How to Deal when Your Bt Friend Is Gay: 12 Steps

i m not gay but i m attracted to my friend

Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend. You have also probably realized that this is a lot to al wh! You may want to be hont wh your iend about your sexualy as well as your...

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ASK O'LEARY: I'M STRAIGHT BUT ATTRACTED TO A MALE FRIEND!{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}{FONT:NORMAL 800 1.2REM/1.2 "D BOLD",SANS-SERIF;TEXT-TRANSFORM:NORMAL;LOR:HER;DISPLAY:LE-BLOCK;PADDG-BOTTOM:6PX;POSN:RELATIVE;TEXT-TRANSFORM:UPPERSE;}{BACKGROUND:#89308A;BOTTOM:0;NTENT:'';DISPLAY:BLOCK;HEIGHT:2PX;LEFT:0;POSN:ABSOLUTE;RIGHT:0;-WEBK-TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;TRANSN:ALL 0.2S EASE;WIDTH:100%;}{LEFT:51%;RIGHT:51%;WIDTH:0;}CULTUREBY TIM O'LEARYJUNE 5, 2014/4:13 PMBY TIM O'LEARYJUNE 5, 2014 / 4:13 PM{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","HEADLE":"ASK O'LEARY: I'M STRAIGHT BUT ATTRACTED TO A MALE FRIEND!","DATEPUBLISHED":"2014-06-05T20:13:53.000+0000","DATEMODIFIED":"2014-06-05T20:13:53.000+0000","IMAGE":{"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","WIDTH":1920,"HEIGHT":1080},"URL":","THOR":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"LOGO TV"},"MAENTYOFPAGE":{"@TYPE":"WEBPAGE","@ID":"},"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","@ID":","NAME":"LOGO TV","URL":","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT"}},"CREATOR":"TIM O'LEARY","KEYWORDS":"THE BACKLOT","ARTICLESECTN":"CULTURE"}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DEAR TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I’M A 23-YEAR-OLD STRAIGHT GUY, BUT NOW SOMETHG HAPPENED THAT MAK ME NOT SURE I N STILL LL MYSELF THAT. I WENT ON A MPG TRIP WH FIVE OF MY GUY IENDS LAST WEEKEND BEE ONE OF THEM WAS GETTG MARRIED. WE FIGURED WOULD BE OUR LAST HURRAH AS A GROUP OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ONE OF MY IENDS (WE’LL LL HIM PETE) IS GAY, AND THAT’S NEVER EVEN BEEN AN ISSUE FOR ANY OF . SO WE WERE MPG BY A LAKE, AND CID TO GO SKNY-DIPPG AT NIGHT. WHAT I LEARNED WAS THAT PETE WAS THE MOST WELL-ENDOWED OF THE GROUP, AND I ULDN’T STOP STARG AT HIM. HE SEEMED TO NOTICE, AND I SAW THAT HE WAS STARTG TO GET HARD, SO HE JT STAYED THE WATER FOR THE RT OF THE TIME WE WERE SWIMMG (EVEN THOUGH EVERYONE ELSE WAS G AND OUT).{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOTHG HAPPENED AFTER THAT, BUT I N’T STOP THKG ABOUT HIS C@*K. I NEVER WANTED TO DO ANYTHG WH A GUY BEFORE, AND I N’T SEE MYSELF KISSG HIM OR HAVG SEX, BUT I’VE ACTUALLY FANTASIZED ABOUT GOG DOWN ON HIM. IS WEIRD TO JT WANT THAT AND ONLY THAT? AND DO THAT MEAN I’M BI? I’VE NEVER BEEN ATTRACTED TO A GUY AT ALL BEFORE, EVER. AND I THK ABOUT ALL THE GUYS I KNOW OR SEE ON TV AND FEEL NOTHG. THIS IS TOTALLY EAKG ME OUT. SO WHAT GIV?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WELL, IF YOU’RE CRAVG YOUR IEND’S DONG, T, I THK ’S SAFE TO SAY YOU’RE PROBABLY NOT 100% {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO IS THE NEXT STOP BI-TOWN?