“Mom, Dad… I’m Gay.” A Christian Parent’s Rponse

Parents of gay children may go through an adjtment perd when they fd out their child is gay, but there is support for parents of gay children. * im gay but i want children *

I kept wag for the moment where I would realize I was no longer gay so I uld put a halt to everythg. I was nsumed by the p my stomach – the shame of endg my marriage bee I was gay was like luggg a sandbag over my shoulrs and havg a rock my stomach at the same time.

I AM GAY BUT I AM MARRIED TO A WOMAN AND WH KIDS

Democratic printial ndidate Robert F. Kennedy Jr. has a history of repeatedly sharg unfound nspiraci that man-ma chemils the environment uld be makg children gay or transgenr and g the femizatn of boys and masculizatn of girls. * im gay but i want children *

I wasn’t sure how to tell my nservative, Geia-born and bred parents that their former pageant queen dghter was endg her marriage bee she is gay. I wasn’t brave enough to actually say the words – the label of beg gay or a lbian was too much for my soul to bear at the time – so I sent her a text msage, “I am not straight. Democratic printial ndidate Pete Buttigieg – who, like me, is his late 30s and, like me, me out publicly jt a few years ago – put this way: “It’s hard to face the tth that there were tim my life when, if you had shown me exactly what was si me that ma me gay, I would have cut out wh a knife.

I thk you’d be hard-prsed to fd a gay person over the age of 30 who hasn’t felt this way. I mean, our neighborhood is crawlg wh gay and lbian upl, yet only one other uple bis ourselv are raisg children.

FOR GAY MEN, HAVG A BLOGIL CHILD N BE PLITED

* im gay but i want children *

So much for the “gay-by boom” that some were expectg the wake of visibily and marriage equaly. Though the numbers of gay men, bi people, and (more so) lbians raisg children has climbed recent years, ntu to lag well behd the rat for straight upl.

For this month’s lumn, I spoke to a number of gay men and lbians whose liv don’t clu raisg children. Corvo’s early regnn that he didn’t f wh standard-issue heterosexualy led him first to the prithood and then to a full embrace of his gay inty. Dpe beg young enough to have imaged a “gay life” for themselv, their inty ow somethg to an olr, perhaps ls-upled ia of gay.

And while they’ve got several gay and lbian iends and neighbors wh kids, neher has the least tert parentg.

GAY UPL 'ULD HAVE THEIR OWN BLOGIL CHILDREN RRYG TRAS OM BOTH PARENTS'

A 30-year-old sgle man, whom I’ll ll Charl, se his inty as a gay man as an vatn to thk crilly about how he’d like to bee a parent.

The son of Haian immigrants, Charl was lucky enough to be raised by parents who sensed their son’s gay inty when he was young, and they’ve been supportive of him om the start—perhaps bee of that, no possible route seems to him out of the qutn.

PARENTS OF GAY CHILDREN AND THE ISSU THEY FACE

And I want my kid to be gay, of my straight iends, even the most liberal, see this logic as warped. But was impossible to know whether he meant to sulate me om the world’s bias or implicly ratnalize his ia that no one would choose to be gay is wily held — even the gay rights movement.

LETTERS TO THE EDOR: I’M GAY AND DON’T WANT TO PATRONIZE BIGOTS. THANKS, SUPREME COURT

In the early '90s, partly as a rponse to the stctive notn that gay people uld be changed, activists prsed the ia of sexualy as a fixed, nate state. The ia that folks are "born gay" beme not only the theme of a Lady Gaga song, but the implic ratnale for gay rights. When the gay liberatn activist Frankl Kameny lnched a simple effort 1968 to proclaim that “gay is good, ” was bee, at the time, very much wasn’t.

Until 1973, the Amerin Psychiatric Associatn nsired homosexualy a form of mental illns.

It’s more wily acceptable to be gay Ameri today, but that’s not the same as beg sirable. In my hoe, though, you might expect me to say somethg about how, if my dghter were gay, she would undoubtedly face challeng and hurdl she wouldn’t enunter if she were straight.

