Espe om Kabul: Part III - Life as a gay man Pakistan | OPENLY

Contents:

• GAY DATG PAKISTAN
• GAY PAKISTAN: WHERE SEX IS AVAILABLE AND RELATNSHIPS ARE DIFFICULT
• HOW GAY IS PAKISTAN?
• PAKISTAN’S GAY COMMUNY QUIETLY BREAKG BARRIERS
• PAKISTAN: SUATN OF HOMOSEXUALS, CLUDG THE APPLITN OF LAWS TOWARDS HOMOSEXUALS, THE NUMBER OF PROSECUTNS OF HOMOSEXUALS AND THEIR OUT; WHETHER ANY REGNS HAVE AN OPEN AND ACTIVE GAY MUNY
• MY STORY (GAY IN PAKISTAN)
• THERE IS PLENTY OF GAY SEX KARACHI, PAKISTAN
• GAY PAKISTAN - A COMPLEX SOCIETY
• ESPE OM KABUL: PART III - LIFE AS A GAY MAN PAKISTAN
• GAY PAKISTANIS, STILL SHADOWS, SEEK ACCEPTANCE
• “BEG GAY PAKISTAN, WHAT A MISERABLE AND HARD LIFE!”
• TOM HOLLAND’S GAY SEX SCENE SETS SOCIAL MEDIA ALIGHT AFTER THE ACTOR SAID PLAYG THE ROLE ‘BROKE HIM’

GAY DATG PAKISTAN

Unrground parti, group sex at shr and "marriag of nvenience" to members of the oppose sex are jt some of the surpris that gay Pakistan has to offer. Danyaal, as he's asked to be known, is a 50-somethg bsman who liv an affluent part of Karachi, and his smartphone to anise Karachi's gay party scene.

"Gay men will make every effort to stop any vtment a same-sex relatnship bee they know that one day they will have to get married to a woman, " he says. For participants, 's anonymo group kd of behavur is, of urse, not ndoned by Pakistan's relig Pakistanis view homosexualy as sful. The shre is far om the only place Karachi where gay sex is eely is, for example, easy to buy om a malchi walah - a massr who offers massage and "extras" for the equivalent of £5, or $7.

GAY PAKISTAN: WHERE SEX IS AVAILABLE AND RELATNSHIPS ARE DIFFICULT

"In almost all s charg will be dropped, Iqbal says, but the boys will be forced to get married by their ocsnally, though, Pakistani parents do rencile themselv to children enterg a long-term gay and Ali are one such uple who have ma thgs work, agast the odds. For many gay men Pakistan, a heterosexual marriage and a life of anonymo gropg is the long-term life n be even more difficult for gay women.

I know some gay guys and maybe we'll do a al so we put money together and they have one portn of the hoe and we'll have another portn.

HOW GAY IS PAKISTAN?

"Fatima, who ntribut to an vatn-only onle gay support group, believ 's only "a matter of time" before Pakistan begs to bate gay rights openly, and people clare their homosexualy wh pri.

But there will still be private spac where gay Pakistanis n exprs their sexualy of the nam of the ntributors have been changed to protect their n hear more on this story on BBC Rad 4's Crossg Contents, on Thursday 29 Augt at 11:00am or on Assignment on the World Service on the same day. SummaryReturng for a vis as an openly gay man, Mawaan Rizwan asks what is like to be gay Pakistan and fds a stgglg but excg and diverse unrground LGBTQ muny.

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PAKISTAN’S GAY COMMUNY QUIETLY BREAKG BARRIERS

”He has flourished ever sce he ma that realizatn—succeedg agast all the odds homophobic Pakistan, where the powerful Mlim clergy preach that homosexualy is prohibed unr Islam, and where sodomy is illegal unr the civil and punishable by a long jail term (though the harsh sentence is rarely hand down). A Pew Rearch Center survey of 39 untri published early June found that only two percent of Pakistanis believed that “society should accept homosexualy, ” send only to Nigeria, which registered a rock-bottom one percent acceptance ratg of gays. Late last month and whout ment, Islamabad shut down the untry’s first and only gay webse,, which was first lnched last July.

