Abstract: In recent s, the stcture of the Amerin fay has been revolutnized to rporate fai of diverse and unnventnal posns. Gay and lbian upl have undoubtedly played a ccial role this revolutn by tablishg fai through the tool of adoptn. Eleven adoptive parents om the state of Connecticut were terviewed to better nceptualize the unique barriers gay upl enunter the procs adoptn. Both the scholarly rearch and the terview data illtrate that although gay upl face enormo legal barriers, the majory of their hardship through social teractns. As a rult, the cultural myths and legal rtrictns that create social hardships for gay adoptive parents fe a vic and discrimatory cycle of margalizatn that Amerin legal history illtrat is bt remedied through judicial terventn at the Supreme Court level. While judicial terventn, alone, nnot change the realy of gay parenthood, I argue that past judicial precent illtrat that such change n serve as a tool of dividual, polil, and legal validatn for the gay muny for obtag equal rights.
Contents:
- GAY PARENTHOOD AND THE END OF PATERNYAS WE KNEW IT
- PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
- JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU
- 5 GAY PARENTG MYTHS
- ‘WE ARE EXPECTED TO BE OK WH NOT HAVG CHILDREN’: HOW GAY PARENTHOOD THROUGH SURROGACY BEME A BATTLEGROUND
GAY PARENTHOOD AND THE END OF PATERNYAS WE KNEW IT
Parents of gay children may go through an adjtment perd when they fd out their child is gay, but there is support for parents of gay children. * gay parenthood *
Bee homosexuals are rarely monogamo, often havg as many as three hundred or more partners a lifetime — some studi say is typilly more than one thoand — children those polyamoro suatns are ught a perpetual g and gog. Was by nvcg policians and the public to regard risg rat of fatherlsns as a natnal emergency, 1 growg numbers of gay men were embracg fatherhood.
Examg the experienc of gay men who have openly pursued parenthood agast the odds n help to unrstand forc that unrlie the cle of paterny as we knew . Contrary to the fears of many the marriage promotn movement, however, gay parentg is not a new symptom of the mise of fatherhood, but of s creative, if ntroversial, reventn.
PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE
Kev Maxen, an associate strength ach wh the Jacksonville Jaguars, has bee the first male ach a major U.S.-based profsnal league to e out as gay. * gay parenthood *
When I paid close attentn to gay men’s parentg sir, efforts, challeng, and achievements, I unearthed ccial featur of ntemporary paterny and parenthood more generally. 4 Gay men who choose to bee primary parents challenge nventnal fns of masculy and paterny and even domant sexual norms of gay culture self. Gay sex lumnist Dan Savage mocked the cultural stak volved when he and his partner were cidg to adopt a child: “Terry and I would be givg up certa thgs that, for better or worse, fe what means to be gay.
Unlike most heterosexuals or even lbians, gay men have to stggle for accs to “the means of reproductn” whout benef of flt scripts for achievg or practicg parenthood.
Bee the available rout to geic parenthood for gay men are formidably expensive, very difficult to negotiate, or both, most prospective gay male parents pursue the purely social paths of adoptn or foster re. Bee there are not enough of the to meet the mand, most stat and unti allow sgle adults, cludg gay men, to shop for parenthood their overstocked warehoe of “hard to place” children. The gross disjuncture between the market value of society’s adoptable children and the supply of prospective adoptive parents allows gay men to parent a hefty share of them.
JAGUARS ASSOCIATE STRENGTH ACH OUT AS GAY A FIRST FOR US-BASED PRO LEAGU
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Jt as their timate adult relatnships, gay men more readily accept children across boundari of race, ethnicy, class, and even health. In addn, as we will see, some gay men, like sgle mother-by-choice Christie Mallmson the epigraph to this chapter, willgly unhch their sexual and romantic sir om their domtic on orr to bee parents. For all of the reasons, gay men provi ontier terra for explorg noteworthy chang the meangs and motiv for paterny and parenthood.
Adoptn agenci accept applitns om homosexual clients, only 39 percent of the agenci this group had placed at least one child wh a gay or lbian potential parent durg the target perd, and only 19 percent of the agenci actively rec prospective gay and lbian parents. In Florida, although two pro-LGBT parentg bills died mtee, the strict law banng “homosexual” dividuals om adoptg has been stck down twice at the trial urt level, but the cisns have been stayed pendg review by a state appellate urt.
5 GAY PARENTG MYTHS
What myths n scientific evince dispel about same-sex parents? Read about 5 gay parentg myths at HowStuffWorks. * gay parenthood *
Sbordone, “Gay Men Choosg Fatherhood;” and Schacher, Auerbach and Silverste, “Gay Fathers Expandg the Possibili for Us All. ” Other, more recent studi show that gay parents are more likely to adopt non-whe children, as well as children wh disabili. Neverthels, for gay male upl, the fertily fancial benefs that e wh health surance are often stunted, sce they may only apply when policy holrs themselv are the on who are pregnant.
‘WE ARE EXPECTED TO BE OK WH NOT HAVG CHILDREN’: HOW GAY PARENTHOOD THROUGH SURROGACY BEME A BATTLEGROUND
My only stipulatn was that we be married first bee we’re gay, ” says Samantha Davis, who wh her wife Leni had their son via trtere sematn (IUI) on their send attempt 2019. “Bee we’re gay, I wanted to make sure that I was tomatilly nsired fertile [om the start] so that the surance would ver some of the stuff we would be gog through, ” Samantha uple’s fertile stat unlocked an allowance of $16, 000.
Support queer media and subscribe -- or download the issue through Amazon, Kdle, Nook, or Apple Your Se Articl'Queer Eye's Tan France Shoots Back at Crics Of Him Beg a Dad ›Anrson Cooper Wel Send Child Via Surrogacy ›The Gay Dads Had Babi Three Weeks Apart Via Surrogacy ›Weeks After Havg a Son, Tom Daley is Spearheadg a Surrogacy Film ›Tom Daley Answers Why He Chose Surrogacy Over Adoptn ›As Gayborhood Costs Rise, Is It Worth Stayg? Parents of gay children may be shocked when their kids e out of the closet, but once the dt settl, most parents realize that their child is the same one they have loved and red for all their liv, they jt happen to be gay.
And while parental acceptance is one hurdle for a gay child, there are many other issu facg gay kids and their parents. It may be that the child bucks tradnal genr stereotyp or they may not show attentn to the oppose sex; but are the signs of a gay child?