14 Ways To Defeat Your Fears of Beg Gay

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• WHY ARE CONSERVATIV SO FREAKED OUT BY GAYS?SCAREDTHE PH ARIZONA TO LEGALIZE DISCRIMATN DIDN’T E OUT OF NOWHERE. IT WAS A RPONSE TO THE IMAGARY BELIEF THE “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA” OF “TOTAL DOMATN.”DEAN OBEIDALLAHUPDATED JUL. 12, 2017 12:57PM EDT / PUBLISHED MAR. 01, 2014 12:00AM EST GETTYSOME ON THE RIGHT ARE REALLY EAKED OUT BY GAYS. IN FACT, SOME DON’T EVEN WANT TO DO BS WH THEM. YOU REALLY NEED TO HAVE SOME SER ISSU WH GAY PEOPLE TO SAY “NO” TO THEIR MONEY THIS CHALLENGG ENOMY. WHY IS FEAR MONGERG AGAST THE LGBT MUNY PART OF THE NSERVATIVE PLATFORM? TE, ARIZONA ERNOR JAN BREWER JT VETOED A BILL THAT WOULD’VE SENCE LEGALLY SANCTNED DISCRIMATN AGAST MEMBERS OF THE GAY MUNY, BUT STILL 13 OTHER STAT ARE OR HAVE RECENTLY NSIRED SIAR LAWS. PEOPLE LIKE RH LIMBGH, MICHELLE BACHMANN, AND TUCKER CARLSON ALL PUBLICLY SUPPORT THE PROPOSED ARIZONA LAW, WH CARLSON LLG NECSARY TO PREVENT “FASCISM.” TEA PARTY NATN PRINT JUDSON PHILLIPS EVEN SAID THAT WHOUT THIS LAW, CHRISTIANS ULD BE FORCED TO BAKE WEDDG K THE SHAPE OF A GIANT PENIS. THEN THERE ARE THE FLUENTIAL NSERVATIVE “CHRISTIAN” GROUPS WHO HAVE LONG MONIZED GAYS, SUCH AS BRYAN FISCHER AT THE AMERIN FAY ASSOCIATN (AFA) WHO SAID THE “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA” IS “THE GREATT IMMEDIATE THREAT TO EVERY EEDOM AND RIGHT THAT IS ENSHRED THE FIRST AMENDMENT.” EVEN THE REPUBLIN PARTY’S 2012 PLATFORM MA SEEM LIKE THE END OF DAYS WERE APPROACHG WH THEIR SCRIPTN OF GAY MARRIAGE AS “AN ASSLT ON THE FOUNDATNS OF OUR SOCIETY.” [ IS THERE REALLY A NEFAR “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA”? COULD BE THAT GAY PEOPLE PERSONALLY DID SOMETHG TO PISS OFF THE RIGHT?BEG NEHER GAY NOR A NSERVATIVE, I WANTED TO FIGURE OUT WHAT’S UP. SO, I EMPLOYED A TWO-PRONG APPROACH: FIRST, ASK NSERVATIV: WHAT’S YOUR PROBLEM WH GAYS? SEND, ASK GAY PEOPLE TO REVEAL THEIR “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA” AND FD OUT WHAT THE HELL THEY ARE DOG THAT SR THE RIGHT SO MUCH?I BEGAN BY REACHG OUT THE NSERVATIVE GROUPS LIKE AFA, THE FAY REARCH COUNCIL (FRC), AND THE ALLIANCE DEFENDG FREEDOM (ADF), WHICH IS THE ANIZATN THAT CHAMPNED THE ARIZONA ANTI-GAY BILL.NOT ALL RPOND, BUT THE AFA’S FORMER GENERAL MANAGER, DR. BTER WILSON, RPOND VIA EMAIL HIS PERSONAL PACY. WILSON EXPLAED THE “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA” THIS LIGHT: “SIMPLE ‘EQUALY’ IS NOT THE GOAL OF THE GAY ACTIVISTS. THEY WANT TOTAL DOMATN SOME S…NOT JT ‘ACCEPT THEM’ BUT TO BOW TO THEM AND THEIR WANTS.