How to Deal when Your Bt Friend Is Gay: 12 Steps

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• ASK O'LEARY: I'M STRAIGHT BUT ATTRACTED TO A MALE FRIEND!{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}CULTUREBY TIM O'LEARYJUNE 5, 2014/4:13 PMBY TIM O'LEARYJUNE 5, 2014 / 4:13 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ASK O'LEARY: I'M STRAIGHT BUT ATTRACTED TO A MALE FRIEND!","DATEPUBLISHED":"2014-06-05T20:13:53.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2014-06-05T20:13:53.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TIM O'LEARY","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"CULTURE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DEAR TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M A 23-YEAR-OLD STRAIGHT GUY, BUT NOW SOMETHG HAPPENED THAT MAK ME NOT SURE I N STILL LL MYSELF THAT. I WENT ON A MPG TRIP WH FIVE OF MY GUY IENDS LAST WEEKEND BEE ONE OF THEM WAS GETTG MARRIED. WE FIGURED WOULD BE OUR LAST HURRAH AS A GROUP OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ONE OF MY IENDS (WE’LL LL HIM PETE) IS GAY, AND THAT’S NEVER EVEN BEEN AN ISSUE FOR ANY OF . SO WE WERE MPG BY A LAKE, AND CID TO GO SKNY-DIPPG AT NIGHT. WHAT I LEARNED WAS THAT PETE WAS THE MOST WELL-ENDOWED OF THE GROUP, AND I ULDN’T STOP STARG AT HIM. HE SEEMED TO NOTICE, AND I SAW THAT HE WAS STARTG TO GET HARD, SO HE JT STAYED THE WATER FOR THE RT OF THE TIME WE WERE SWIMMG (EVEN THOUGH EVERYONE ELSE WAS G AND OUT).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOTHG HAPPENED AFTER THAT, BUT I N’T STOP THKG ABOUT HIS C@*K. I NEVER WANTED TO DO ANYTHG WH A GUY BEFORE, AND I N’T SEE MYSELF KISSG HIM OR HAVG SEX, BUT I’VE ACTUALLY FANTASIZED ABOUT GOG DOWN ON HIM. IS WEIRD TO JT WANT THAT AND ONLY THAT? AND DO THAT MEAN I’M BI? I’VE NEVER BEEN ATTRACTED TO A GUY AT ALL BEFORE, EVER. AND I THK ABOUT ALL THE GUYS I KNOW OR SEE ON TV AND FEEL NOTHG. THIS IS TOTALLY EAKG ME OUT. SO WHAT GIV?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WELL, IF YOU’RE CRAVG YOUR IEND’S DONG, T, I THK ’S SAFE TO SAY YOU’RE PROBABLY NOT 100% {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO IS THE NEXT STOP BI-TOWN?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU’VE SPENT A LIFETIME LTG AFTER LADI AND LADY-BS, BUT ONLY GOT DISTRACTED BY ONE VERY SPECIAL AND UNIQUELY WELL-PROPORTNED FLH-PENDULUM. SURELY THAT N’T MEAN YOU’RE REALLY BI, RIGHT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NO, TOTALLY DO-- AND THAT'S OKAY. HERE’S {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}UNLIKE GAY AND STRAIGHT, WHICH ARE RIGID AND BARY, BISEXUAL IS AN UMBRELLA TERM, SCRIBG EVERYTHG BETWEEN, UP TO AND CLUDG ONLY HAVG ONE STANCE OF SAME-SEX ATTRACTN. BUT PEOPLE