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOU’VE SPENT A LIFETIME LTG AFTER LADI AND LADY-BS, BUT ONLY GOT DISTRACTED BY ONE VERY SPECIAL AND UNIQUELY WELL-PROPORTNED FLH-PENDULUM. SURELY THAT N’T MEAN YOU’RE REALLY BI, RIGHT?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NO, TOTALLY DO-- AND THAT'S OKAY. HERE’S {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}UNLIKE GAY AND STRAIGHT, WHICH ARE RIGID AND BARY, BISEXUAL IS AN UMBRELLA TERM, SCRIBG EVERYTHG BETWEEN, UP TO AND CLUDG ONLY HAVG ONE STANCE OF SAME-SEX ATTRACTN. BUT PEOPLE GET SRED OFF BY THE LABEL BEE THERE’S STILL SUCH A STIGMA ATTACHED TO , BY BOTH THE GAY AND STRAIGHT {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}IF WE ULD GET RID OF THE HEAVY BURN THAT WH BI-CURSY, PEOPLE LIKE OUR BUDDY T HERE WOULDN’T NEED TO "TOTALLY EAK OUT" IF THEY HAVE A STRAY SAME-SEX ATTRACTN. BEE HERE’S THE THG: THE LE BETWEEN STRAIGHT AND BI (OR GAY AND BI) IS RAZOR TH. IT’S A ACTN OF A CENTIMETER. I’M NOT SAYG EVERY SGLE BRO-IT OF BROS IS SECRETLY HANKERG FOR THE KNOB. I’M JT SAYG IF HE DO ACCINTALLY FALL FACE-DOWN ON HIS BT BRO’S LAP, ’S NOT REALLY THAT BIG OF A AL, AND SHOULDN’T NECSATE A HUGE CRISIS OF {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO MY ADVICE TO YOU, T? TREAT YOUR SUDN TERT AS YOU WOULD ANY OTHER SUDN TERT: DULGE AND SEE WHAT YOU THK. I’M NOT SAYG HOOK UP WH YOUR MEAT-PACKG IEND, THOUGH. IF YOU’RE ALL AS CLOSE AS YOU SAY, THAT ULD BE THE E OF SOME SER PLITNS YOUR RELATNSHIP, BEE WHILE YOU MAY NOT SEE YOURSELF AS BEG ABLE TO LOVE ANOTHER MAN, HE AS A GAY MAN MOST LIKELY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}YOUR BUDDY ISN’T THE ONLY DU WH A BIG STICK OUT THERE. FD ANOTHER AND GO TO TOWN. YOU MIGHT LIKE , AND WANT TO DO AGA. OR YOU MIGHT FD S REALLY NOT FOR YOU. EHER WAY,  WON'T FUNDAMENTALLY CHANGE ANYTHG ABOUT WHO YOU {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}WRG QUTN HERE. I JT GRADUATED OM LLEGE WH A GREE CREATIVE WRG AND FEEL KD OF LOST. I’VE WRTEN A FEW NOVELLAS THAT I DON’T FEEL ARE UP TO PAR WH BOOKS I’VE READ, BUT AREN’T TOO BAD. MY QUTN TO YOU IS: HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN ’S TIME TO GIVE UP ON A PROJECT AND MOVE ON? SHOULD I JT LET THE OLD NOVELLAS GO AND WORK ON SOMETHG NEW, OR SHOULD I WORK ON WHAT I HAVE? I’M ALSO WORRIED THEY’RE A LTLE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOT QUE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HERE’S AN ANSWER THAT SHOULD TRATE YOU: DO {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}FIRST OF ALL, YOU SHOULD PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR FISHG ANYTHG, BEE THAT AND OF SELF N SEEM IMPOSSIBLE. BUT YOU DID ! YAY YOU!