Rourc for stunts and psychologists to ga a better unrstandg of issu that may affect the straight spoe when a wife or hband out as lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr.
Contents:
- GAY SUPPORT: WHERE TO FD LGBT HELP AND SUPPORT GROUPS
- I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
- WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN, PART 2
- 'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
GAY SUPPORT: WHERE TO FD LGBT HELP AND SUPPORT GROUPS
* support group for women married to gay men *
You aren't the only gay, bisexual or qutng man to ever marry or be volved wh a woman! GAMMA is a peer support group for men who are gay, bisexual, qutng or don't intify themselv as any of the above, but who are attracted to men; and who are, or who were, married or otherwise volved wh a woman. Many lbian, gay, bisexual or transgenr people e out years after they have been married to an oppose-sex heterosexual wife or hband.
Cloud, who was married to a gay man for 17 years before she met Teague, jumps . But that’s what the closet—a place as real for straight spo as is for the sexually stgglg gay men and women they marry—will do to you. Straight spo are largely absent om the natnal nversatn about gay marriage and the morn fay.
Teague says OCO will take a more holistic approach to the faial reverberatns of LGBTQ people’s cisn to e out than SSN, which is geared toward their straight spo; PFLAG, their parents and iends; and COLAGE and the Gay Dad Project, their children. Calculatg the number of gay women the Uned Stat is a more difficult proposn, he says an email. The data om the social works, pornographic search, and other onle rourc Stephens-Davidowz analyzed is ls nclive for that group, although stori like Teague’s prove that gay women ed marry straight men.
I’M A STRAIGHT WOMAN WHO MARRIED A GAY MAN
LGBT help is available for those gog through gay-related challeng. Fd out about gay support and support groups for LGBT here. * support group for women married to gay men *
“After wrg the [Tim] piece, I received many emails om people siar suatns as the gay man married to a woman, ” Stephens-Davidowz says. If the revelatn occurs through g out, the gay partner may have had help gettg to that pot. One such helper: the Gay Married Men’s Associatn.
GAMMA, Gravalle says, is not a recg ground for homosexualy.
WHEN GAY MEN (MIS)MARRY STRAIGHT WOMEN, PART 2
GAMMA offers much-need support for gay, bisexual, and qutng men who are or have been married to women, Gravalle says. Comg out is never easy, but ’s lculably more difficult for the gay men and women who have joed a heterosexual marriage for one reason or another. Many gay men eply love their wiv, but as Gravalle pots out, “Society and everythg we were tght told that love equals sexual attractn.
But if that stggle sounds hard, nsir that the queer spoe has one advantage: By the time he or she is ready to tell the other, “I’m gay, ” a huge amount of emotnal adjtg has already taken place. “In terms of the healg journey, [gay spo] are way ahead of the game, ” says psychotherapist Kimberly Brooks Mazella, who works wh as many as 15 straight spo, mostly women, at a time her McLean, Virgia-based practice about 20 mut outsi of D.
“The gay partner has done their grievg, and now they want to live their life.
'DID I EVER REALLY KNOW HIM?': THE WOMEN WHO MARRIED GAY MEN
“He’s gay, ” her gut said. “Gay guys don’t date women, ” she reassured herself. “Elton John jt got married, so if somebody who seems gay isn’t … ” Mazella n’t fish the sentence whout lghg at her younger self.
But then, so have gay people.
An earlier generatn, cludg her ex-hband and Sir Elton, was driven to the closet s when the language to exprs homosexualy didn’t even exist. Even today, she says many men will e out to their wiv as bisexual when they are, fact, gay, hopg to al ls of a blow but givg advertent hope—and prolongg the evable. “Straight spo are often stgglg wh petg emotnal experienc—their own feelgs of grief and loss, anger at the gay spoe’s betrayal, and passn for their partner’s own paful journey, ” she says.