GET SRED OFF BY THE LABEL BEE THERE’S STILL SUCH A STIGMA ATTACHED TO , BY BOTH THE GAY AND STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF WE ULD GET RID OF THE HEAVY BURN THAT WH BI-CURSY, PEOPLE LIKE OUR BUDDY T HERE WOULDN’T NEED TO "TOTALLY EAK OUT" IF THEY HAVE A STRAY SAME-SEX ATTRACTN. BEE HERE’S THE THG: THE LE BETWEEN STRAIGHT AND BI (OR GAY AND BI) IS RAZOR TH. IT’S A ACTN OF A CENTIMETER. I’M NOT SAYG EVERY SGLE BRO-IT OF BROS IS SECRETLY HANKERG FOR THE KNOB. I’M JT SAYG IF HE DO ACCINTALLY FALL FACE-DOWN ON HIS BT BRO’S LAP, ’S NOT REALLY THAT BIG OF A AL, AND SHOULDN’T NECSATE A HUGE CRISIS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO MY ADVICE TO YOU, T? TREAT YOUR SUDN TERT AS YOU WOULD ANY OTHER SUDN TERT: DULGE AND SEE WHAT YOU THK. I’M NOT SAYG HOOK UP WH YOUR MEAT-PACKG IEND, THOUGH. IF YOU’RE ALL AS CLOSE AS YOU SAY, THAT ULD BE THE E OF SOME SER PLITNS YOUR RELATNSHIP, BEE WHILE YOU MAY NOT SEE YOURSELF AS BEG ABLE TO LOVE ANOTHER MAN, HE AS A GAY MAN MOST LIKELY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOUR BUDDY ISN’T THE ONLY DU WH A BIG STICK OUT THERE. FD ANOTHER AND GO TO TOWN. YOU MIGHT LIKE , AND WANT TO DO AGA. OR YOU MIGHT FD S REALLY NOT FOR YOU. EHER WAY,  WON'T FUNDAMENTALLY CHANGE ANYTHG ABOUT WHO YOU {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WRG QUTN HERE. I JT GRADUATED OM LLEGE WH A GREE CREATIVE WRG AND FEEL KD OF LOST. I’VE WRTEN A FEW NOVELLAS THAT I DON’T FEEL ARE UP TO PAR WH BOOKS I’VE READ, BUT AREN’T TOO BAD. MY QUTN TO YOU IS: HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN ’S TIME TO GIVE UP ON A PROJECT AND MOVE ON? SHOULD I JT LET THE OLD NOVELLAS GO AND WORK ON SOMETHG NEW, OR SHOULD I WORK ON WHAT I HAVE? I’M ALSO WORRIED THEY’RE A LTLE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOT QUE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HERE’S AN ANSWER THAT SHOULD TRATE YOU: DO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FIRST OF ALL, YOU SHOULD PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR FISHG ANYTHG, BEE THAT AND OF SELF N SEEM IMPOSSIBLE. BUT YOU DID ! YAY YOU!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS WORK ON SOMETHG NEW TO KEEP YOUR JUIC FLOWG, BUT NEVER GIVE UP ON AN OLD PROJECT. I'LL GIVE YOU A TOTALLY DULGENT EXAMPLE. FOUR YEARS AGO, MY BUDDY JOSH BERRFORD (OF TV’S DANTE’S COVE) ASKED ME TO WRE A PILOT FOR HIM. SOMEHOW HE ME UP WH THE IA OF WEREWOLV ON A TROPIL ISLAND, AND BASILLY JT LEFT ME TO DO WHAT I DO, WHICH IS TRY TO WRE LIKE I'M DOG MY BT JOSS WHEDON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ACTUALLY ME UP WH A SCRIPT I WAS PRETTY HAPPY WH, BUT OVER TIME LOST THE DRIVE TO KEEP PHG AT . MY BUDDY, ON THE OTHER HAND, KEPT AT