Why Some Straight People Might Have Gay Sex | Psychology Today

Contents:

• IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?
• CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?
• WHEN STRAIGHT MEN ARE ADDICTED TO GAY SEX
• WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX
• CAN GAYS BEE STRAIGHT?
• SOME GAYS CAN GO STRAIGHT, STUDY SAYS
• THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT
• I TRIED TO NVERT MYSELF OM GAY TO STRAIGHT. IT DON’T WORK
• WHY IS SUCH A BIG AL WHEN A GAY PERSON HS ON A STRAIGHT PERSON? WHY N'T WE JT ACCEPT PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE?
• GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS
• HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY
• WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?

IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?

Joseph Nilosi, a psychologist Enco, Calif., says he n rid adults, teens, and even children of homosexualy. "If [a patient] n accept his bodily homoerotic experience while stayg nnected to the therapist, " he wrote The Paradox of Self-Acceptance, "the sexual feelg soon transforms to somethg else: the regnn of eper, pa-generated emotnal needs which have nothg to do wh sexualy.

CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?

Both APAs have led that the therapi are unscientific and possibly harmful — not to mentn unnecsary, sce homosexualy was officially -classified as an illns 1973, and therefore n't be "cured.

WHEN STRAIGHT MEN ARE ADDICTED TO GAY SEX

The few that did have "high-qualy" evince "show that endurg change to an dividual's sexual orientatn is unmon, " and that treatments tend to change sexual orientatn may e harm, cludg prsn and mental Dark AgHomosexualy was officially labeled a mental illns the U.

Another method was satiatn therapy, which a subject was told to masturbate over and over while verbally scribg his homosexual fantasi, until they disappeared — or, at least, "therapi" were generally effective — the person remaed attracted to the same sex — or over-effective — the person was trmatized and lost all sexual aroal entirely.

WHY SOME STRAIGHT PEOPLE MIGHT HAVE GAY SEX

They "were ed whout people thkg about whether they were humane, " Glassgold all treatments were so gome: Lnel Ovey, a Columbia Universy psychoanalyst and thor of Homosexualy and Psdohomosexualy, created a behavral method the 1960s.

CAN GAYS BEE STRAIGHT?

Ovey studied a clilly disturbed group of patients and summarized their unnsc mds as follows: "I am a failure = I am not a man = I am strated = I am a woman = I am a homosexual. " His view mirrored the belief of many clicians at the time: that homosexualy was based on a phobia of the oppose non-aversive treatments followg this theory foced on buildg "tnal skills" like datg techniqu, assertivens trag, and affectn achg to crease teractns wh women.

Cognive therapists, meanwhile, ma a few attempts to change homosexuals' thought patterns by reamg sir — redirectg thoughts away om homosexual activy — or through hypnosis.

Still, SOCE is still beg practiced wh a small group of mental-health practners, most of whom ter to a populatn whose relig beliefs strictly bar homosexualy.

SOME GAYS CAN GO STRAIGHT, STUDY SAYS

” Many people, cludg sex rearchers and scientists, believe that sexual orientatn is like a sle wh entirely gay on one end and entirely straight on the other. Sexual inty is how you label yourself (for example, g labels such as queer, gay, lbian, straight, or bisexual).

It’s not pletely known what someone to be lbian, gay, straight, or bisexual, but your sexual orientatn probably started at a very young age.

THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT

Sexual orientatn refers to the endurg physil, romantic and/or emotnal attractn to members of the same and/or other genrs, cludg lbian, gay, bisexual and straight orientatns. A person who transns om female to male and is attracted solely to men would typilly intify as a gay man.

The article rais the qutn of changg sexual preference: Can a man whose past sexual practice has been almost exclively heterosexual change his practice to homosexual after beg sced by another man?

To those who believe that homosexual preference is homosexual orientatn, an nate blogil predisposn, the answer is a roundg "no. " Contrary to this rponse, the thor prents three s which the men swch om heterosexual to homosexual relatnships (exclively two s) by means of a sexual enunter iated by another man.

I TRIED TO NVERT MYSELF OM GAY TO STRAIGHT. IT DON’T WORK

The thor creds part of the change to the gay liberatn movement which rcued homosexual sire om the hidn, forbidn, and shameful.

WHY IS SUCH A BIG AL WHEN A GAY PERSON HS ON A STRAIGHT PERSON? WHY N'T WE JT ACCEPT PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE?

The evince that the men experienced a genue change sexual preference, shows that life-long, exclive homosexualy, as articulated by gay rhetoric, is more a statement about the culture which occurs than the "sence" of homosexualy.

Rearch nducted by found that 13% of straight men have had gay sexual experienc and another 5% have not but would like to. Their report maps out the ncentratns of gay cur men across the Uned Stat and Canada showg some tertg there are a number of ways clicians n thk about this type of believe that the fact that the man is havg sexual experienc wh men dit the possibily that he is vertly gay and is need of help to overe his shame and e I believe is impossible to nclu that a man is or is not gay or bisexual simply based on his actg out sexually wh men.

GAY MEN AND STRAIGHT MEN AS FRIENDS

In such a se, the man may jt be sexually adventuro and terted any sirable sexual opportuny wherever prents some s the man qutn is very addicted to real or virtual experienc of gay sex. He uld be a gay or bisexual man who is a sex addict or he uld be a straight man whose actg out behavr scenar is wh gay sex addictn therapists we are often unable to answer the qutn of orientatn until the addictn has been addrsed.

You uld say that some suatns addictn tmps orientatn, and is only after the person has worked through the unnsc issu drivg the addictn and e to some level of sobriety om the dg of his actg out behavr that we n beg to see whether he actually has a gay or bi or straight orientatn. In terms of pure numbers, we know that the vast majory of those who have gay sex intify as straight — and this is te for both women and men. The dividuals tend to engage gay sex private enunters, wh some appearg to be early phas of “g out” as not straight.

HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY

Though they loved the sexual experience and wanted to have a future relatnship wh the person, they had mixed attus toward homosexualy and premaral sex. Hence, they believed that homosexual relatns were almost always wrong and scribed their polics as nservative. Bee only four sexual orientatn optns were given to stunts — heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, and don’t know — perhaps many of the dividuals were misplaced the straight tegory.

Are the the men who will bee vigilant wh anti-gay rhetoric, and who will e eher their nservative relig or polil beliefs to jtify their behavr?

If we lived a culture which havg some gree of same-sex sexualy did not imply that you th had to be the “dread” lbian, gay, or bisexual, would be easier for dividuals who stggle or n’t ci their sexualy to be te to their thentic self. Would this help them to curb their animosy toward homosexualy and let them accept their same-sex sexualy whout feelg stigmatized?

WHY ARE PEOPLE GAY? GAY BY CHOICE OR IS BEG GAY GEIC?

IN THESE days when no TV s is plete whout a gay character or two, when openly gay men and women are erng ci, and when all thory matters of style and fashn has been ced to the queer eye, you might thk that succs-oriented heterosexuals would be lg up for nversn to homosexualy. But, sad to say, the market for sexual nversn is still driven maly by unhappy homosexuals who want out.