“I ALSO HEARD OM A SPOKPERSON FOR THE FRC WHO FORWARD ME S ANIZATN’S PAMPHLET, “THE TOP TEN MYTHS ABOUT HOMOSEXUALY.” THIS PAMPHLET MAK CLEAR THAT SOME AT THE FRC ARE TLY OBSSED WH GAYS, ’S AN ALMOST A STALKER-QUE FIXATN WH MENTS ABOUT THE ALLEGED DATG AND EVEN SEXUAL HABS OF GAYS.I NNECTED WH A NSERVATIVE REPUBLIN POLIL STRATEGIST WHO WANTED TO REMA ANONYMO. HE EXPLAED THAT NSERVATIVE CHRISTIANS ARE NOT JT OPPOSED TO HOMOSEXUALY, BUT TO ALL SS, LIKE ADULTERY AND GLUTTONY. HOWEVER, HE MENTED THAT ADULTERERS AREN’T HAVG PARAS THE STREETS NOR ARE THEY SEEKG LEGAL PROTECTN TO M THEIR SS.OKAY, LET’S TURN TO THE LGBT MUNY. FIRST, THEY ALL NIED DOG ANYTHG PERSONALLY TO PISS OFF NSERVATIV. BUT EACH OFFERED THEIR OWN THEORY FOR THE RIGHT’S FEAR AND LOATHG.ROSS MURRAY, GLAAD’S DIRECTOR OF NEWS, SAID THAT SOME NSERVATIV ARE ANGRY BEE THEY ERRONEOLY VIEW EEDOM AS A “ZERO-SUM GAME,” MEANG THAT IF LGBT MUNY ACHIEV EQUAL TREATMENT UNR THE LAW, THEY WILL LOSE . MURRAY EXPLAED THAT WHILE MANY THE LGBT MUNY NO LONGER HAVE TO HI FOR FEAR OF LOSG, “OUR JOBS, OUR FAY, AND ALL OF OUR ROURC,” THEY ARE STILL SUBJECT TO VLENT ATTACKS AND, “GAY PEOPLE N STILL BE FIRED OM THEIR JOBS 29 STAT, AND TRANSGENR PEOPLE N BE 33.” COMEDIAN SABRA JALE, A MOMENT OF BTAL NDOR, REVEALED A B OF THE HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA: “YOU SHOULD SEE WHAT WE'VE GOT PLANNED ONCE WE GET OUR EQUAL RIGHTS. WE'RE GONNA GO AHEAD AND KEEP LIVG. ALMOST EXACTLY THE SAME WAS HETEROSEXUALS DO, JT WH BETTER CLOTH.”DAILY BEAST LUMNIST AND CNN NTRIBUTOR SALLY KOHN RPOND: "APPARENTLY, FAIRNS AND EQUALY JT PISS SOME PEOPLE OFF…I'M NOT GOG TO SAY THAT ALL THE EXTREMIST HOMOPHOB ARE REALLY JT JEALO. SO I WON'T SAY . BUT..."COMEDIAN JUDY GOLD WAS PUZZLED BY THE RIGHT’S ANGER NSIRG: “THEY LISTEN TO OUR MIC AND RAD SHOWS, WATCH OUR FILMS…BUY OUR CLOTH AND JEWELRY, LET STYLE THEIR HAIR…AND SIGN THEIR HOM AND OFFIC.”JIM DAVID, ALSO A EDIAN, RPOND SUCCCTLY: “PEOPLE WHO AREN'T HAVG ANY GOOD SEX ARE SERLY THREATENED BY THOSE WHO ARE.” I ALSO REACHED OUT TO A PERSON WHO STRADDL THE TWO MUNI, GREGORY ANGELO, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF THE LOG CAB REPUBLINS. ANGELO BELIEV THAT ONLY A SMALL VOL PORTN OF THE RIGHT TLY HAS ISSU WH GAYS. HE WAS OPTIMISTIC THAT MANY REPUBLINS VIEWS OF THE LGBT MUNY WERE EVOLVG FOR THE BETTER, PECIALLY LENNIALS.HOWEVER, THE MOST ALARMG RPONSE WAS OM A IEND WHO WORKS FOR A NON-PROF ANIZATN. HE WOULDN’T PERM ME TO CLU HIS NAME THIS ARTICLE BEE A BIG PART OF HIS EMPLOYER’S FUNDG OM A CHRISTIAN ANIZATN AND HE FEARS BEG FIRED IF THEY DISVER HE’S GAY.SO WHAT’S MY NCLN? CLEARLY SOME, NOT ALL, ON THE RIGHT ARE ANGRY, AAID OR SIMPLY EAKED OUT BY GAY PEOPLE. THEY FEAR THAT THE LGBT MUNY, WHICH IS A SMALL PERCENTAGE OF OUR POPULATN, WILL ONE DAY DOMATE AMERI.THE LGBT MUNY, ON THE OTHER HAND, SIMPLY SEEKS EQUAL RIGHTS UNR THE LAW. THEY WANT TO BE JUDGED ON THEIR WORK, NOT FIRED FOR THEIR SEXUAL ORIENTATN.WHO WILL W? WELL, IF OUR HISTORY OF EVOLVG ON ISSU OF RACE AND RELIGN IS ANY GUI, THE LGBT MUNY WILL PREVAIL. IT WILL TAKE TIME AND EFFORT, BUT I PREDICT NFINTLY THEY WILL OVERE, AND THAT’S A GOOD THG FOR OUR NATN. DEAN OBEIDALLAH
• WHY ARE STRAIGHT MEN SO SRED TO 'APPEAR' GAY?