AND YTERDAY THE SAG FOUNDATN HELD AN DTRY READG OF THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE POT, BEYOND TOTALLY BRAGGG? NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR PROJECTS, BEE YOU NEVER KNOW WHICH ON MIGHT BE THE BREAKOUTS. JT BE SURE TO ALWAYS BE WORKG ON SOMETHG NEW AT THE SAME TIME, TO KEEP YOUR JUIC FLOWG. AND REMEMBER, REVISN, REVISN, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS IS BUGGG ME AND I DIDN’T KNOW WHO ELSE TO ASK. NOW THAT THEY MA MALEFICENT, WHO’S NEXT? URSULA THE SEA WCH? SR? WHY IS DISNEY G EVERYTHG WH GRTY REBOOTS?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DISNEY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I HAVEN’T ACTUALLY SEEN MALEFICENT YET - I’VE BEEN TOO BY SHAMELSLY PLUGGG MY OWN PROJECTS (SEE ABOVE) - BUT I DON’T SEE AS DISNEY G EVERYTHG. I SEE AS NEW WRERS EXPLORG IAS CREATED BY PAST WRERS AND SPNG TO SOMETHG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OR, AS I LIKE TO LL - {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THOUGH SHE WASN’T THE FIRST TO DO , THE MAJOR AWARD FOR "RE-IMAGGS OM THE VILLA’S POT OF VIEW" WOULD HAVE TO GO TO MARN ZIMMER BRADLEY FOR HER EPIC SP ON ARTHURIAN LEGEND, THE MISTS OF AVALON, TOLD LARGELY THROUGH THE EY OR MAN LE FEY. AND THEN, TWELVE YEARS LATER, GREGORY MAGUIRE STCK GOLD WHEN HE DID THE SAME THG WH THE WIZARD OF OZ AND ME UP WH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYWAY, MY POT IS THAT WRERS HAVE ALWAYS BEGGED, BORROWED, AND STOLEN - MOSTLY STOLEN - OM OTHER WRERS WHO HAVE E BEFORE THEM. IT’S HOW THE WHOLE NCEPT OF WRG BEGAN, IF YOU WANT TO GET SUPER-NERDY-AMIC ABOUT . STORI WERE FIRST TOLD THROUGH THE ORAL POETIC TRADN, PASSED DOWN BY WORD OF MOUTH, EACH TELLER ADDG THEIR OWN TWIST. AND AS WE N SEE WH MALEFICENT, THAT’S STILL HAPPENG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO HERE’S WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO, DL. REMEMBER THAT 55 YEARS AGO, AT THE TIME WAS MA, SLEEPG BETY WASN’T A CLASSIC WH S OF INOGRAPHY EMBEDD TO . IT WAS JT A BRAND NEW MOVIE THAT HAD THE DACY TO REVENT AN AGE-OLD FAIRY TALE FOR A NEW {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}KDA LIKE MALEFICENT IS DOG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MORE OF THE LUMN FORMERLY KNOWN AS ASK JT! HERE. {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TO ASK TIM A QUTN, EMAIL HIM AT (AND TRY TO KEEP TO THREE PARAGRAPHS OR LS). OR YOU N BE SUPER TECH-SEXY AND ASK VIA {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS
• AS A STRAIGHT MAN, HOW N I POLELY STOP MY GAY IEND FLIRTG WH ME?
• HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM
• HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY
• AM I GAY?

