Over the Cliff: Gay Hbands Straight Marriag eBook : Kaye, Bonnie, Dtmer, Doug: Kdle Store

Contents:

• GAY HBANDS/STRAIGHT WIV
• I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
• IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND
• OVER THE CLIFF: GAY HBANDS STRAIGHT MARRIAG
• STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS
• GAY HBANDS/STRAIGHT WIV: A MUTATN OF LIFE

GAY HBANDS/STRAIGHT WIV

Gay Hbands/Straight Wiv: A. hbands are gay. ntroversy of changg a gay hband’s sexualy, the myth of bisexualy, and.

world, as well as terviews wh two men who help unsel gay hbands who. gay hbands to share the emotnal impact on both ends. unknowgly married gay men.

untry are or have been married to men who are homosexual. homosexualy their hbands display. thor of Gay Hbands/Straight Wiv: A Mutatn of Life, is.

I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN

ternatnally regnized as a unselg expert the field of straight/gay. mise of her own paful marriage to a gay man 1982.

thoands of women unrstand the dynamics of marriage to a gay man. A fellow activist nonted Kaye, sayg that he thought the man she was about to marry might be gay or bisexual.

"How uld he be gay? "Gay guys n't have sex wh women. "That's what the gay guys would ll a 'cutie-pie, ' " she rells her hband sayg.

IS MY HBAND GAY? SIGNS OF A GAY HBAND

"Her hband later moved to Florida wh his lover, but the shame and torment experienced by so many gay hbands once married to straight women persisted. Although there's no hard data, she timat more than ln women the Uned Stat are married to, or divorced om, gay men.

-based anizatn recently surveyed nearly 1, 200 gay men married to women and found half the rponnts had no plan to tell their wiv, wh 20% rpondg "maybe. "Sce 1999, Kaye has sold more than 25, 000 books wh tl like Straight Wiv: Shattered Liv, The Gay Hband Checklist, and How I Ma My Hband Gay.

OVER THE CLIFF: GAY HBANDS STRAIGHT MARRIAG

She has two mantras that she beats to her followers, both blasted at the top of her Web se and newsletter:Pictured: Bonnie KayeOn a gray Thursday June, we're stg at a long table Kaye's narrow, bare-bon GED center along wh France Barbetta, a therapist Levtown, Penn., who ns a monthly support group for straight spo married to or divorced om gay, lbian, or transgenr people.

Barbetta's hband was always strongly homophobic, a churchgoer, and a Republin. He nounced his homosexualy, then claimed to be bisexual, then straight. "I ll gay-lightg, " Kaye says.

Lots of irratnal thgs, and if you keep hearg this enough you start believg , " Kaye 's a certa type of woman who marri a gay man, acrdg to Kaye and Barbetta. "But the revelatn that a spoe is gay is so credibly trmatic for many women that they are often unselg for years or s to e. ) or ficient (if you'd been a better wife, he wouldn't have turned gay), while their hbands are ld for havg the urage to be their thentic selv.

STRAIGHT WOMEN AND THEIR GAY HBANDS

"To all the gay men who never... ' "An unexpected nsequence, they say, is many women -- even the most evangelil among them, along wh their dghters (and ls often sons) -- bee huge supporters of gay rights the wake of a spoe g out. In onle foms, of which there are several, gay bashg is rare, though not unheard of.

He’s also always been hont about beg gay and has never hidn om me. Our son took the news very well and don’t re that his father was gay.

I’ve asked my hband about , and he nfirms that he’s gay, not bisexual.

GAY HBANDS/STRAIGHT WIV: A MUTATN OF LIFE

I have doubts that he might leave me someday for a gay relatnship like he did his ex-wife. Would you nsir him bisexual or gay?

I thk your hband que clearly nsirs himself gay, which is far more relevant to your marriage than my asssment of his sense of self. The qutn of how he se his gayns relatn to his two marriag to women, specifilly his current marriage to you, is both more salient and open-end, so I’d suggt you start by askg him to share more of his thoughts on the subject wh you.