Joe Kort, Ph.D., talks about his new book, "Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?"
Contents:
- IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?
- HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY
- IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
- THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT
- CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?
- STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
- HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
- SOME GAYS CAN GO STRAIGHT, STUDY SAYS
- HOW TO LOOK GREAT AS A GAY MAN
IS IT POSSIBLE TO SYSTEMATILLY TURN GAY PEOPLE STRAIGHT?
* how to make a gay man straight *
Joseph Nilosi, a psychologist Enco, Calif., says he n rid adults, teens, and even children of homosexualy. "If [a patient] n accept his bodily homoerotic experience while stayg nnected to the therapist, " he wrote The Paradox of Self-Acceptance, "the sexual feelg soon transforms to somethg else: the regnn of eper, pa-generated emotnal needs which have nothg to do wh sexualy.
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HOW TO LEAD A HETEROSEXUAL LIFTYLE IF YOU ARE GAY
Learn how to approach and flirt wh gay guys at clubs, bars, or other venuMeetg gay guys is hard. First you have to terme if the guy you're terted is gay or straight. Then you have to approach him and strike up a... * how to make a gay man straight *
Given that homosexual activy was also crimally prosecuted the U. Another method was satiatn therapy, which a subject was told to masturbate over and over while verbally scribg his homosexual fantasi, until they disappeared — or, at least, "therapi" were generally effective — the person remaed attracted to the same sex — or over-effective — the person was trmatized and lost all sexual aroal entirely. They "were ed whout people thkg about whether they were humane, " Glassgold all treatments were so gome: Lnel Ovey, a Columbia Universy psychoanalyst and thor of Homosexualy and Psdohomosexualy, created a behavral method the 1960s.
It was based on the ia that homosexualy origated om a fear of takg on the normal quali of one's genr.
IS YOUR MAN GAY, STRAIGHT, OR BISEXUAL?
Ovey studied a clilly disturbed group of patients and summarized their unnsc mds as follows: "I am a failure = I am not a man = I am strated = I am a woman = I am a homosexual. " His view mirrored the belief of many clicians at the time: that homosexualy was based on a phobia of the oppose non-aversive treatments followg this theory foced on buildg "tnal skills" like datg techniqu, assertivens trag, and affectn achg to crease teractns wh women. Cognive therapists, meanwhile, ma a few attempts to change homosexuals' thought patterns by reamg sir — redirectg thoughts away om homosexual activy — or through hypnosis.
Still, SOCE is still beg practiced wh a small group of mental-health practners, most of whom ter to a populatn whose relig beliefs strictly bar homosexualy. Your fay is homophobic. Internalized homophobia.
If they're "supportg" you but only if you choose to act like you aren't gay, that isn't te support and may be toxic. In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializ Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relatnship Therapy, often treatg men who are qutng their sexual orientatn. This populatn is the foc of his new and much-need book: Is My Hband Gay, Straight, or Bi?
THE FACT NO ONE LIK TO ADM: MANY GAY MEN ULD JT HAVE EASILY BEEN STRAIGHT
Number one is the high cince of male-female upl enterg my office bee the woman thks her man might be gay. More often than not, he’s not gay or even bi.
He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been havg sex wh men. A lot of the time the men e on their own and they’re holdg my book about g out as gay, and they want to know, “Is this me? Am I gay?
CAN SCTN MAKE STRAIGHT MEN GAY?
And I thk ’s very important to state right here that I’m a gay man, yet here I am sayg that most of the time the men who are beg sexual wh other men aren’t gay.
STEP-BY-STEP INSTCTNS FOR SHOOTG YOUR SHOT WH GAY GUYS
That’s unual, bee most gay men, even most gay therapists, believe that if a guy is havg gay sex, he’s gay. So how do you terme if a man is or isn’t gay?
HOW TO GET A MAN (FOR GAY MEN)
Most gay or bisexual men will say y. ” I always joke wh clients that for me, as a gay man, when I’m walkg on the beach and checkg people out, the women are the way.
Wh gay clients, they say they feel the same way; wh bisexual clients, they say they’re lookg at both the men and the women; wh straight clients, they say they’re lookg only at the women. Another thg that I look for is homophobia.
SOME GAYS CAN GO STRAIGHT, STUDY SAYS
When a man is a long-term relatnship wh a woman but beg sexual wh men, eher lookg at porn or havg actual sex, he eher will or won’t be homophobic. Intertgly, ’s the gay men who are homophobic.
The straight men have no homophobia at all—to the pot where they’re willg to seek unselg om me, an openly gay therapist. A lot of tim the gay men never even make to me (whout promptg om their wife, anyway) bee they’re riddled wh homophobia and I’m too gay for them. So if a client is stgglg wh his sexual orientatn and he’s got a lot of homophobia, he’s probably gay.
HOW TO LOOK GREAT AS A GAY MAN
A gay guy wants to do all of that wh a man, a bisexual guy might want a man or a woman, and the straight guy wants to only be wh a woman that way. He’s been lookg at gay porn or he’s been hookg up wh guys he meets through Craigslist.
And that’s too gay for them anyway.
The gay man is dog this bee ’s his sexual inty.