ASK O'LEARY: I'M STRAIGHT BUT ATTRACTED TO A MALE FRIEND!{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}CULTUREBY TIM O'LEARYJUNE 5, 2014/4:13 PMBY TIM O'LEARYJUNE 5, 2014 / 4:13 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ASK O'LEARY: I'M STRAIGHT BUT ATTRACTED TO A MALE FRIEND!","DATEPUBLISHED":"2014-06-05T20:13:53.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2014-06-05T20:13:53.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TIM O'LEARY","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"CULTURE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DEAR TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M A 23-YEAR-OLD STRAIGHT GUY, BUT NOW SOMETHG HAPPENED THAT MAK ME NOT SURE I N STILL LL MYSELF THAT. I WENT ON A MPG TRIP WH FIVE OF MY GUY IENDS LAST WEEKEND BEE ONE OF THEM WAS GETTG MARRIED. WE FIGURED WOULD BE OUR LAST HURRAH AS A GROUP OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ONE OF MY IENDS (WE’LL LL HIM PETE) IS GAY, AND THAT’S NEVER EVEN BEEN AN ISSUE FOR ANY OF . SO WE WERE MPG BY A LAKE, AND CID TO GO SKNY-DIPPG AT NIGHT. WHAT I LEARNED WAS THAT PETE WAS THE MOST WELL-ENDOWED OF THE GROUP, AND I ULDN’T STOP STARG AT HIM. HE SEEMED TO NOTICE, AND I SAW THAT HE WAS STARTG TO GET HARD, SO HE JT STAYED THE WATER FOR THE RT OF THE TIME WE WERE SWIMMG (EVEN THOUGH EVERYONE ELSE WAS G AND OUT).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOTHG HAPPENED AFTER THAT, BUT I N’T STOP THKG ABOUT HIS C@*K. I NEVER WANTED TO DO ANYTHG WH A GUY BEFORE, AND I N’T SEE MYSELF KISSG HIM OR HAVG SEX, BUT I’VE ACTUALLY FANTASIZED ABOUT GOG DOWN ON HIM. IS WEIRD TO JT WANT THAT AND ONLY THAT? AND DO THAT MEAN I’M BI? I’VE NEVER BEEN ATTRACTED TO A GUY AT ALL BEFORE, EVER. AND I THK ABOUT ALL THE GUYS I KNOW OR SEE ON TV AND FEEL NOTHG. THIS IS TOTALLY EAKG ME OUT. SO WHAT GIV?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WELL, IF YOU’RE CRAVG YOUR IEND’S DONG, T, I THK ’S SAFE TO SAY YOU’RE PROBABLY NOT 100% {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO IS THE NEXT STOP BI-TOWN?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU’VE SPENT A LIFETIME LTG AFTER LADI AND LADY-BS, BUT ONLY GOT DISTRACTED BY ONE VERY SPECIAL AND UNIQUELY WELL-PROPORTNED FLH-PENDULUM. SURELY THAT N’T MEAN YOU’RE REALLY BI, RIGHT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NO, TOTALLY DO-- AND THAT'S OKAY. HERE’S {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}UNLIKE GAY AND STRAIGHT, WHICH ARE RIGID AND BARY, BISEXUAL IS AN UMBRELLA TERM, SCRIBG EVERYTHG BETWEEN, UP TO AND CLUDG ONLY HAVG ONE STANCE OF SAME-SEX ATTRACTN. BUT PEOPLE GET SRED OFF BY THE LABEL BEE THERE’S STILL SUCH A STIGMA ATTACHED TO , BY BOTH THE GAY AND STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF WE ULD GET RID OF THE HEAVY BURN THAT WH BI-CURSY, PEOPLE LIKE OUR BUDDY T HERE WOULDN’T NEED TO "TOTALLY EAK OUT" IF THEY HAVE A STRAY SAME-SEX ATTRACTN. BEE HERE’S THE THG: THE LE BETWEEN STRAIGHT AND BI (OR GAY AND BI) IS RAZOR TH. IT’S A ACTN OF A CENTIMETER. I’M NOT SAYG EVERY SGLE BRO-IT OF BROS IS SECRETLY HANKERG FOR THE KNOB. I’M JT SAYG IF HE DO ACCINTALLY FALL FACE-DOWN ON HIS BT BRO’S LAP, ’S NOT REALLY THAT BIG OF A AL, AND SHOULDN’T NECSATE A HUGE CRISIS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO MY ADVICE TO YOU, T? TREAT YOUR SUDN TERT AS YOU WOULD ANY OTHER SUDN TERT: DULGE AND SEE WHAT YOU THK. I’M NOT SAYG HOOK UP WH YOUR MEAT-PACKG IEND, THOUGH. IF YOU’RE ALL AS CLOSE AS YOU SAY, THAT ULD BE THE E OF SOME SER PLITNS YOUR RELATNSHIP, BEE WHILE YOU MAY NOT SEE YOURSELF AS BEG ABLE TO LOVE ANOTHER MAN, HE AS A GAY MAN MOST LIKELY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOUR BUDDY ISN’T THE ONLY DU WH A BIG STICK OUT THERE. FD ANOTHER AND GO TO TOWN. YOU MIGHT LIKE , AND WANT TO DO AGA. OR YOU MIGHT FD S REALLY NOT FOR YOU. EHER WAY,  WON'T FUNDAMENTALLY CHANGE ANYTHG ABOUT WHO YOU {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WRG