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An open letter to my fellow whe gay cis men: there should be no "returng to normal" after this.

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14 MOST MEMORABLE GAY CHARACTERS PLAYED BY NON-GAY ACTORS

Taye Diggs is makg his theater eback, playg a gay character the h Broadway mil, Hedwig and the Angry Inch. Diggs jos a select list of Black actors who have played gay characters on the big and small screen. Flip through for some of our favore gay and lbian portrayals on TV and film. * non flamboyant gay men *

Thanks to the shownners drivg thentic stori, filmmakers buckg s-old heteronormative paradigms, actors embolned to live more hontly and platforms bankrollg so much of , beg gay, queer, transgenr or any other other has never been more wily embraced the entertament s gural Pri issue, The Hollywood Reporter homed on the talent and makers helpg boost visibily and creatg opportuni for members of the extend LGBTQ muny. After more than a of Watch What Happens Live Wh Andy Cohen, where he beme the first openly gay host Amerin late night, Bravo's exec turned talent tackl all kds of media (SiriXM show Rad Andy, multiple books), while upliftg and advotg for the LGBTQ muny.

THE FOTTEN SECRET LANGUAGE OF GAY MEN

* non flamboyant gay men *

Puttg his stamp on The Ln Kg — he played Timon to great acclaim the billn-dollar-earng Disney reboot — the out-and-proud funnyman will next play Matt Ddge  Amerin Crime Story: Impeachment while his upg Judd Apatow-produced feature at Universal is set to be the first gay rom- om a major stud. The queer Salvadoran edian translated the handful of breakout Saturday Night Live scen he wrote to multiple als at HBO — where he buted the edy special My Favore Shap  2019 and is readyg season two of Los Espookys, the half-Spanish, half-English, entirely absurd edy which he stars as the gay heir to a cholate fortune.

THREAD: FLAMBOYANT GAYS VS THE AVERAGE HOMOSEXUAL MALE.

As adjectiv the difference between flamboyant and gay is that flamboyant is showy, bold or dac behavur, appearance, etc while gay is... * non flamboyant gay men *

Bee most LGBTQ people are raised the same society as heterosexuals, they learn the same beliefs and stereotyp prevalent the domant society, leadg to a phenomenon known as ternalized homophobia, whereas LGBTQ-intified dividuals feel shame, guilt or hatred towards the part of themselv intified as LGBTQ. Makg her long-overdue return to the small screen, Phylicia Rashad has land a starrg role on the new Ava DuVeryay-directed CBS drama For Jtice which she will portray Gea Howe, a gay woman workg the Department of Jtice’s Civil Rights Divisn who mt learn to navigate both the racism and homophobia that she mt face the workplace.

In the late ‘60s, as gay liberatn groups were fightg for regnn and equaly, Polari h mastream Brish pop-culture the form of Julian and Sandy, two flamboyant, not-officially-but-pretty-obvly gay characters on a BBC rad show lled Round the Horne. 2 apparently matters to both straight and gay men, both black and whe, and om Bryant's well-wrten and thought-provokg book we learn that many men have no problem admtg that they check each other out locker rooms and bathroom stalls.

Poulson-Bryant offers his own terpretatns of subculture figur like the "homo thug" (tough, non-flamboyant gay men) and men "on the down low" (allegedly straight men who sometim have gay sex) and he has tertg thgs to say about movi like "Mandgo" and "Shaft, " and about Robert Mapplethorpe's photographs of black men.

GAY CULTURE HAS GROWN TOXIC WH UNCHECKED PRIVILEGE. IT'S TIME FOR TO RET

There is creased acceptance of gay men most Wtern societi. Neverthels, evince suggts that feme-prentg gay men are still disadvantage * non flamboyant gay men *

If we tly want to normalize homosexualy and champn s e is not only up to the heteronormative populatn to accept homosexuals, but also those the gay muny’s duty to hontly evaluate their behavr and mata as rpectful of a meanor as possible.

We all know gay people suffer prejudice, but even my married gay iends tell me that those people aren't actually gay, but are sperately tryg to earn attentn by explog somethg that's natural and uneventful, while at the same time brgg shame to gay people who try to live normal liv. This led to extreme suatns of social anxiety and other thgs, but [here starts my own visn] after the events of 9/11 and the advent of neo-atheism, fluential gay people started mpaigng whout fear of relig persecutn and sce they are slowly earng the rpect they serve. The problem is that the Media is a dirty, filthy disgtg bs when they want to and they have been shg , turng homosexualy to a 'trend', like they uld fix s of blatant, explic prejudice forcg a trimental view of the gay culture down everyone's throat.

GAY STEREOTYP: ARE THEY TE?

