How do queer men navigate an stutn not signed for them? Therapist Michael Dale Kimmel offers clu his new book, The Gay Man's Gui to Open and Monogamo Marriage. Check out an exclive excerpt below.
Contents:
- THE BIGGT MYTH ABOUT GAY SEX
- AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
- GAY COUPL CAN TEACH STRAIGHT PEOPLE A THG OR TWO ABOUT ARGUG
- HOW TO HAVE A GAY OR LBIAN RELATNSHIP
THE BIGGT MYTH ABOUT GAY SEX
Unrstand health ncerns for gay men and other men who have sex wh men, and learn how to promote good health. * how do gay couples do it *
Like heterosexuals, many lbian, gay, and bisexual people want to form stable, long-lastg relatnships and many of them do.
In fact, rearchers have found that the majory of lbian, and gay, adults are mted relatnships and many upl have been together 10 or more years. Empiril rearch also shows that lbian and gay upl have levels of relatnship satisfactn siar to or higher than those of heterosexual upl. The fai and iends of lbian and gay upl who are nied marriage rights may also experience negative physil and mental health nsequenc siar to those experienced by their loved on.
The vast majory of scientific studi that have directly pared lbian and gay parents wh heterosexual parents have nsistently shown that the same-sex upl are as f and pable parents as heterosexual upl, and that their children are jt as psychologilly healthy and well adjted.
AGE DIFFERENC GAY COUPL
* how do gay couples do it *
For stance, 45% of adults the Silent Generatn (those born between 1928 and 1945) favor allowg gays and lbians to wed, pared wh 74% of Millennials (born between 1981 and 1996). 4As wh the general public, Amerins who intify as lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr (LGBT) are most likely to ce love as a very important reason for gettg married. Sce then, several other European untri – cludg England and Wal, France, Ireland, all of Sndavia, Spa and, most recently, Atria, Germany and Malta – have legalized gay marriage.
When gay and lbian upl have children, they often beg to divi thgs as heterosexual upl do, acrdg to new data for larger, more reprentative sampl of the gay populatn. Even when gay and lbian parents took on different rol, they still generally felt was equable — which is not te as often heterosexual relatnships, and suggts a different mol for achievg equaly.
GAY COUPL CAN TEACH STRAIGHT PEOPLE A THG OR TWO ABOUT ARGUG
Gay and lbian upl, even when they don’t divi labor equally, are more likely to feel the divisn is fair, rearch fds. It’s what Wtern culture would have you believe, too; ass-play has long been associated wh gayns, and wh good reason.
Datg back to the ancient Greece, anal sex played a role the exprsn of same-sex sexualy (albe, wh fewer varieti of lube) art of anal sex is the thg that, both posively and negatively, has e to reprent gay men. In other words: There’s more than one way for gays to ’s not all about basMeghan Traor was wrong; ’s not all about that base. That’s bee the ncept of first, send, and third base don’t really apply to gay men bee our endgame is different.
Beg gay n be hard enough by self whout then also worryg about the prsur om wh our own muny to nform to some sort of standard. They started hostg weddgs after their own venue told them — the week of their weddg — that would not acmodate a gay uple. 18 Typ of Sex All Gay Men Should Have Their LifetimeThere are so many different ways guys have sex wh each other.
HOW TO HAVE A GAY OR LBIAN RELATNSHIP
There's a lot between the two extrem of makg love to the man of your life, and havg a rnchy, anonymo hookup a here are 18 typ of sex all gay/bi men should experience (at least once) at some pot their liv!
Many quiri I have received over and over aga through the years beg somethg like this: “I've always liked olr men, but many gay iends close to my age are cril of me and spic of my motiv. Var labels have been ascribed to tergeneratnal upl, whether straight, gay or bisexual: tergeneratnal, age-gap, age-discrepant, or, more often than not, “May-December” relatnships.
Inially, I was unnvced the relatnships were ser, but that was bee I held stereotypil views: an olr gay man who was lookg for a trophy-mate and has the money to take re of his boy toy and a younger man who was lookg for a sugar daddy. Based on the number of tim this qutn drops to my mailbox, the reasons for the age-discrepant attractns nsum a great al of bandwidth the thoughts of a lot of young gay and bisexual men.