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• CHA’S LGBT MUNY DON’T NEED WTERN ‘GAY PRI’
• BEG GAY CHA HAS GOTTEN HARR UNR XI JPG
• FOUR YEARS, TWO NTENTS: A GAY CHE UPLE'S JOURNEY FOR A SURROGATE SON
• KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

CHA’S LGBT MUNY DON’T NEED WTERN ‘GAY PRI’

Durg this year’s Pri Month, soccer star Li Yg ma history as Cha’s first female athlete to e out publicly as gay, a ndid seri of celebratory photos posted on social media, showg her posg happily alongsi her partner. In years past, June was filled wh LGBTQ (lbian, gay, bisexual, transgenr and queer) events major ci such as Shanghai and Beijg, durg which Cha’s sexual mori uld semi-openly celebrate their inty.

Some LGBTQ people have blamed the crackdown on the rrect imprsn that homosexualy is a Wtern import to Cha, and groups supportg gay rights are liable to filtratn by foreign forc.

BEG GAY CHA HAS GOTTEN HARR UNR XI JPG

Some also spect a more direct lk between the crackdown on LGBTQ rights and top officials’ worldviews, which for many were shaped durg the Cultural Revolutn the 1960s and ’70s, when thori attempted to purge any “non-socialist” elements — cludg homosexualy — om Che society. After the vio of him kissg his worker went viral, Chai said he was taken asi by a senr manager who told him that homosexualy was agast “socialist re valu, ” and asked him to rema silent on the topic. Although Chai rerd some of his supervisor’s homophobic remarks – cludg llg homosexualy “abnormal” – durg their nversatns, Zhong said the airle sisted urt that those reprented personal opns, not a rporate posn.

Many of the untry’s current lears grew up durg the Cultural Revolutn the 1960s and ’70s, when thori attempted to purge any “non-socialist” elements – cludg homosexualy – om Che society. “It may be an executive’s personal opn that homosexualy is abnormal or immoral – but if there is a workplace equaly law, what that executive thks won’t matter anymore. After readg Chai’s story, Liu, who is gay, left an angry ment on the official Instagram page of Cha Southern, which is listed on the New York Stock Exchange and had been rapidly expandg s global work before the panmic.

AdvertisementSKIP ADVERTISEMENTA lawsu brought by a stunt is part of an effort to get schools, edors and publishers to regnize that beg gay is not a mental Ho for The New York TimEarly llege, Ou Jiayong had already learned two thgs. And two, n be hard to change them — pecially on topics as sensive Cha as 2016, durg her first year at South Cha Agricultural Universy her hometown, Guangzhou, she stumbled across a psychology textbook that scribed beg gay as a mental a lbian, Ms.

FOUR YEARS, TWO NTENTS: A GAY CHE UPLE'S JOURNEY FOR A SURROGATE SON

Her se has renewed the nversatn about tolerance and human rights a untry where discrimatn based on sexual orientatn is rampant and where homosexualy has long been seen as patible wh the tradnal emphasis on a letter to the judge, Ms. “It brought back memori of beg lghed at by my classmat bee of my homosexualy, ” she wrote the letter, which her lawyer read aloud urt this summer, three years after the su was judge was unswayed. Cg a survey that a rearch group nducted 2016 and 2017, out of the 91 psychology textbooks ed Che universi, almost half of them said that homosexualy was a type of disease.

Three weeks after the verdict, a school Jiangsu said would amend a health tn manual after an ter er highlighted a phrase that said: “Homosexualy go agast the laws of nature. This year, as Cha prepared to adopt s first civil , activists led an unsuccsful ph for the legalizatn of same-sex marriage, floodg legislators wh more than 230, 000 onle suggtns and though Cha crimalized homosexualy 1997 and removed om an official list of psychiatric disorrs 2001, discrimatn persists employment, health re and other areas. In 2015, a stunt sued the Mistry of Edutn over textbooks that scribe homosexualy as an afflictn, argug that the ernment was rponsible for ensurg the books’ qualy and should disclose s approval procs; she lost two years later.

In 2014, a Che urt orred a clic to pensate a man who unrwent electroshock therapy signed to “cure” homosexualy, sayg the clic had mted nsumer sug for discrimatn is harr bee Che law do not protect people based on their sexual inty. Ou’s lawsu was uched as a vlatn of nsumer rights, wh her lawyers argug that there were dozens of typos and other errors the 2013 edn of “Mental Health Edutn for College Stunts, ” a wily ed most egreg error, they said, was this phrase: “Compared wh the sexual orientatn of most people, homosexualy n be seen as a mental disorr or a nfn of sexual sir. ” Sce homosexualy is no longer on Cha’s official list of psychiatric disorrs, the phrase is factually rrect and the publisher should be held liable, said Leon Ge, Ms.