QUTN HERE. I JT GRADUATED OM LLEGE WH A GREE CREATIVE WRG AND FEEL KD OF LOST. I’VE WRTEN A FEW NOVELLAS THAT I DON’T FEEL ARE UP TO PAR WH BOOKS I’VE READ, BUT AREN’T TOO BAD. MY QUTN TO YOU IS: HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN ’S TIME TO GIVE UP ON A PROJECT AND MOVE ON? SHOULD I JT LET THE OLD NOVELLAS GO AND WORK ON SOMETHG NEW, OR SHOULD I WORK ON WHAT I HAVE? I’M ALSO WORRIED THEY’RE A LTLE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOT QUE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HERE’S AN ANSWER THAT SHOULD TRATE YOU: DO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FIRST OF ALL, YOU SHOULD PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR FISHG ANYTHG, BEE THAT AND OF SELF N SEEM IMPOSSIBLE. BUT YOU DID ! YAY YOU!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS WORK ON SOMETHG NEW TO KEEP YOUR JUIC FLOWG, BUT NEVER GIVE UP ON AN OLD PROJECT. I'LL GIVE YOU A TOTALLY DULGENT EXAMPLE. FOUR YEARS AGO, MY BUDDY JOSH BERRFORD (OF TV’S DANTE’S COVE) ASKED ME TO WRE A PILOT FOR HIM. SOMEHOW HE ME UP WH THE IA OF WEREWOLV ON A TROPIL ISLAND, AND BASILLY JT LEFT ME TO DO WHAT I DO, WHICH IS TRY TO WRE LIKE I'M DOG MY BT JOSS WHEDON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ACTUALLY ME UP WH A SCRIPT I WAS PRETTY HAPPY WH, BUT OVER TIME LOST THE DRIVE TO KEEP PHG AT . MY BUDDY, ON THE OTHER HAND, KEPT AT AND YTERDAY THE SAG FOUNDATN HELD AN DTRY READG OF THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE POT, BEYOND TOTALLY BRAGGG? NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR PROJECTS, BEE YOU NEVER KNOW WHICH ON MIGHT BE THE BREAKOUTS. JT BE SURE TO ALWAYS BE WORKG ON SOMETHG NEW AT THE SAME TIME, TO KEEP YOUR JUIC FLOWG. AND REMEMBER, REVISN, REVISN, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS IS BUGGG ME AND I DIDN’T KNOW WHO ELSE TO ASK. NOW THAT THEY MA MALEFICENT, WHO’S NEXT? URSULA THE SEA WCH? SR? WHY IS DISNEY G EVERYTHG WH GRTY REBOOTS?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DISNEY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I HAVEN’T ACTUALLY SEEN MALEFICENT YET - I’VE BEEN TOO BY SHAMELSLY PLUGGG MY OWN PROJECTS (SEE ABOVE) - BUT I DON’T SEE AS DISNEY G EVERYTHG. I SEE AS NEW WRERS EXPLORG IAS CREATED BY PAST WRERS AND SPNG TO SOMETHG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OR, AS I LIKE TO LL - {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THOUGH SHE WASN’T THE FIRST TO DO , THE MAJOR AWARD FOR "RE-IMAGGS OM THE VILLA’S POT OF VIEW" WOULD HAVE TO GO TO MARN ZIMMER BRADLEY FOR HER EPIC SP ON ARTHURIAN LEGEND, THE MISTS OF AVALON, TOLD LARGELY THROUGH THE EY OR MAN LE FEY. AND THEN, TWELVE YEARS LATER, GREGORY MAGUIRE STCK GOLD WHEN HE DID THE SAME THG WH THE WIZARD OF OZ AND ME UP WH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYWAY, MY POT IS THAT WRERS HAVE ALWAYS BEGGED, BORROWED, AND STOLEN - MOSTLY STOLEN - OM OTHER WRERS WHO HAVE E BEFORE THEM. IT’S HOW THE WHOLE NCEPT OF WRG BEGAN, IF YOU WANT TO GET SUPER-NERDY-AMIC ABOUT . STORI WERE FIRST TOLD THROUGH THE ORAL POETIC TRADN, PASSED DOWN BY WORD OF MOUTH, EACH TELLER ADDG THEIR OWN TWIST. AND AS WE N SEE WH MALEFICENT, THAT’S STILL HAPPENG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO HERE’S WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO, DL. REMEMBER THAT 55 YEARS AGO, AT THE TIME WAS MA, SLEEPG BETY WASN’T A CLASSIC WH S OF INOGRAPHY EMBEDD TO . IT WAS JT A BRAND NEW MOVIE THAT HAD THE DACY TO REVENT AN AGE-OLD FAIRY TALE FOR A NEW {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}KDA LIKE MALEFICENT IS DOG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MORE OF THE LUMN FORMERLY KNOWN AS ASK JT! HERE. {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TO ASK TIM A QUTN, EMAIL HIM AT (AND TRY TO KEEP TO THREE PARAGRAPHS OR LS). OR YOU N BE SUPER TECH-SEXY AND ASK VIA {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

