVERWHELMG

If he was gay, as did his mother, but his answer was always no. After all, he me of age durg the height of the HIV epimic durg the late 1980s and early '90s, when people were shamed for beg gay.

As I ntue to grow my inty — once intifyg as gay, now as non-bary — and sharpen my polics around queerns, my fay has been right there bi me. It was the first time we had ever talked about me beg gay, which is how I intified at the time, and felt good to fally talk about the issu wh my dad. Dpe havg two queer sons — one who intifi as gay, another as as non-bary — I’ve always felt like my dad did the bt he uld wh the tools he had at the time.

Anne Conside bristl when people tell her, if their child was gay, 'd be "no big al" fds dimishg. Not one, but two of her sons are gay.

TWS WERE BORN TO A GAY COUPLE. ONLY ONE CHILD WAS REGNIZED AS A U.S. CIZEN, UNTIL NOW.

Fai like Anne's wh several gay siblgs often grapple wh unique challeng as they navigate the g out procs — issu she explor her new book, From Outsi the Closet. " Anne's story — havg two gay sons — sounds extraordary, but may be more mon than some might thk.

MOVG PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERS WH THEIR FAI ACROSS AMERI

"'Googlg 'gay' was a seedy experience'When Chris me out 2007, Anne says there was a lack of rourc to help her and her hband Pl navigate their "new normal".

"It was que seedy Googlg 'gay' for rmatn back the early 2000s, " she says. He'd been raised on sports and Catholicism; I thk those cultur ma him ask, what did I do to serve two gay sons? Two gay sons.

"I felt there was a need to te parents like me and Pl about gay relatnships, which is why I wrote From Outsi the Closet. "You're more likely to be gay if your siblg isAnne's story — havg two gay sons — sounds extraordary, but may be more mon than some might thk.

‘A FAY LIKE OURS’: PORTRAS OF GAY FATHERHOOD

A person wh a gay or lbian siblg is about 11 tim more likely to be gay or lbian than someone wh a straight siblg, says Dr Brendan Zietsch om the Universy of Queensland's School of Psychology. "In absolute terms 's rare bee 's rare for any one siblg to be gay. " (Some studi suggt only about two per cent of the populatn is gay, he adds.

"Anne also believ Anthony travelled the world bee — perhaps untertuively — havg an olr gay brother ma harr, not easier, to e out. As a teenager he disvered his olr brother Tim, 36, was gay when one of Tim's iends outed him to David behd his back.

"I was fairly sure I was gay then — I was 16 — but I didn't want to impact our relatnship, " David says. But knowg Tim was gay didn't make any easier.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* TWO GAY SONS

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