KEV MAXEN BE FIRST MALE ACH A US MEN’S PROFSNAL SPORTS LEAGUE TO PUBLICLY E OUT AS GAY

” France-Prse — Getty ImagShe took the publisher to urt the next year, driven by her classmat’ rogatory ments as well as the suici of a gay stunt at a Guangzhou universy the hearg was fally schled for this summer, Ms. More about Sui-Lee WeeA versn of this article appears prt on, Sectn A, Page 7 of the New York edn wh the headle: In Cha, Views on Homosexualy Evolve but Textbooks Lag Behd. Asi om the ual discrepancy between ral and urban areas, there is also a large generatn gap: a 2016 survey showed that 35% of people born pre-1970 would reject a gay child, while only 9% of people born after 1990 would do the same.

Che social media work Weibo also me unr fire June 2018 for banng gay ntent a measure taken prumably to show ference to the ernment, although onle outrage ed an almost-stantaneo public turnaround on the mpaign.

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The founr of the app, Mǎ Bǎolì 马保力, a gay man himself, prevly worked as a policeman when he first started the gay social workg webse (淡蓝网 dàn lán wǎng, a name lerally meang “light blue”) 2000, which later beme the foundatn for Blued. “Most of the profil I saw on Fda looked young, well-ted, who love postg photos and selfi of travels and workout, ” Tāo 涛, a 31-year-old gay man who recently immigrated to Canada, told The Cha Project. The Protol article also lks LESDO’s termatn to the challeng faced by lbian datg apps Cha, where queer women — pared to gay men — are ls terted fdg hookups on sex-oriented apps and more terted seekg mted relatnships and nnectns, a need that n be fulfilled outsi lbian-only platforms, such as LGBTQ groups on social media se Douban.

John Wei, a media studi scholar the Universy of Otago New Zealand, remarked his book Queer Che Cultur and Mobili that Feizan tend to create an onle gay muny based on mon “terts” rather than erotic ntent that was rampant on other gay s the same perd. ZANK also produced gay mi-seri: the most popular was a s lled A Gut Hoe Praise (一屋赞客 yīwūzànkè), which tells the story of a group of gay people livg the same apartment.

There has been some excellent rearch to the emergence of gay and lbian inti Cha, cludg how the have been shaped by ro-Amerin ias of “gay sensibily” and characterised by “dividualy, difference, sophistitn, liberatn and morny”.

One 2018 study tailed gay bars Shanghai that rivalled those of any wtern pal, the anisatn of “pri” events and the tense ntexts which “queer” film ftivals and wir cultural productn and activism occur the face of ntued regulatn by the thorarian state. In the island’s biggt ci, Haikou and Sanya, there are gay bars and tablished cisg areas certa parks, centrally loted yet variably beyond the view of the wir public.

Haikou’s current gay bar is accsed by climbg through a wdow on the fifth floor of an ageg tower block, out onto a balny, past a long dried-up swimmg pool and down a stg stairse. In Sanya, the well trodn pathways that criss-cross a bamboo grove where the edge of a park meets a riverbank are a by gay meetg spot, while the cy’s gay bar, durg the time of my fieldwork, was aga loted a dised hotel. In the spac, fears of beg “outed” and the possible damage this uld do to fay and profsnal relatnships, mean that, as I was warned by Ah Tao, is bt not to “say any gay stuff”.

But they are also a nstant prence everyday life, terptg moments of gay life – like the mundane and aggrsive remr Ah Tao received that he had “no wife, no children”. But they often fear that the ways of livg are unstaable and that they mt eventually leave the gay world and nform to their fai and the wir society’s expectatns that they marry and have children. This has further entrenched the role of children as necsary rers for their ageg parents and gay men’s perceptns of their futur as oriented towards marriage and reproductn are wrapped up ncerns for self-prervatn.

The tense social stigma that is attached to viatns om heterosexualy means that public visibily as gay is unsirable, pecially smaller ci and towns where bumpg to an nt, uncle or -worker is a nstant ncern. But this may signal at least some tert challengg the stat quo and the potential for future chang to gay liv Haan through greater public visibily and engagement wh activism. Whatever forms sexual polics and activism take Haan, close attentn should be paid to the ncerns and sir of gay men, lbians and other margalised genr and sexual groups.

“At the begng, I jt wanted to do somethg for myself and my gay iends, ” Ma tells TIME his Beijg office, ftooned by rabow flags and featurg meetg rooms named after gay lumari like Osr Wil. While Ma was the police force, the mon perceptn was that beg gay was “perverted, a mental illns, ” he says— was somethg to be “treated” by vasive therapi like electric shocks. N., and the lg Che Communist Party has no official doctral opposn to homosexualy, but the untry remas a heteronormative society that strs cis-genred, nuclear-fay valu.