When a child first out as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn their parents' ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ SSA.
Contents:
- WHAT TO DO WHEN A GAY CHILD MARRI
- MY GAY SON’S WEDDG
- DEAR ABBY: FATHER REF TO MEET HIS GAY SON’S BOYIEND
- HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS
- MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX
- SHOULD I ATTEND THE WEDDG OF A GAY FRIEND OR FAY MEMBER?
- HOW TO INTRODUCE A MARRIED GAY COUPLE
WHAT TO DO WHEN A GAY CHILD MARRI
* my gay son is getting married *
A new book, When Your Gay Or Lbian Child Marri: A Gui for Parents, nsirs that qutn. Merrill, a soclogy profsor at Clark Universy, terviewed parents ag 50 to 80 who had both homosexual and heterosexual married adult children. One big surprise om her rearch: Parents often have better ntug relatnships wh gay upl.
MY GAY SON’S WEDDG
Gay weddgs are not whout their difficulti, particularly for parents wh mixed feelgs about their child's nuptials. "Some parents were embarrassed bee they had not prevly let the extend fay know their child was gay, " Merrill says. Merrill urg parents to be acceptg, or as one of the moms she terviewed said, "You have set asi your own feelgs about homosexualy om your love for your child.
Frankly, my advice to everyone who has a problem wh two people gettg married, whether 's bee they're gay or any other reason, is to md your own bs. Why is so different for as Christians when we’re thkg about our gay kids? It really don’t matter what Rob and I thk about gay marriage.
DEAR ABBY: FATHER REF TO MEET HIS GAY SON’S BOYIEND
” than bee I was the middle of a gay pri celebratn!
HOW CHRISTIAN PARENTS SHOULD RPOND TO THEIR CHILD'S GAY INTY CRISIS
Dear Abby: Our son “Greg” has e out as gay. I would not go to a same-sex weddg, and ’s not bee I would want to show some sort of hostily toward unbelievg iends who are gay or lbian. And if we do that then what we are gog to be dog is turng over our children, not jt our gay and lbian children, but all of our children over to forc the world that will do much harm to them and ultimately to as well.
When a child first out to their parents as eher beg gay or havg same-sex attractn, their ial rpons are ually the wrong on, says Chris Doyle, a psychotherapist who specializ York Cy gay pri para crowd this undated photo. "Sce homosexualy is beg more wily accepted Amerin society, an creasg number of teens who experience SSA are intifyg as gay. They believe that if you experience same-sex attractns, then you're gay, " Doyle told the negative rpons parents have, acrdg to Doyle, are avoidg the issue by barrg their child om talkg about SSA or their gay inty; believg that 's a passg phase; or threateng to kick their olr teen or 20-somethg child out of the hoe.
MY HBAND IS GAY BUT WE’RE MARRIED WH TWO KIDS AND HAVE GREAT SEX
He also emphasized that parents nnot talk their child out of beg gay or havg SSA. "We know, our clil rearch over the last 25 years, that fay culture, environment and other non-blogil factors play a signifint role the velopment of same-sex attractn, " he asserted, addg that parents shouldn't seek therapy as an attempt to change their the book, Gay Children, Straight Parents: A Plan for Fay Healg, wrten by Richard Cohen, executive director of IHF, Doyle said 12 prcipl are discsed to help fai navigate through SSA and s . "Regardg sleepovers and big life events such as parents' attendg a child's same-sex weddg ceremony, Doyle suggted that parents treat their homosexual child the same as they would their heterosexual the se of sleepovers, parents should mata the same standards for every child and not allow their gay intified or SSA child to have somone they're attracted to spend the night wh them.
SHOULD I ATTEND THE WEDDG OF A GAY FRIEND OR FAY MEMBER?
"The same l should apply to heterosexual upl and homosexual upl, " he when down to attendg a child's gay weddg ceremony, Doyle suggted that attendg the ceremony don't necsarily reflect that the parents agree wh same-sex marriage, their prence merely shows their love for their child.
HOW TO INTRODUCE A MARRIED GAY COUPLE
Wh that clarifyg ment, we n addrs the qutn head-on: Why would a Christian feel nscience bound not to attend or participate a gay weddg? Which is why—as much as I might want to build bridg wh a lbian iend or reassure a gay fay member that I re for him and want to have a relatnship wh him—I would not attend a same-sex weddg ceremony. If a gay uple next door v you over for dner, don't turn them down.