{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}NOW, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS WORK ON SOMETHG NEW TO KEEP YOUR JUIC FLOWG, BUT NEVER GIVE UP ON AN OLD PROJECT. I'LL GIVE YOU A TOTALLY DULGENT EXAMPLE. FOUR YEARS AGO, MY BUDDY JOSH BERRFORD (OF TV’S DANTE’S COVE) ASKED ME TO WRE A PILOT FOR HIM. SOMEHOW HE ME UP WH THE IA OF WEREWOLV ON A TROPIL ISLAND, AND BASILLY JT LEFT ME TO DO WHAT I DO, WHICH IS TRY TO WRE LIKE I'M DOG MY BT JOSS WHEDON {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I ACTUALLY ME UP WH A SCRIPT I WAS PRETTY HAPPY WH, BUT OVER TIME LOST THE DRIVE TO KEEP PHG AT . MY BUDDY, ON THE OTHER HAND, KEPT AT AND YTERDAY THE SAG FOUNDATN HELD AN DTRY READG OF THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THE POT, BEYOND TOTALLY BRAGGG? NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR PROJECTS, BEE YOU NEVER KNOW WHICH ON MIGHT BE THE BREAKOUTS. JT BE SURE TO ALWAYS BE WORKG ON SOMETHG NEW AT THE SAME TIME, TO KEEP YOUR JUIC FLOWG. AND REMEMBER, REVISN, REVISN, {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}HEY TIM,{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THIS IS BUGGG ME AND I DIDN’T KNOW WHO ELSE TO ASK. NOW THAT THEY MA MALEFICENT, WHO’S NEXT? URSULA THE SEA WCH? SR? WHY IS DISNEY G EVERYTHG WH GRTY REBOOTS?{BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}DISNEY {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}I HAVEN’T ACTUALLY SEEN MALEFICENT YET - I’VE BEEN TOO BY SHAMELSLY PLUGGG MY OWN PROJECTS (SEE ABOVE) - BUT I DON’T SEE AS DISNEY G EVERYTHG. I SEE AS NEW WRERS EXPLORG IAS CREATED BY PAST WRERS AND SPNG TO SOMETHG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}OR, AS I LIKE TO LL - {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}THOUGH SHE WASN’T THE FIRST TO DO , THE MAJOR AWARD FOR "RE-IMAGGS OM THE VILLA’S POT OF VIEW" WOULD HAVE TO GO TO MARN ZIMMER BRADLEY FOR HER EPIC SP ON ARTHURIAN LEGEND, THE MISTS OF AVALON, TOLD LARGELY THROUGH THE EY OR MAN LE FEY. AND THEN, TWELVE YEARS LATER, GREGORY MAGUIRE STCK GOLD WHEN HE DID THE SAME THG WH THE WIZARD OF OZ AND ME UP WH {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}ANYWAY, MY POT IS THAT WRERS HAVE ALWAYS BEGGED, BORROWED, AND STOLEN - MOSTLY STOLEN - OM OTHER WRERS WHO HAVE E BEFORE THEM. IT’S HOW THE WHOLE NCEPT OF WRG BEGAN, IF YOU WANT TO GET SUPER-NERDY-AMIC ABOUT . STORI WERE FIRST TOLD THROUGH THE ORAL POETIC TRADN, PASSED DOWN BY WORD OF MOUTH, EACH TELLER ADDG THEIR OWN TWIST. AND AS WE N SEE WH MALEFICENT, THAT’S STILL HAPPENG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}SO HERE’S WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO, DL. REMEMBER THAT 55 YEARS AGO, AT THE TIME WAS MA, SLEEPG BETY WASN’T A CLASSIC WH S OF INOGRAPHY EMBEDD TO . IT WAS JT A BRAND NEW MOVIE THAT HAD THE DACY TO REVENT AN AGE-OLD FAIRY TALE FOR A NEW {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}KDA LIKE MALEFICENT IS DOG {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}MORE OF THE LUMN FORMERLY KNOWN AS ASK JT! HERE. {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;PADDG:24PX 0;} A{LOR:#354A4E;-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;TEXT-RATN:UNRLE;} A:HOVER, A:FOC{-WEBK-TEXT-RATN:NONE;TEXT-RATN:NONE;} B, STRONG{FONT-WEIGHT:700;}TO ASK TIM A QUTN, EMAIL HIM AT (AND TRY TO KEEP TO THREE PARAGRAPHS OR LS). OR YOU N BE SUPER TECH-SEXY AND ASK VIA {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;CLEAR:BOTH;}THE {BOX-SIZG:BORR-BOX;MARG:0 TO;WIDTH:90%;M-WIDTH:288PX;MAX-WIDTH:1440PX;M-HEIGHT:194PX;}LATT NEWS