PAKISTAN: SUATN OF HOMOSEXUALS, CLUDG THE APPLITN OF LAWS TOWARDS HOMOSEXUALS, THE NUMBER OF PROSECUTNS OF HOMOSEXUALS AND THEIR OUT; WHETHER ANY REGNS HAVE AN OPEN AND ACTIVE GAY MUNY

” Fakhir says the se is not “blasphemo or pornographic” but is aimed at tg gays on health issu such as preventg the spread of HIV, and on how to al wh social and fay prsur and wh prsn. He played a Taliban terpreter wh gay tennci who worked for a Brish explosive ordance disposal team that Mullah Mohammad Omar’s regime had hired to clear me fields 2010, Khan moved to heavily Taliban-fluenced Phawar to further his actg and fashn reers, but chiefly to be closer to his partner.

MY STORY (GAY IN PAKISTAN)

On the ntrary, he quickly received a vibe that many young men the ostensibly macho, largely Islamist cy were gay or gay-iendly.

THERE IS PLENTY OF GAY SEX KARACHI, PAKISTAN

”Khan and other Pakistani gays say that beg gay Pakistan is not all that unual spe the ostensibly strong prejudice agast homosexuals. “I’ve found that male-to-male sex is more mon than you’d image our society, ” says Shehzad, a smart, fashnable and ted 25-year-old gay man om Lahore.

“I know that some Pakistani policy makers practice gay love private, then go out and make laws agast gays, ” says Shehzad.

Khan agre: “I know that some Pakistani policians of all parti, cludg those om relig parti, are terted gay men, ” he says. ” “If you heard the nam of the proment members of Pakistani society who are gay, you wouldn’t believe your ears, ” adds Chdhry Javid, a 28-year-old gay man who works for a foreign aid agency and liv a luxury apartment , Javid keeps his sexual orientatn the closet, hidg om his fay and iends, and claimg is too early for him to reveal himself. ” Faisal Khan says he don’t dare vis his fay’s home village jt south of Phawar for fear the Taliban would fd out about his gayns and pture him, g a sndal for his fay.

GAY PAKISTAN - A COMPLEX SOCIETY

“He would probably send me to the Taliban who would make a kebab of me, ” he so, Faisal Khan and other Pakistani gay men see hope the future as they sense that public attus are slowly changg. If the public is begng to accept men and women datg, they reason, then eventually gay relatnships will also be tolerated. Ironilly, ’s not unmon, and not viewed as homosexual behavr, for young men to hold hands public as they walk—’s a ctomary sign of there are still strict lims.

Although may be premature, Khan is tryg to anize a gay rights movement pable of standg up to the Taliban, the policians and aggrsive Pakistani ps. Unr Sectn 377 of the untry's penal , homosexualy is not explicly mentned, but "rnal terurse agast the orr of nature" is punishable by a fe and/or imprisonment for a perd of two years to life (UN 10 May 2005; Pakistan n.

Informatn on the number of prosecutns agast homosexuals Pakistan and their out uld not be found among the sourc nsulted by the Rearch Directorate. Neverthels, May 2005, two gay men were publicly lashed Pakistan's north wtern Khyber regn after they were ught havg sex (BBC 5 Oct.

ESPE OM KABUL: PART III - LIFE AS A GAY MAN PAKISTAN

Acrdg to a 10 May 2005 article published by the Uned Natns (UN) Integrated Regnal Informatn Networks (IRIN), homosexuals Pakistan "live nstant fear of beg 'outed' [the untry's] stnchly nservative society which is largely ignorant and tolerant of sexual mori.

" Ced the same article, a reprentative of a lol non-ernmental anizatn (NGO) stated that if an dividual openly mpaigned for gay rights the untry, he or she uld end up beg killed by relig followers (UN 10 May 2005).