WHY ARE CONSERVATIV SO FREAKED OUT BY GAYS?SCAREDTHE PH ARIZONA TO LEGALIZE DISCRIMATN DIDN’T E OUT OF NOWHERE. IT WAS A RPONSE TO THE IMAGARY BELIEF THE “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA” OF “TOTAL DOMATN.”DEAN OBEIDALLAHUPDATED JUL. 12, 2017 12:57PM EDT / PUBLISHED MAR. 01, 2014 12:00AM EST GETTYSOME ON THE RIGHT ARE REALLY EAKED OUT BY GAYS. IN FACT, SOME DON’T EVEN WANT TO DO BS WH THEM. YOU REALLY NEED TO HAVE SOME SER ISSU WH GAY PEOPLE TO SAY “NO” TO THEIR MONEY THIS CHALLENGG ENOMY. WHY IS FEAR MONGERG AGAST THE LGBT MUNY PART OF THE NSERVATIVE PLATFORM? TE, ARIZONA ERNOR JAN BREWER JT VETOED A BILL THAT WOULD’VE SENCE LEGALLY SANCTNED DISCRIMATN AGAST MEMBERS OF THE GAY MUNY, BUT STILL 13 OTHER STAT ARE OR HAVE RECENTLY NSIRED SIAR LAWS. PEOPLE LIKE RH LIMBGH, MICHELLE BACHMANN, AND TUCKER CARLSON ALL PUBLICLY SUPPORT THE PROPOSED ARIZONA LAW, WH CARLSON LLG NECSARY TO PREVENT “FASCISM.” TEA PARTY NATN PRINT JUDSON PHILLIPS EVEN SAID THAT WHOUT THIS LAW, CHRISTIANS ULD BE FORCED TO BAKE WEDDG K THE SHAPE OF A GIANT PENIS. THEN THERE ARE THE FLUENTIAL NSERVATIVE “CHRISTIAN” GROUPS WHO HAVE LONG MONIZED GAYS, SUCH AS BRYAN FISCHER AT THE AMERIN FAY ASSOCIATN (AFA) WHO SAID THE “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA” IS “THE GREATT IMMEDIATE THREAT TO EVERY EEDOM AND RIGHT THAT IS ENSHRED THE FIRST AMENDMENT.” EVEN THE REPUBLIN PARTY’S 2012 PLATFORM MA SEEM LIKE THE END OF DAYS WERE APPROACHG WH THEIR SCRIPTN OF GAY MARRIAGE AS “AN ASSLT ON THE FOUNDATNS OF OUR SOCIETY.” [ IS THERE REALLY A NEFAR “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA”? COULD BE THAT GAY PEOPLE PERSONALLY DID SOMETHG TO PISS OFF THE RIGHT?BEG NEHER GAY NOR A NSERVATIVE, I WANTED TO FIGURE OUT WHAT’S UP. SO, I EMPLOYED A TWO-PRONG APPROACH: FIRST, ASK NSERVATIV: WHAT’S YOUR PROBLEM WH GAYS? SEND, ASK GAY PEOPLE TO REVEAL THEIR “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA” AND FD OUT WHAT THE HELL THEY ARE DOG THAT SR THE RIGHT SO MUCH?I BEGAN BY REACHG OUT THE NSERVATIVE GROUPS LIKE AFA, THE FAY REARCH COUNCIL (FRC), AND THE ALLIANCE DEFENDG FREEDOM (ADF), WHICH IS THE ANIZATN THAT CHAMPNED THE ARIZONA ANTI-GAY BILL.NOT ALL RPOND, BUT THE AFA’S FORMER GENERAL MANAGER, DR. BTER WILSON, RPOND VIA EMAIL HIS PERSONAL PACY. WILSON EXPLAED THE “HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA” THIS LIGHT: “SIMPLE ‘EQUALY’ IS NOT THE GOAL OF THE GAY ACTIVISTS. THEY WANT TOTAL DOMATN SOME S…NOT JT ‘ACCEPT THEM’ BUT TO BOW TO THEM AND THEIR WANTS.