When a straight woman marri a gay man, what do she experience?
Contents:
- WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
- 'THEY JT WANTED TO SILENCE HER': THE DARK SI OF GAY STAN CULTURE
- WHY IS THAT SOME GAY MEN EMPLOY AN EFFEMATE VOICE?
- WHY GAY MEN AND TRANS HATE WOMENTHEY'RE PETN
- LBIANS MORE ACCEPTED THAN GAY MEN AROUND THE WORLD, STUDY FDS
- THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT
- DO GAY MEN HATE WOMEN?
WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN: BONNIE KAYE'S STORY
* gay men that hate women *
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This is the systematic opprsn of women, an jtice we ntribute to every time we ll women “bch” and thk ’s OK — bee we’re gay. On the eve of a polil admistratn that is cidly antiwomen, wh a print-elect who has eely bragged about sexual asslt, we n no longer s idly by and allow this behavr among gay men to ntue. Blanket refals to a certa mographic of gay men — black, Asian, HIV-posive, kky — dite that you’re the sort of person who ref to see people beyond their membership said mographic.
If you thk all fem guys are unattractive and refe to see them as more than their femy, you’re a gay misogynist.
'THEY JT WANTED TO SILENCE HER': THE DARK SI OF GAY STAN CULTURE
For gay men, ‘stanng’ – beg a super fan of – female pop stars n be a valuable part of your inty. But too often this fandom laps to misogyny and body shamg * gay men that hate women *
When I was a baby gay (high school, llege), I ed to make gaggg nois when people talked about vagas. Some women have appropriated slurs like “bch” and “cunt” as power terms, jt as many gay men (not me) ll themselv “faggots.
For example, I eely e “queer” spe s history as a slur, and I love llg myself and other gay men “homos, ” even though some nsir this word a slur also ( my fense, “homo” is more basely factual than any other term: I am, after all, a homosexual). You thk promiscuy is a basic part of gay male culture, but a promiscuo woman is “slutty. When a fellow homo gets too dnk at the bar and gets horny or touchy, or do somethg embarrassg, you say, “Girl’s tanked.
Sure, I ll fellow homos “girl” sometim, particularly at the gay gym, when ma egos are flarg.
WHY IS THAT SOME GAY MEN EMPLOY AN EFFEMATE VOICE?
This also appli to gay women and their employment of the mascule ton. * gay men that hate women *
Callg other gay men “girl” or “girliend” om a long-held tradn that go as far back as Harry Hay and the Gay Liberatn Front. More and more gay bars are beg queer havens as our muny wak up to the fact that there are others the acronym bis gay men. If you’re perturbed at the number of queer women at your next Pri para, you’re a gay misogynist.
I don’t have much to say about the “gay bros, ” the Redd group of masc-only homos who enjoy hunt’ and fish’ and sportsball and all that ddy stuff.
I see a group of boys wh massive ternalized homophobia latchg on to everythg they nsir “straight” an attempt to be ls gay. I take a very oppose approach, believg gay and queer culture is very different om the world of our hetero unterparts — a wonrland of circu parti and glory hol and fabulo terr sign.
WHY GAY MEN AND TRANS HATE WOMENTHEY'RE PETN
I’ve met so many gay bros who hate women, hate femy, and don’t want anythg to do wh guys who “act gay” (when they say this, they mean “act feme”). I’ve heard gay guys say that their masculy needs fendg bee ’s the way thgs are, the “right way, ” the “rrect way” for men, gay or straight, to behave. If somethg is “right, ” “stctive, ” and “te, ” why n’t we s back, lete the gay bros Redd, and allow nature to do s thg?
LBIANS MORE ACCEPTED THAN GAY MEN AROUND THE WORLD, STUDY FDS
This means you hold a stance that women don’t have tonomy over their bodi — a bizarre stance nsirg the fact that, as a gay man, you are not a woman and nnot speak to female inty. But jt as people regnize the wrongns of their racist upbrggs, and change om homophob to queer alli, you n start upliftg women the way they serve to be uplifted. Fet the time-worn parallels between women and gay men that get touted everywhere, which are based on the assumptns that women are straight and all queer men are gay, not bi.
I recently spoke wh Bonnie Kaye, thor of Straight Wiv, Shattered Liv: Stori of Women wh Gay Hbands, among other books, and host of Bonnie Kaye’s Straight Wiv Talk Show on BlogTalkRad.
THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT
Bonnie has spent much of her adult life first livg wh and attemptg to love a gay hband and then helpg other women the same mis-marriage suatn.
Bee I know untls gay men who were once married to straight women, wh varyg gre of short and longer-term happs and misery, I wanted to discs this topic, and I wanted to do so om the straight wiv’ perspective. Our discsn was wi-rangg, begng wh her own marriage to a gay man and progrsg to how she was able to move on post-marriage, eventually beg a rock for other women siar suatns. So if somebody told me they’d tried somethg but they didn’t like , there would be no reason for me to thk that the person was gay.
DO GAY MEN HATE WOMEN?
He was a karate teacher, martial arts, a strong guy, looked like Sylvter Stallone, and gay was not one of the issu I thought about wh him. Then somebody who was part of my social work rmed me, a uple of weeks before we were supposed to get married, that he had spicns that Robert was gay.
Then, wh the AIDS epimic, a lot of men who were gay felt as if they uld be straight, was a good time to be straight. And at the end of the day, wasn’t the fact that he was gay that was so vastatg to me, was the way that he treated me. It’s an ternalized homophobia that I see a lot, even among gay men who are out and open.