Neverthels, several sourc nsulted by the Rearch Directorate dite that homosexualy may, general, be "silently accepted" Pakistan (UN 21 Sept. The Inter is reportedly ntributg to a sense of growg "solidary" amongst homosexuals Pakistan (UN 10 May 2005; see also The Guardian 14 Mar. However, a 2006 Guardian article stat that is "rare" for homosexual upl to live together and that many gay men end up marryg women to "avoid sndalisg their fai" (14 Mar.

GAY PAKISTANIS, STILL SHADOWS, SEEK ACCEPTANCE

Another article om IRIN not that, while the atmosphere larger ci such as Islamabad, Karachi and Lahore is "dly" more tolerant, ral areas, nservatism is "extreme" and homosexuals rema "closeted" (UN 10 May 2005). Two sourc dite that cultural practic Pakistan, which perm public displays of affectn between members of the same genr, make possible for gay men to socialize whout attractg attentn (BBC 2 June 2005; The Guardian 14 Mar. Inter s, cludg: Amnty Internatnal (AI), European Country of Orig Informatn Network (),, Gay Tim [London],, Human Rights Commissn of Pakistan (HRCP), Human Rights Watch (HRW), Office of the Uned Natns High Commissner for Refuge (UNHCR), Uned Kgdom Home Office, Uned Stat Department of State.

Too often the news om Pakistan is about polil and social vlence, but behd the headl and hysteria are many quiet liv gog about their affairs wh hardly any notice, cludg homosexual affectns and love. Pakistani gay says life easier at home than USA; culture helps mask same-sex affectn Qasim and his partner Ali are love and live together.

They talk about gog abroad to marry, but the only weddgs they attend Pakistan are arranged unns between their gay iends and unspectg women. Introductn Three native Pakistani men wre about livg si their sexually ambivalent culture where gay men live behd masks and love secret.

“BEG GAY PAKISTAN, WHAT A MISERABLE AND HARD LIFE!”

There is a gay subculture Pakistan but is virtually visible and exists only by word of mouth and furtive suatns– nighttime parks, discrete parti and one’s imagatn or.

I am Malik om Pakistan, I am gay and belongs to a nservative Mlim fay I was 14 when I disver that I have no sexual attractn towards girls, my male s mostly asked me about my likens my female s however I always says no and they thked that s bee of shyns. So, I am not out to them as I am aaid bee if I tell them that I am gay they will lock me to the hoe, take my phone om me and will do my marriage on spot. Yet gay sex is apparently prevalent the untry, which is home to 183 ln people, some 97% of whom are the BBC's Mobeen Azhar reports  a fascatg vtigatn, the batn of the prevalence of gay mobile apps like Grdr and Scff, pl the on of arranged marriage, has ma the Pakistani cy of Karachi — the natn's biggt cy, at nearly 24 ln people — a hotbed of gay sex, even if actually matag a gay liftyle is still credibly difficult.

TOM HOLLAND’S GAY SEX SCENE SETS SOCIAL MEDIA ALIGHT AFTER THE ACTOR SAID PLAYG THE ROLE ‘BROKE HIM’

"[S]ome say the untry is a great place to be gay — even scribg the port cy of Karachi as 'a gay man's paradise, " Azhar wr.

Gay rights don't exist there, beg openly gay is still looked down upon, gay relatnships are hard to e by, and Karachi pretty much fails on every metric of gay life except for one: man-on-man sex.

Karachi is home to a lot of any other untry the world (spe Iran's claims to the ntrary), Pakistan has a homosexual populatn. Earlier this summer, for example, the Pew Rearch Center found that Pakistan was simultaneoly one of the most tolerant untri the world for gay people while at the same time beg one of the world lears searchg for gay porn. He's right: a simple search on Scff, a gay datg mobile app turned up plenty of men (whose fac we've obscured) Karachi lookg to nnect:But isn't all technologil cisg, eher.