“I ALSO HEARD OM A SPOKPERSON FOR THE FRC WHO FORWARD ME S ANIZATN’S PAMPHLET, “THE TOP TEN MYTHS ABOUT HOMOSEXUALY.” THIS PAMPHLET MAK CLEAR THAT SOME AT THE FRC ARE TLY OBSSED WH GAYS, ’S AN ALMOST A STALKER-QUE FIXATN WH MENTS ABOUT THE ALLEGED DATG AND EVEN SEXUAL HABS OF GAYS.I NNECTED WH A NSERVATIVE REPUBLIN POLIL STRATEGIST WHO WANTED TO REMA ANONYMO. HE EXPLAED THAT NSERVATIVE CHRISTIANS ARE NOT JT OPPOSED TO HOMOSEXUALY, BUT TO ALL SS, LIKE ADULTERY AND GLUTTONY. HOWEVER, HE MENTED THAT ADULTERERS AREN’T HAVG PARAS THE STREETS NOR ARE THEY SEEKG LEGAL PROTECTN TO M THEIR SS.OKAY, LET’S TURN TO THE LGBT MUNY. FIRST, THEY ALL NIED DOG ANYTHG PERSONALLY TO PISS OFF NSERVATIV. BUT EACH OFFERED THEIR OWN THEORY FOR THE RIGHT’S FEAR AND LOATHG.ROSS MURRAY, GLAAD’S DIRECTOR OF NEWS, SAID THAT SOME NSERVATIV ARE ANGRY BEE THEY ERRONEOLY VIEW EEDOM AS A “ZERO-SUM GAME,” MEANG THAT IF LGBT MUNY ACHIEV EQUAL TREATMENT UNR THE LAW, THEY WILL LOSE . MURRAY EXPLAED THAT WHILE MANY THE LGBT MUNY NO LONGER HAVE TO HI FOR FEAR OF LOSG, “OUR JOBS, OUR FAY, AND ALL OF OUR ROURC,” THEY ARE STILL SUBJECT TO VLENT ATTACKS AND, “GAY PEOPLE N STILL BE FIRED OM THEIR JOBS 29 STAT, AND TRANSGENR PEOPLE N BE 33.” COMEDIAN SABRA JALE, A MOMENT OF BTAL NDOR, REVEALED A B OF THE HOMOSEXUAL AGENDA: “YOU SHOULD SEE WHAT WE'VE GOT PLANNED ONCE WE GET OUR EQUAL RIGHTS. WE'RE GONNA GO AHEAD AND KEEP LIVG. ALMOST EXACTLY THE SAME WAS HETEROSEXUALS DO, JT WH BETTER CLOTH.”DAILY BEAST LUMNIST AND CNN NTRIBUTOR SALLY KOHN RPOND: "APPARENTLY, FAIRNS AND EQUALY JT PISS SOME PEOPLE OFF…I'M NOT GOG TO SAY THAT ALL THE EXTREMIST HOMOPHOB ARE REALLY JT JEALO. SO I WON'T SAY . BUT..."COMEDIAN JUDY GOLD WAS PUZZLED BY THE RIGHT’S ANGER NSIRG: “THEY LISTEN TO OUR MIC AND RAD SHOWS, WATCH OUR FILMS…BUY OUR CLOTH AND JEWELRY, LET STYLE THEIR HAIR…AND SIGN THEIR HOM AND OFFIC.”JIM DAVID, ALSO A EDIAN, RPOND SUCCCTLY: “PEOPLE WHO AREN'T HAVG ANY GOOD SEX ARE SERLY THREATENED BY THOSE WHO ARE.” I ALSO REACHED OUT TO A PERSON WHO STRADDL THE TWO MUNI, GREGORY ANGELO, EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF THE LOG CAB REPUBLINS. ANGELO BELIEV THAT ONLY A SMALL VOL PORTN OF THE RIGHT TLY HAS ISSU WH GAYS. HE WAS OPTIMISTIC THAT MANY REPUBLINS VIEWS OF THE LGBT MUNY WERE EVOLVG FOR THE BETTER, PECIALLY LENNIALS.HOWEVER, THE MOST ALARMG RPONSE WAS OM A IEND WHO WORKS FOR A NON-PROF ANIZATN. HE WOULDN’T PERM ME TO CLU HIS NAME THIS ARTICLE BEE A BIG PART OF HIS EMPLOYER’S FUNDG OM A CHRISTIAN ANIZATN AND HE FEARS BEG FIRED IF THEY DISVER HE’S GAY.SO WHAT’S MY NCLN? CLEARLY SOME, NOT ALL, ON THE RIGHT ARE ANGRY, AAID OR SIMPLY EAKED OUT BY GAY PEOPLE. THEY FEAR THAT THE LGBT MUNY, WHICH IS A SMALL PERCENTAGE OF OUR POPULATN, WILL ONE DAY DOMATE AMERI.THE LGBT MUNY, ON THE OTHER HAND, SIMPLY SEEKS EQUAL RIGHTS UNR THE LAW. THEY WANT TO BE JUDGED ON THEIR WORK, NOT FIRED FOR THEIR SEXUAL ORIENTATN.WHO WILL W? WELL, IF OUR HISTORY OF EVOLVG ON ISSU OF RACE AND RELIGN IS ANY GUI, THE LGBT MUNY WILL PREVAIL. IT WILL TAKE TIME AND EFFORT, BUT I PREDICT NFINTLY THEY WILL OVERE, AND THAT’S A GOOD THG FOR OUR NATN. DEAN OBEIDALLAH