* i m not gay but i m attracted to my friend *

We figured would be our last hurrah as a group of of my iends (we’ll ll him Pete) is gay, and that’s never even been an issue for any of .

Here’s gay and straight, which are rigid and bary, bisexual is an umbrella term, scribg everythg between, up to and cludg only havg one stance of same-sex attractn. But people get sred off by the label bee there’s still such a stigma attached to , by both the gay and straight we uld get rid of the heavy burn that wh bi-cursy, people like our buddy T here wouldn’t need to "totally eak out" if they have a stray same-sex attractn. Bee here’s the thg: the le between straight and bi (or gay and bi) is razor th.

AS A STRAIGHT MAN, HOW N I POLELY STOP MY GAY IEND FLIRTG WH ME?

It is a fairly mon phenomenon for a gay or bisexual person to bee attracted to or fall love wh one of their straight iends. In fact, is so * i m not gay but i m attracted to my friend *

If you’re all as close as you say, that uld be the e of some ser plitns your relatnship, bee while you may not see yourself as beg able to love another man, he as a gay man most likely buddy isn’t the only du wh a big stick out there.

One of my iends who recently me out as gay has started flirtg wh me, even though he knows I’m straight and therefore have no tert him. No gay man has ever flirted wh me and I don’t know why: I’m iendly, I’m a good listener, I have a sexy, swarthy, stubbly look, part Eugene Levy, part Jo-Jo the Dog-Faced Circ Boy – I’m really que irristible.

But, for some reason, gay men fd me very unappealg – and, to be hont, I’m a ltle once would be nice if a gay man sidled up to me and said, “Shake your bon-bon, I’m a sperado unrneath your wdow. My gay iend asked me on a date, but I'm not gay. I should be upont and say I'm not gay, but I also uldn't re ls about what other people do.

HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM

Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend.

Before you share the romantic feelgs you have toward your iend, you want your iend to know that you are gay.

HOW TO DEAL WHEN YOUR BT FRIEND IS GAY

It is bt to jt e right out and say : “Matt, I’m gay” or “Hey, I jt wanted to let you know that I’m gay.

If you haven’t already, is a good ia to tell others that you are gay, too, bis jt your iend. How do you know if you’re gay?

You uld ask, “What would you do if you were gay and had a csh on your iend? After you tell your iend you’re gay, pay close attentn to their behavr when they’re around you for a while.

AM I GAY?

Conversely, if you fd them movg away om you or not makg eye ntact, they still may be adjtg to you tellg them you’re gay. For example, “I have wanted to tell you for a long time, even before you knew I was gay, but I waed bee I didn’t want to drop all the bombshells on you at once.

