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Contents:
- YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?
- WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
- THIS IS HOW I REALLY REACTED WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
- RPONDG TO TEEN CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
- RPONDG TO ADULT CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
- OUR SEVEN-YEAR-OLD SON TOLD HE WAS GAY
- MY SON TOLD ME THAT HE IS GAY. I KICKED HIM OUT OF MY HOE
- 10 YEAR OLD SON HAS TOLD ME HE THKS HE'S GAY
- THIS IS HOW I FELT WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOUR CHILD IS GAY, LBIAN OR BISEXUAL
- MY SON TOLD ME HE’S GAY AND I’M STGGLG TO ACCEPT
- IS YOUR CHILD GAY?
- IS MY SON GAY OR IS A PHASE?
- MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
YOUR CHILD JT TOLD YOU HE'S GAY. NOW WHAT?
When my son told he was gay, I wanted to protect him om the meanns of the world, but I also uldn’t image askg him to hi who he really is. * son told me he is gay *
For straight parents, havg a child reveal that he is gay n be a jolt.
You might ask how long he or she has known, and why he feels he is gay, bi, or trans, suggts Jonathan Tobk, M. D., a psychiatrist private practice New York Cy and the -thor of When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need to Know.
You n fd one through the Associatn of Gay and Lbian Psychiatrists. Take the extra step and show your child that you are terted beg the parent of a gay child.
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR CHILD SAYS: "I'M GAY"
As a parent, you probably want what's bt for your child no matter what. But if your child out as gay, lbian, or bisexual, might e as a shock—many parents feel unprepared, upset, or even a ltle nfed. By learng a... * son told me he is gay *
Edute yourself on what means to be gay, lbian, bisexual or transgenr. PFLAG, or Parents for Lbians and Gays, which now has a group for transgenr youth, and holds natnwi chapters and meetgs;.
When parents learn that their child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, they n experience a range of emotns. As a matter of fact, you might someday look back and fd that you are grateful for the experience of havg a gay or lbian child.
Well, my study of 65 fai of gay and lbian youth for the book, Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child, I found that some parents get to the pot where they believe that the experience of havg a gay child actually ma them a better person—more open-md and sensive to the needs of others, particularly those other mory groups. If you jt found out your child is gay, lbian, bisexual, or transgenr, you may be thkg that such ias are prepostero. The tstworthy nfidants let them vent but also rrected some of the misperceptns they absorbed om society, such as that gay people are lonely, unhappy, promiscuo, not fay-oriented, unable to have children, or sted for an unhappy life.
THIS IS HOW I REALLY REACTED WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
* son told me he is gay *
Contact Parents, Fay, and Friends of Lbians and Gays (PFLAG). List of Helpful Books for Parents of Gay and Lbian Children. Straight Parents Gay Children: Keepg Fai Together (revised edn).
Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lbians, and Gays Talk About Their Experienc. Somethg to Tell You: The Road Fai Travel when a Child is Gay.
Comg Out, Comg Home: Helpg Fai Adjt to a Gay or Lbian Child. Fortunate Fai: Catholic fai wh lbian dghters and gay sons. Mom, Dad, I'm Gay: How Fai Negotiate Comg Out.
RPONDG TO TEEN CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
“I’m gay. I have had gay iends (and been eply hurt and disappoted when beme obv. He never wanted to be gay.
To iends of me who may have gay children, or be gay themselv, please five me for my ignorance. I don’t know if I’ll ever be “okay” wh the gay liftyle, but right now, I am okay wh my son beg gay, and right now, that is all that matters.
RPONDG TO ADULT CHILD WHO SAYS HE’S GAY
What would you do if your child told you they were gay? Before we say anythg else, know that our hearts go out to you the pa and nfn of hearg your teen son tell you that he’s gay. You might even feel that you need to qutn or re-exame your own beliefs about homosexualy.
OUR SEVEN-YEAR-OLD SON TOLD HE WAS GAY
What led you to believe that you might be gay?
MY SON TOLD ME THAT HE IS GAY. I KICKED HIM OUT OF MY HOE
There’s no need to jump to nclns by llg yourself “gay, ” “bi, ” “trans, ” or anythg else.
10 YEAR OLD SON HAS TOLD ME HE THKS HE'S GAY
After all, many people have felt same-sex attractn whout adoptg the “gay” label. Enurage him to openly exprs the feelgs, wants, hop, and fears he’s gog through whout assigng them to any specific tegory such as “gay” or “straight.
THIS IS HOW I FELT WHEN MY SON TOLD ME HE WAS GAY
When Homosexualy Hs Home.
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOUR CHILD IS GAY, LBIAN OR BISEXUAL
The Complete Christian Gui to Unrstandg Homosexualy. 101 Frequently Asked Qutns About Homosexualy. Unrstandg Male Homosexualy: God’s Power to Change Liv.
Someone I Love is Gay.
MY SON TOLD ME HE’S GAY AND I’M STGGLG TO ACCEPT
When a Loved One Says, “I’m Gay”.
How to Talk to Your Children About Homosexualy. Homosexualy (rource list).
IS YOUR CHILD GAY?
Support for Parents of Child Who Says He’s Gay. Unrstandg Homosexualy. Parent Concerned That Teen Might Be Homosexual.
IS MY SON GAY OR IS A PHASE?
Is My Teen Stgglg Wh Homosexualy? Parent Spects That Child Might Be Gay. Are People Born Gay?
MY SON MIGHT BE GAY. WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM?
Reliable Rourc for Teachg Children About Marriage, Sexualy and Homosexualy. Don’t be surprised if you feel shaken or pelled to qutn or exame your own beliefs on the subject of homosexualy the light of this experience. There’s no absolute need to foreclose on a label for yourself by llg yourself ‘gay, ’ ‘bi, ’ ‘trans, ’ or anythg else.