Is Your Man Gay, Straight, or Bisexual? | Psychology Today

Contents:

• AM I GAY?
• I THOUGHT I WAS GAY BUT NOW I'M QUTNG MY ORIENTATN
• HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY
• PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT
• HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?
• AM I GAY OR BISEXUAL? QUIZ
• I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?
• HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY
• IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

AM I GAY?

Gay - While this adjective has historilly scribed men who are attracted to other men, the term now is ed to refer to anyone who experienc romantic, emotnal, or physil attractn to people of the same genr. Sce genr inty and sexual orientatn are separate, transgenr people n intify as straight, gay, lbian, bisexual, etc. If a iend of yours is gay and v you for a sleepover, and they make a move on you, what do you do?

Jt as if you were qutng your orientatn and thkg you might be gay, I n offer some background basics and thgs to thk about. However, along the l of sexualy beg fluid, I feel that while there are certaly people who are jt attracted to people of the same genr or a different genr (or asexual), most people fall somewhere on a broad spectm between gay and straight (and beyond! Unfortunately, more often than not, 's not easy beg gay.

Not bee beg gay self is hard, but bee of societal prsure and judgement. As you said yourself, beg gay is, or has bee, a major part of your inty.

I THOUGHT I WAS GAY BUT NOW I'M QUTNG MY ORIENTATN

You're out and proud and feelg at home your lol and the greater gay muny. Likewise, we don't want or need people who re about but do not re for our sexual orientatn, such as a well-tentned parent, to tell they are relieved that we, fact, not gay. Our two ma articl on this very topic, The Be Be: A Homosexualy and Bisexualy Primer and Bi the Dozen: A Bisexualy Quiz addrs this que extensively.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

Speakg of articl, I'd also suggt readg The Makgs of a Homo on a young guy intifyg as gay (I realize you are beyond this step your personal journey, but you still might fd tertg) and well as Makg Sense of Sexual Media. Gay, straight, bi or beyond, the articl Supermol: Creatg & Nurturg Your Own Bt Relatnship Mols and Pothol & Dead Ends: Relatnship Roadblocks to Look Out For brg up important relatnship nsiratns. As I allud to a b the first part of my rponse, when you're queer, n be hard to claim that inty, form that muny and more; beg gay be a huge part of who you are.

The gay muny tends to be close kn, but jt bee you're not datg a guy don't mean you have to be ostracized om ! In fact, when you thk about , the gay muny tends to be a very open and acceptg group. Everyone I meet thks I’m gay.

PEOPLE THK I'M GAY... BUT I'M NOT

So ’s been a mon trend ever sce I was highschool that everyone always asks one way or another “is he gay” or “ are you gay” and ’s gettg irratg. Most people the LGBTQ+ muny know om experience that acceptg your sexualy will lead to your beg a happier, more open this gui, the term gay has been ed to clu all forms of non-heterosexual attractn, whether that be people who are lbian, gay, bisexual, queer, pansexual, or otherwise not straight.

Know if you are gay.

Consir takg an onle sexualy quiz, like this one, to see if intifyg as gay feels right for you. There isn't any need to change yourself - beg gay is jt another way of simply existg, and there is nothg wrong wh at all. Neher is there anythg wrong wh you for beg gay.

HOW DO I KNOW I’M NOT REALLY GAY/STRAIGHT?

The fact that I am gay is jt another facet of who I am, jt as beg creative, or optimistic, or havg brown ey is. Remember that beg gay do not require you to nform to typil gay stereotyp. Most people who are gay are distguishable om those that aren't.

Beg gay do not necsarily make you any ls mascule or feme, and there is no need or prsure to nform to stereotyp that don't feel right to you - bee you are who you are. You do not need to f to the gay muny jt as much as you don't need to f to the straight muny. In 100 years, "gay" will be an entirely different ncept.

There is no evince that "helpg gay people to bee heterosexual" is possible. Homosexualy is not viewed as an illns and short, won't be treated as such.

AM I GAY OR BISEXUAL? QUIZ

There are many, many gay people all sorts of muni, and there are many people there for you when you need support. Fd a group or a hangout where you feel fortable, and where there will be other gay people to talk wh. If you were raised an environment that owns on homosexualy, you are not worth any ls.

The laws the Bible were maly for health purpos - shunng homosexualy is right next to not gettg tattoos, not eatg pork, and not wearg mixed lens, but you n bet your bottom dollar all your neighbors do those thgs. Your iends and fay love "you, " not straight you or gay you, they love you.

I AM GAY AND I'M LOVE WH A STRAIGHT, WHAT N I DO?

Unrstand that a person who is gay is no different om any other person. Like everyone else, gay people have dreams and goals and want pannship and love jt like anyone else you know. If you are the USA, there is the Gay-Straight Alliance.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE GAY

What if my whole fay is agast homosexualy?

I don't want to e out bee my siblgs may get bullied for havg a gay brother. It is important to note that the Amerin Psychologil Associatn has clared that groups claimg to cure homosexualy are dangero and unhealthy.

If you are still beg supported by parents whom you are que sure would disown you for beg gay, may be pnt to wa to tell them until you are pennt.

IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?

You may regret the acceptance of your orientatn the future, pecially if you're a part of the world where the gay muny is beg prosecuted by a specific culture.

Article SummaryXIf you stggle wh acceptg your attractn to the same sex, know that beg gay is pletely normal and you n be proud of who you are by fdg support and embracg your dividualy.