*BEAR-MAGAZINE.COM* I M NOT GAY BUT I M ATTRACTED TO MY FRIEND

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For the entire ri, she had been avoidg tellg me the name of her new csh, who had been leavg her <a href=">forlorn and mopey</a> for weeks. I was gettg impatient.</p><p>“I need to tell you somethg first,” she said, avoidg my ey. “I’m <a href=">bisexual</a>.”</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p>“Okay,” I said slowly, elongatg the send vowel. I had never heard that word before. “What do that mean?”</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p>Wh the nfince that the oler bt iend tends to exu when explag a sndalo new topic (at least middle school), she said, “It means that I like boys <em>and</em> I like girls.”</p><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad---ntent"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot---ntent" data-no-id="suyp2"></div></div><p>And then I shouted, “Oh, my God, I’m that too!”</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>Bisexualy is more plited than that, of urse. Like her sister inti, such as <a href=">pansexualy</a> and omnisexualy, bisexualy impli an attractn to multiple (or all) genrs. (If you're wonrg, “<a href=">What is pansexualy</a>?" here's what you need to know). The simplifitn of beg attracted to men and women (pecially where the genrs are assumed to be cis) is not only rrect but also harmful. But as a kid whout a ep unrstandg of genr, I was nohels stck by my bt iend’s fn.</p><p>You see, growg up, I was nfed. Many queer kids have a siar experience: We’re prented wh only one optn of what relatnships look like—cis man pl cis woman equals te love forever!—and we n sometim sense early on that somethg about our ternal experience feels different.</p><p>In the fifth gra, when a iend of me sneered that I was gay as an sult, I thought maybe I had land on a name for what I felt. But I went home and asked my dad what that meant, and still didn’t f. I wasn’t straight like I was supposed to be, but damn , I wasn’t this untercultural “gay” thg eher.</p><p>I felt stuck. As I saw at the time, there were girls who were attracted to boys, and there were girls who were attracted to girls, but no matter how hard I tried, I uldn’t simply pick one. I was both—and I thought I was the only one.</p><p>Learng the word <em>bisexual</em> on the b that day a uple of years later was an unfettably powerful moment of validatn. Not only was there a name for what I felt, but I wasn’t alone after all.</p><p>Unfortunately, my road to strong, assured bisexual inty was riddled wh pothol, as is for many of . Over the urse of my life, bee I ternalized so much <a href=">stigma around bisexualy</a>, I’ve stggled wh claimg this inty that at first felt ctom-ma for me.</p><hr/><p>I started datg my first love, a woman, when I was 15. It was wh her that I had <a href=">my first sexual experience</a>. I was very fortable intifyg as bisexual then. I had csh galore, and genr felt irrelevant to my attractns. I also helped start the Gay/Straight Alliance at my high school. Sure, people mistook me for a lbian and hurled associated slurs at me, but I felt solid my bisexualy.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB kNleGZ sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="rlsr3rk"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="lei6m"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa UJsCn body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>When I later started datg a man, though, I felt a signifint shift. Sudnly, my peers qutned my queerns. Even my boyiend at the time told me, pot-blank, “No one is bisexual forever. You eventually have to choose.” But stead of qutng our msed-up unrstandg of sexualy, doubt started creepg to my heart stead: <em>Would</em> I eventually have to choose?</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-2 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>For many years after that, I dated cis men almost exclively, mostly as a rult of nvenience. I still intified as bisexual, bee I had csh, went on dat wh, and hooked up wh people of var genrs. But the love terts who tend to stick, who wanted me most, were cis men. I was even engaged to one before I graduated om llege! Eventually, this led me the oppose directn of what you might assume: My sexual boredom and sometim even disgt wh the men I dated led me to believe I was, and always had been, super gay after all.</p><p>So, my early 20s, I threw myself a new directn and got eply volved my lol queer muny. I dated only women for a few years, intified as a lbian, started a blog for queer femm, and eventually got to a long-term, live- relatnship wh a woman. I me out anew—only to be shocked when I later fell for a man all over aga. I tried donng a “homoflexible” label for a few years, but two boyiends later I had to s back and take a good look at my inty and why my perceptn of kept shiftg seemgly so drastilly.