That's why I believe flamboyant, attentn-seekg people that e their sexualy as a social tool (which is natural for humans but should be avoid now that we have the CIVILIZATION to eva that) do not reprent the image that gay people are strivg for and serve only to dissemate wrong perceptns of sexualy (like all gay people are futile, va, oversexualized or promiscuo, ceful, backstabbg and all that jazz) and should be reprehend and reted. But even though the nversatns that muted this lumn for six weeks are nowhere close to beg over, I do feel like some thgs that me up durg that time of ntemplatn are worth sayg now — particularly to my fellow whe gay cis out more stori on LGBTQ+ ins and activistsHowever, the ghost of Larry Kramer very much remaed my own head as I ma my way through a Pri month unlike any other.

FLAMBOYANT VS GAY - WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE?FLAMBOYANT | GAY |AS ADJECTIV THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FLAMBOYANT AND GAYIS THAT FLAMBOYANT IS SHOWY, BOLD OR DAC BEHAVUR, APPEARANCE, ETC WHILE GAY IS HAPPY, JOYFUL, AND LIVELY.AS NOUNS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FLAMBOYANT AND GAYIS THAT FLAMBOYANT IS A SHOWY TROPIL TREE, THE ROYAL POCIANA (DELONIX REGIA WHILE GAY IS A HOMOSEXUAL, PECIALLY A MALE HOMOSEXUAL; SEE ALSO LBIAN.AS A PROPER NOUN GAY IS{{SURNAME|A=AN|ENGLISH|OM=NICKNAM}}, ORIGALLY A NICKNAME FOR A CHEERFUL OR LIVELY PERSON.AS A VERB GAY ISTO MAKE HAPPY OR CHEERFUL.FLAMBOYANTENGLISHADJECTIVE(EN ADJECTIVE)SHOWY, BOLD OR DAC BEHAVUR, APPEARANCE, ETC.* 1902 , ,WHEN WE SEE SOME OF THE MONSTRO AND FLAMBOYANT BLOSSOMS THAT ENRICH THE EQUATORIAL WOODS, WE DO NOT FEEL THAT THEY ARE NFLAGRATNS OF NATURE; SILENT EXPLOSNS OF HER IGHTFUL ENERGY. WE SIMPLY FD HARD TO BELIEVE THAT THEY ARE NOT WAX FLOWERS GROWN UNR A GLASS SE.* 1920 , , CHAPTER VI: THE QUTN OF CLEARNS,BUT A SRN OF FLAMBOYANT NECKTI AND CHECKERBOARD TROERS IS NO EXCE FOR GOG TO THE OPPOSE EXTREME OF A BLUE FLANNEL SHIRT AND OVERALLS; .* 1962 MAY 12, ,THE UNBELIEVERS WILL SAY THEY ARE BUT WORDS, BUT A SLOGAN, BUT A FLAMBOYANT PHRASE.(ARCHECTURE) REFERRED TO AS THE FAL STAGE OF FRENCH GOTHIC ARCHECTURE OM THE 14TH TO THE 16TH CENTURI.* 1891 , , CHAPTER XIX: AVIGNON,S. PIERRE IS A FLAMBOYANT CHURCH, THE TAILS PASSG TO RENAISSANCE.* 1911 , ,THE SEND IS A CHAPEL OF TWO STOREYS, THE LOWER DATG OM 1150, WHILE THE UPPER WAS REBUILT THE 15TH CENTURY, AND THERE IS A RICH FLAMBOYANT ENTRANCE WH A STAIRWAY (1533).* 1913 , ,THE NAVE AND CENTRAL TOWER, MORE FLAMBOYANT SIGN, WERE FISHED EARLY THE SIXTEENTH CENTURY AFTER THE ORIGAL PLAN.NOUN(EN NOUN)A SHOWY TROPIL TREE, THE ROYAL POCIANA (DELONIX REGIA )* 1919 ,THE SCHOONERS MOORED TO THE QUAY ARE TRIM AND NEAT, THE LTLE TOWN ALONG THE BAY IS WHE AND URBANE, AND THE FLAMBOYANTS , SRLET AGAST THE BLUE SKY, FLNT THEIR LOUR LIKE A CRY OF PASSN.GAY

Followg a man his late 30s (based on Kramer himself) who is seekg out a lovg, long-term relatnship a sea of hedonism, the novel has a clear msage: gay men need to start lovg each other stead of beg so obssed wh gettg fucked up and (lerally and figuratively) fuckg each other. In mastream gay media, the phrase almost always refers to a fairly specific subset of the LGBTQ "muny" largely ma up of whe gay cis men — even though many of the battl won around queer rights were fought by people of lour, trans and genr-nonnformg folks, and queer women, and fact the morn Pri movement self was large part iated by Black trans women. If an imprsn of a monolhic "gay culture" fed by such a homogeneo mographic exists, is bee whe gay cis men have until very recently domated mastream reprentatn unr the LGBTQ umbrella and have, general, been hand a level of privilege the last that is wildly disproportnate to any other mographic unr said umbrella.