We figured would be our last hurrah as a group of of my iends (we’ll ll him Pete) is gay, and that’s never even been an issue for any of . Here’s gay and straight, which are rigid and bary, bisexual is an umbrella term, scribg everythg between, up to and cludg only havg one stance of same-sex attractn. But people get sred off by the label bee there’s still such a stigma attached to , by both the gay and straight we uld get rid of the heavy burn that wh bi-cursy, people like our buddy T here wouldn’t need to "totally eak out" if they have a stray same-sex attractn.

AS A STRAIGHT MAN, HOW N I POLELY STOP MY GAY IEND FLIRTG WH ME?

Bee here’s the thg: the le between straight and bi (or gay and bi) is razor th. If you’re all as close as you say, that uld be the e of some ser plitns your relatnship, bee while you may not see yourself as beg able to love another man, he as a gay man most likely buddy isn’t the only du wh a big stick out there. One of my iends who recently me out as gay has started flirtg wh me, even though he knows I’m straight and therefore have no tert him.

No gay man has ever flirted wh me and I don’t know why: I’m iendly, I’m a good listener, I have a sexy, swarthy, stubbly look, part Eugene Levy, part Jo-Jo the Dog-Faced Circ Boy – I’m really que irristible. But, for some reason, gay men fd me very unappealg – and, to be hont, I’m a ltle once would be nice if a gay man sidled up to me and said, “Shake your bon-bon, I’m a sperado unrneath your wdow. My gay iend asked me on a date, but I'm not gay.

I should be upont and say I'm not gay, but I also uldn't re ls about what other people do. Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend. Before you share the romantic feelgs you have toward your iend, you want your iend to know that you are gay.

HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM

It is bt to jt e right out and say : “Matt, I’m gay” or “Hey, I jt wanted to let you know that I’m gay. If you haven’t already, is a good ia to tell others that you are gay, too, bis jt your iend.

How do you know if you’re gay? You uld ask, “What would you do if you were gay and had a csh on your iend?

After you tell your iend you’re gay, pay close attentn to their behavr when they’re around you for a while. Conversely, if you fd them movg away om you or not makg eye ntact, they still may be adjtg to you tellg them you’re gay.

HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY

For example, “I have wanted to tell you for a long time, even before you knew I was gay, but I waed bee I didn’t want to drop all the bombshells on you at once. How do you tell someone you are gay?

AM I GAY?

The Way Out: The Gay Man’s Gui to Freedom Chris Nutter.

Crisis: 40 Stori Revealg the Personal, Social, and Relig Pa and Trma of Growg Up Gay Ameri Mchell Gold and Mdy Dcker Greenleaf Book Group, LLC, 2008.