</p><p>What I didn’t unrstand as I tried on the different labels was that isn’t simply our behavr that dictat who we are. It’s also our ternal experience and how we choose to scribe . The normative unrstandg of bisexualy tends to falsely fe as a strict set of feelgs and actns: We’re told that bisexualy means havg equal attractn to multiple genrs and engagg wh them romantilly and sexually siar amounts. Not only is this an credibly rctive way to unrstand sexualy, but also leav many people grapplg wh whether they’re “allowed” to intify as bisexual when their experienc don’t align wh this narrow fn. That’s what happened to me before I realized I was thkg about all wrong.</p><hr/><p>It took years for me to realize that sexual fluidy (the experience of sexual inty as flowg and fluctuatg) is legimate. Now I’m fortable wh the ia that my attractns sometim shift, and wh that sometim inty chang, which are also valid.</p><p>But ’s worth qutng why bisexualy as a label kept slippg away om me, spe attractn to multiple genrs always beg a part of my sexual experience.</p><p>What do actually <em>mean</em> to be bisexual? And who is allowed to claim ?</p><p>Over the years, I’ve created and nurtured relatnships my muny wh other bisexual people, and women particular. I n’t tell you how many tim I’ve heard of this mon experience, which often throws people to a spiral of validatn: A cis woman is attracted to multiple genrs, but for var reasons has only ever engaged romantilly and/or sexually wh cis men. Maybe she regnized her attractn to others later life and is, at that pot, a <a href=">monogamo</a> life partnership already. Maybe she feels unfortable—like an imposter— queer spac, so she hasn’t been able to meet, let alone date, anyone except cis men. Maybe her cy, fay, or culture is nservative, and livg her life thentilly uld be dangero to her. She knows her heart where her attractns lie, but her experience betrays that. 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data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>Well, yeah. If that’s what she wants to ll herself, which is up to her.</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-3 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>When I was graduate school, workg toward a master’s and then a doctorate gree Human Sexualy Studi, I was troduced to the Orientatn, Behavr, and Inty (OBI) Mol. Popularized by Brent A. Satterly, Ph.D., and siar to s more famo precsors, <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">the Ksey Sle</a> and <a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">the Kle Grid</a>, aimed to be a simple amework for unrstandg the plexi of human sexualy experienc.</p><p>The OBI Mol poss that our orientatn (who we’re naturally attracted to), behavr (who we engage wh romantilly or sexually, cludg through <a href=">fantasi</a>), and inty (how we scribe ourselv) exist on pennt sl, and there are endls batns beyond the dictnary fn of any given sexualy. It says “not so fast” to the pervasive myth that orr to <em>intify</em> as bisexual, you mt be attracted to all (or multiple) genrs equally, and you mt be romantic and sexual wh all (or multiple) genrs equally. Sudnly, the puzzle piec of tryg to unrstand my own sexualy fell to place.</p><p>If you too have been grapplg wh your sexualy or sexual inty, here’s how the OBI mol suggts thkg of :</p><ul><li>Orientatn: Which genrs do you fd yourself naturally cled toward? Which genrs do you tend to be attracted to or have csh on? Who piqu your tert?</li><li>Behavr: Which genrs do you tend to have romantic and/or sexual relatnships wh? When actively datg, who are you searchg for? Which genrs do you fantasize about?</li><li>Inty: How do you scribe your ternal sense of sexual self? Which words feel ftg to you and do you feel fortable donng (even privately)? How do you see yourself as a sexual person?</li></ul><p>Here’s how that plays out for me: I fd myself attracted to people of all genrs, although some far more often than others. Most of my romantic and sexual behavr has been wh cis men and cis women, but not all of , and I choose not to actively go out of my way to date (particularly cis) men. I intify as bisexual and pansexual terchangeably bee those words scribe my experience of attractn to all genrs; I also intify as queer, particularly polilly. But I make a pot to e the term <em>bisexual</em> as often as possible to bat the notn that someone else’s ia of bisexualy f me.</p><p>Bisexualy n look like primarily beg attracted to and/or datg one genr, while also havg tert others. It n look like makg a nsc choice to date one group of people over another, spe broar attractn. It n look perfectly portned wh equal experience across genrs. Or, like wh my own experience, bisexualy n look like shiftg external behavr wh a static orientatn.</p><p>Ultimately, bisexualy isn’t a phase or a nfn or a burn. It’s a legimate experience and inty. 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