Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY
- IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
- HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
- WHY DO SOME GAY MEN INTIFY AS "STRAIGHT-ACTG" AND HOW IS IT RELATED TO WELL-BEG?
- HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
- HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY
* how to act straight when gay *
If they're "supportg" you but only if you choose to act like you aren't gay, that isn't te support and may be toxic. Jt don't No starg at guys, keep the gay voice down to a mimum, no wrist actn, and be fortable wh other guys.
IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?
There are lots of reasons why you might want to know if your iend is gay. There are some important thgs that you have to unrstand about this suatn before gog forward, however. Someone's sexualy is highly plex and highly... * how to act straight when gay *
Hontly, if you thk about , you n't really act straight, straight guys n act a whole lot gayer than some gay guys n, s sorta funny.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
Recent lerature has scribed the phenomenon of "straight-actg" gay men: gay men who intify wh tradnal heteronormative masculy. The current study examed predictors of "straight-actg" intifitn gay men and how intifyg as straight-actg relat to well-beg. A sample … * how to act straight when gay *
Thgs that set off my gaydar are body language and fashn.
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HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GUY FRIEND IS GAY
However, most people will not assume someone is gay based solely on the thgs, pecially fay members who thk they know you. There's no need to spout homophobic slurs, or make fun of LGBT+ people jt bee you're pretendg to be straight.
My parents are super nservative so I uld possibly be disowned and or thrown out of the hoe for beg gay:(. This week I have been asked if I was gay, trans, or the f word 4 tim. Disregardg all evince that the ex-gay movement is credibly damagg to more than 90% of those who unrgo "treatment" (bee they clearly jt didn't believe God enough), Settg Captiv Free wants you to know that you were not "born this way.
" Homosexualy is a s that you need to purge om your system, and the only way to do is to follow their three-parts-a-day the app is only downloadable om Google Play (iTun and the 69, 822+ people who petned them don't believe nversn therapy for some reason), there is an abridged versn available on the mistry’s webse. But Hont About Your S (But Not TOO Hont): Adm that you have homosexual tennci, but don’t say anythg else about . Stop Callg Your Homosexualy an "Alternative Liftyle": It's "Wicked, " "Evil, " and a "S": The are the only thgs you should ever ll om now on, preferably hhed ton.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
Even better, feel ee to refer to your homosexualy wh water-based metaphors: It's a "broken cistern" that will never satisfy your thirst. Change For the Right Reasons (the Glory Of God): After all, homosexualy is nothg but "lt, porn, and sexual immoraly, " ss that are applible only to gay people and never to straight on. Always Read Scripture, But Only the Parts We Tell You to: Who knew curg homosexualy uld be so much like dog high school homework?
Remove Yourself From Anythg Even Remotely Gay: Don't watch porn (aga, 's only a gay thg), don't go on gay webs, and most of all, certaly don't associate wh gay people. Any of those thgs might make you feel like your homosexualy is a natural part of your inty and n be accepted by those around you.
Realize That Beg Homosexual Mak You Feel Alone Fet that we told you to shut yourself away om most of the world, and ignore the ia that maybe gay people feel so alone bee of the discrimatory and hateful attus that they face, helped by people like . Rencile Wh Those Who Tried to Help You Stop Beg Gay: All those people who lled you "faggot" and told you that you were gog to Hell?
WHY DO SOME GAY MEN INTIFY AS "STRAIGHT-ACTG" AND HOW IS IT RELATED TO WELL-BEG?
If you tly believe God and want to change your sful ways, God will remove all homosexual urg om your md. But if at the end of this 60-day therapy, you still have homosexual tennci, then you didn't really believe and you didn't really want to change. Joseph Nilosi, a psychologist Enco, Calif., says he n rid adults, teens, and even children of homosexualy.
"If [a patient] n accept his bodily homoerotic experience while stayg nnected to the therapist, " he wrote The Paradox of Self-Acceptance, "the sexual feelg soon transforms to somethg else: the regnn of eper, pa-generated emotnal needs which have nothg to do wh sexualy.
HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
Both APAs have led that the therapi are unscientific and possibly harmful — not to mentn unnecsary, sce homosexualy was officially -classified as an illns 1973, and therefore n't be "cured.
The few that did have "high-qualy" evince "show that endurg change to an dividual's sexual orientatn is unmon, " and that treatments tend to change sexual orientatn may e harm, cludg prsn and mental Dark AgHomosexualy was officially labeled a mental illns the U.
He was unsuccsful, and nclud that attempts to change homosexual orientatn were likely to fail.
HOW DO I KNOW IF I AM GAY? SIGNS YOU ARE GAY
Given that homosexual activy was also crimally prosecuted the U. Another method was satiatn therapy, which a subject was told to masturbate over and over while verbally scribg his homosexual fantasi, until they disappeared — or, at least, "therapi" were generally effective — the person remaed attracted to the same sex — or over-effective — the person was trmatized and lost all sexual aroal entirely. They "were ed whout people thkg about whether they were humane, " Glassgold all treatments were so gome: Lnel Ovey, a Columbia Universy psychoanalyst and thor of Homosexualy and Psdohomosexualy, created a behavral method the 1960s.
It was based on the ia that homosexualy origated om a fear of takg on the normal quali of one's genr.