In analyzg the show's pictn of young gay men livg San Francis, wrer Daniel Wenger diagnos what he terms the "new gay sadns": an entire generatn of urban, privileged gay men who seem to have no clue what they're lookg for or who they are. Largely born the 1980s, they are the earlit wave of a "post-Stonewall, post-plague, post-activist" generatn of gays — "too old to have brought a boy to the prom and too young to have nursed a fantasy of nng away to an urban gay utopia, " Wenger explas.

GAY AND STRAIGHT MEN PREFER MASCULE-PRENTG GAY MEN FOR A HIGH-STAT ROLE: EVINCE FROM AN ELOGILLY VALID EXPERIMENT

Queeri5 pneerg LGBTQ Canadian films you n watch for ee right nowI've seen many of my fellow whe gay cis men seemgly rise to the ocsn by retweetg Black and Indigeno voic, gog to ralli and vowg to te themselv on how to tly be anti-racist (though how performative that is some s is unclear). Flamboyant | gay |As adjectiv the difference between flamboyant and gayis that flamboyant is showy, bold or dac behavur, appearance, etc while gay is happy, joyful, and nouns the difference between flamboyant and gayis that flamboyant is a showy tropil tree, the royal pociana (Delonix regia while gay is a homosexual, pecially a male homosexual; see also a proper noun Gay is{{surname|A=An|English|om=nicknam}}, origally a nickname for a cheerful or lively a verb gay isto make happy or cheerful. * 1992, Unto the Sons, Ballante Books 1993, ISBN 0804110336, page 15- - - my father's father, Gaetano Tale ( whose name I hered after my birth 1932, the anglicized om of "Gay "), was an atypilly fearls traveler, * 2004, Bad Dirt, Fourth Estate, ISBN 0007196911, page 32"Mr Gay Brawls.

WHAT ABOUT THE GUYS WHO DO F THE 'GAY STEREOTYPE'?

Whereas most studi on perceptns of feme-prentg gay men have manipulated genr nonnformy via wrten scriptns, rearch suggts that behavural cu such as voice and body-language n migate or exacerbate prejudice toward a stereotyped dividual. This associatn between masculy and stat endowment has plex implitns for gay men, given the prevailg stereotype that they are more feme pared to heterosexual men (Ke & Dx, 1987; Lippa, 2000; Mchell & Ellis, 2011; Sanchez et al., 2009) Men and the Feme StereotypeSuch a stereotype reflects, to some extent, average differenc genr-typily between gay and heterosexual men.

Policg of masculy among gay men is not only self-directed; there is also evince of prejudice toward more feme gay men om wh the gay muny (Bailey et al., 1997; Hunt et al., 2016) Penalti for Feme Gay MenContemporary theori of effective learship have challenged the perceived virtu of masculy. Theoretil explanatns for the fdgs nsistently foc on the possibily that gay men elic such discrimatn bee of the stereotype that they are feme and are therefore perceived as ls equipped to occupy higher-stat posns social hierarchi, such as the workplace (Ke & Dx, 1987; Lord et al., 1984).

Th, the rearch appears to suggt that feme gay men are at particular risk of stat penalti, pecially om dividuals who posss anti-gay Sentiment Amongst Gay MenA further qutn regardg potential stat penalti for feme vers more mascule-prentg gay men is how plic gay men themselv may be perpetuatg such prejudice. Whereas most relevant rearch has ed heterosexual sampl, both lab and field studi on romantic partner preferenc amongst gay men highlight a monplace sire for mascule over feme tras potential partners (Bailey et al., 1997; Clarkson, 2006; Laner & Kamel, 1977; Sanchez & Vila, 2012; Tayawadep, 2002). Such a nnectn suggts that the extent to which gay men ternalise societal stigma about beg gay may fluence their treatment of dividuals who posss stigmatised is a nsirable lerature monstratg that gay men discrimate agast more feme gay mal beyond the romantic ntext (Brooks et al., 2017; Ravenhill & Visser, 2019; Sánchez & Vila, 2012; Taywadep, 2002).

REPORTED EFFECTS OF MASCULE IALS ON GAY MEN

This effect among gay men mirrors siar fdgs observed among heterosexual participants (Aksoy et al., 2019; Frank, 2006; Pellegri et al., 2020) that also ed analogue tasks, which masculy/femy of gay male targets were manipulated via wrten scriptns.

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