I’M A BOY OF 13 AND I THK I’M GAY BUT I HAVEN’T TOLD ANYONE. WHAT BOOKS N I READ?

But if my dghter wants to be an artist, I’ll enurage her all the way — and work to stroy any barriers along her path, not put them up, I’ve never for a sgle send regretted beg gay, nor saw as anythg other than an asset and a gift. By the time my dghter of age, she’ll have even more of a support work, cludg two moms, for cryg out than that, though, beg gay opened my ey to the world around me.

AS A GAY MAN I'M OFTEN TOLD I DON'T SERVE TO HAVE CHILDREN OF MY OWN. I ABSOLUTELY DISAGREE, AND HERE'S WHY.

Learng that not every gay person had as good as I did helped me realize that a lot of people general didn’t have as good as I did. I wouldn’t be a polilly engaged human beg, let alone an activist, wrer and TV personaly, if I weren’t my dghter is gay, I don’t worry about her havg a hard life. The problem is not the ia that homosexualy uld be a choice but the ia that heterosexualy should be pulsory.

We’ve bought every picture book featurg gay fai, even the not-very-good on, and we have most of the nontradnal-genr-role books as well — about the prcs who lik to fight dragons and the boy who lik to wear my dghter plays hoe wh her stuffed koala bears as the mom and dad, we gently remd her that they uld be a dad and dad. It’s her I ultimately re about is that she has the choice and that whatever choice she mak is enthiastilly embraced and will tell, but so far, don’t look like my 6-year-old dghter is gay. Correctn: An earlier versn of this article rrectly stated that the Amerin Psychologil Associatn classified homosexualy as a form of mental illns until 1973.

'ACCEPT' AND 'TOLERATE' MY GAY KID? THAT'S NOT GOOD ENOUGH

If God bls Dan and me wh a child who is gay, I would want that child to know whout a doubt that he or she is loved unndnally. I believe Rachel’s motivatn is to create a more welg and lovg environment the church for those who intify themselv as homosexuals, or who stggle wh homosexual sire.

I admire and agree wh her motive, and mt say that I’ve learned om her this area of beg much more reful how I speak and wre about homosexualy. First, she don’t munite any ncern about the sfulns of homosexual sir nor the immoraly of homosexual actns. She seems to nvey that homosexual sir are not part of human brokenns, and that to pursue homosexual practic do not have any bearg on a person’s relatnship wh Christ.

Send, Rachel seems to intify everyone who tak the view that homosexual sir are part of broken human sfulns, and that homosexual actns are s, as bulli.

‘MY PARENTS STILL WON’T ACCEPT THAT I’M GAY!’

However, ’s irrponsible and unfair to group all who say that homosexualy is immoral as bulli of Christ’s ltle on. Sixth, if your son agre that homosexualy is sful, and he wants to have victory over the temptatns, then there are many Gospel promis you n enurage him wh.

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However, if he says that he believ homosexualy to be okay and he’s cid to pursue , then while assurg him of your ntued love and re, you mt lovgly warn him of the spirual and physil dangers of homosexualy.

Seventh, I’d enurage the son not to see himself as a homosexual, not to fe himself by his sexualy. Rather I’d want him to see himself as creature ma God’s image, a man wh many parts to his inty, a person wh many gifts, a son wh a diverse character and personaly, one part of which, at least for the moment, is to have a homosexual sir.

Eighth, I would ask him to keep g to church, pecially as homosexualy is sometim the rult of worshippg self rather than God (Romans 1:24-25). But I would ask his permissn to let the pastor know about his suatn bee I’d want to urge the pastor to greater sensivy towards those stgglg wh homosexualy.

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MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX

I WAS MARRIED WH 2 KIDS WHEN I REALIZED I’M GAY

OPN I’M GAY. AND I WANT MY KID TO BE GAY, TOO.