In an environment of growg acceptance, we nmn homophobic feelgs, particularly men, bee we thk they e om si the dividual and are th his full rponsibily. However, the ntued existence of homophobia—spe the obv downsis—rais qutns about s basic nature: Do psychologil theori like those above really expla why gayns, specifilly, evok such fear, the kd that n sometim even lead to vlent speech and actn?

The only way to answer the qutns is to stop thkg of homophobia as a personal choice and unrstand as the evable and liberate rult of the culture which Amerin men are raised. Put another way, the zero-tolerance le means that if a man mak one “wrong” move—kiss another man a moment of dnken fun, say—he is immediately assumed to be gay. We don’t hear about gay men disverg an tert women later life, and we rarely believe men when they say they are bisexual—the mon, if erroneo, wisdom is that any man who says he is bi is really jt gay and hasn’t admted yet.

The rult of all this is that men are not allowed “plex” sexuali; once the prumptn of straightns has been shattered, a du is tomatilly gay.

WHY ARE STRAIGHT MEN SO SRED TO 'APPEAR' GAY?

Even if relign and Esquire didn’t teach men to be sred of each other’s bodi, they would still be aaid of the way a bsh wh gayns n so sudnly erase the rt of their sexualy. High-schoolers acce each other, their activi, and even objects of beg gay wh precisely the zero-tolerance attu that they themselv are navigatg.

The gam aren’t jt ground disgt wh homosex; they are playg out exactly what society has tght men about heterosexualy: One wrong move, and you’ll be permanently marked.

The chang are associated wh creased visibily of openly gay characters on televisn, the repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell” and the Supreme Court cisn that legalized same-sex marriage. For every highly publicized act of vlence toward sexual mori, such as the recent mass shootg at a gay nightclub Orlando, there are many more physil and verbal asslts, attempted asslts, acts of property damage or timidatns which are never reported to thori, let alone publicized by the media.