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Chris Jewell’s parents disowned him after fdg out he was gay, but he is not alone his story of parental rejectn

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‘MY PARENTS STILL WON’T ACCEPT THAT I’M GAY!’

Livg wh homophobic parents n be a paful and difficult suatn. Whether you are gay yourself, have a close loved one or iend who is, or jt support the LGBT movement general, alg wh tolerance is tough. If your... * parents don t accept im gay *

Livg wh homophobic parents n be a paful and difficult suatn. Whether you are gay yourself, have a close loved one or iend who is, or jt support the LGBT movement general, alg wh tolerance is tough.

If your parents have said or done homophobic thgs the past, you might try to ga an unrstandg of their viewpots and work to change them.

You may have heard your parents make homophobic ments before, but maybe you don't really unrstand why they feel the way they do. Start a dialogue wh them about their feelgs about gay people and e active listeng skills to tly hear their si of thgs.

HOW N I PE WH MY FAY NOT ACCEPTG ME AS BEG GAY?

In this week’s What Your Therapist Really Thks lumn, an 18-year-old wants to know what to do about his parents, who haven’t accepted that he is gay. * parents don t accept im gay *

Your parents may try to shg off when you ask "Why are you agast gay people? In some s, this might perta to their relig beliefs, but you might also unver a eper, or more personal reason that they are agast gay people.

If your parents are relig, they may have learned that homosexual relatnships, beg transgenr, or beg nonbary are wrong.

THE HOOK UP: MY MOM REF TO ACCEPT THAT I’M GAY

Many parents stggle for years to adjt after learng child is gay, acrdg to a new study om Gee Washgton Universy public health rearchers. * parents don t accept im gay *

They may stggle to accept that homosexualy is natural and part of who you are. They may even have a change of heart and stop beg so homophobic. Even if your parents rema homophobic to some gree, they may soften up over time to mata a relatnship wh you.

Also, if your parents are extremely homophobic, you may need to take preutns to protect your own emotnal well-beg and ensure you will still have a home and fancial support spe their beliefs.

MANY PARENTS STGGLE TO ADJT AFTER LEARNG CHILD IS GAY, STUDY FDS

I told my mum I was gay when I was 16 and her reactn was “Don’t tell your dad”. I was really surprised; I hontly thought she might already spect . * parents don t accept im gay *

Article SummaryXDealg wh homophobic parents n be a challenge but try to listen to their views whout argug so you n unrstand their posn.

MY FAY CANNOT ACCEPT THAT I AM GAYI TOLD MY MUM I WAS GAY WHEN I WAS 16 AND HER REACTN WAS “DON’T TELL YOUR DAD”. I WAS REALLY SURPRISED; I HONTLY THOUGHT SHE MIGHT ALREADY SPECT AND BE FE WH . I TOLD DAD A YEAR LATER AND, NOT KNOWG I’D ALREADY TOLD MUM, HE SAID ‘IT’LL KILL HER”. FOR ME; WAS A RELIEF TO GET THGS THE OPEN, BUT FOR MONTHS AFTERWARDS, WAS AS IF SOMEONE HAD DIED. I FELT REALLY GUILTY – NO ONE WANTS TO HURT THEIR PARENTS. BUT THE WORST REACTN WAS MY SISTER’S. SHE SAID WAS DISGTG.  I AM NOW 33 AND LIVG WH MY PARTNER, I ASSUME MY PARENTS ARE OKAY WH THIS AND LIKE HIM, BUT WE’VE NOT HAD A SGLE NVERSATN ABOUT . MY SISTER’S GETTG MARRIED THIS YEAR, AND THERE’S BEEN NO MENTN OF MY PARTNER OF THREE YEARS BEG VED. MY PARENTS HAVEN’T PROTTED OR EVEN MENTNED THIS. I DON’T WANT TO NOT GO, BUT I FEEL DISLOYAL TO HIM, AND TO MYSELF A WAY, IF I GO WHOUT HIM. IN THE LONG TERM I THK ‘WHAT DO MATTER?’ BUT ON THE OTHER HAND I ALSO THK THE TENSN BETWEEN ME AND MY FAY MAY NEVER GO. CALUM, BOROUGHMICHAELA SAYS

If you’re gay yourself, make clear that you’re not askg for your parents’ permissn, sce you didn’t choose your sexualy. "I'm an openly gay teen who has stggled wh prsn and suicidal thoughts.

'RETURN THE KEY': THE PARENTS WHO REJECT THEIR GAY CHILDREN

My parents found out I was gay almost three years ago.

HOW TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE GAY

Your beg gay, Normal Son, chang your parents’ story, and this plot twist terrifi them precisely bee they want you to be happy.

Perhaps they thk that beg gay means that you’ll face prejudice and hatred — and sadly, bee homophobic people are out there, they may be right.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* PARENTS DON T ACCEPT IM GAY

Many parents stggle to adjt after learng child is gay, study fds .

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