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The Guyler tak a look at the different ways you n love your bt man</div><div class="ContentHearByle-kmPyCa emiglw"><div class="ContentHearByleContent-dpPmNn DRFq"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" class="BylWrapper-KIudk irTIfE byl ContentHearByl-cZqgyJ bHLeKI"><p class="ByleWrapper-jWHrLH gtxxjM byle byl__byle" data-ttid="ByleWrapper" emProp="thor" emType="><span emProp="name" class="ByleNamWrapper-jbHncj fuDQVo"><span data-ttid="ByleName" class="ByleName-kwmrLn cYaBaU byle__name"><span class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BylePreamble-iJolpQ iUEiRd dlWgVJ gnILss byle__preamble">By </span><a class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BaseLk-eNWuiM ByleLk-gEnFiw iUEiRd fhQbnq dzFUnH eErqIx byle__name-lk button" href="/profile/the-guyler">Jt Myers, The Guyler</a></span></span></p></div><time data-ttid="ContentHearPublishDate" dateTime="2019-12-18T20:00:00Z" class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ ContentHearPublishDate-eIBicG iUEiRd ivrQAn cZpOSL">18 December 2019</time></div></div><div class="SocialInsWrapper-hKMEXV bqESvf social-ins social-ins--standard ContentHearAccredatnSocialIns-jorO eYcyYU ntent-hear__social-share"><ul data-ttid="socialInslist" class="SocialInsList-cHVTIA ivmblD social-ins__list"></ul></div></div></div><div class="ContentHearLeadAsset-hGbumP dDDxdb lead-asset ContentHearLeadAssetWrapper-hfXHEc Grck lead-asset--width-grid" data-ttid="ContentHearLeadAsset"><figure class="ContentHearLeadAssetContent-kOfYSG dRGWbI"><div class="ContentHearLeadAssetContentMedia-bLEIpi hgDTU lead-asset__ntent__photo"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW jvZaPI rponsive-asset ContentHearRponsiveAsset-bREgIb hONbnm"><div data-tt="aspect-rat-ntaer" class="AspectRatContaer-bJHpJz ccdiSo"><div class="aspect-rat--overlay-ntaer"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa ContentHearRponsiveAsset-bREgIb hONbnm rponsive-image"><source media="(max-width: 767px)" srcSet=" 120w, 240w, 320w, 640w, 960w" siz="100vw"/><source media="(m-width: 768px)" srcSet=" 120w, 240w, 320w, 640w, 960w, 1280w, 1600w, 1920w, 2240w" siz="100vw"/><img alt="Image may nta Human Person Rtrant Food Court Food Cafeteria Drk Beer Alhol and Beverage" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-image__image" src="></picture></div></div></span><div class="CaptnWrapper-jSZdqE dVZQpq ptn ContentHearLeadAssetCaptn-hPWmSN XczIg"><span class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ CaptnCred-ejegDm iUEiRd cdsJgg fNaHcW ptn__cred">Jt Lub</span></div></div></figure></div></div></hear></div><div data-attribute-verso-pattern="article-body" class="ArticlePageContentBackGround-cNiFNN kAwnHf article-body__ntent"><div class="ArticlePageChunksContent-etcMtP eRxRjL"><div data-ttid="ArticlePageChunks" class="ArticlePageChunks-fLyCVG eOdfIs"><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa edvONh body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>If there’s one thg I n tell you about wh great thory, as a <a href=">gay</a> man who took his sweet time g out, ’s havg csh on men who – for the most part – were blissfully unaware of . My teenage years and early twenti were spent sneakg glanc on b or gazg across packed lecture theatr at guys who, all honty, didn’t even know I was alive ( a way, perhaps that was for the bt). But the csh, the explible fatuatns that n make your gut twist anguish or your heart race wh joy, don’t necsarily disappear once you have your sexual awakeng or leave adolcence behd – whichever first. It’s que normal for them to ntue as you age – the barista you’re always extra iendly to as she hands over your flat whe, for example, or the flash of fantasy you might have about a lleague. What about when ’s closer to home, however, and outsi what you might nsir your ual sexual orientatn?</p><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><p>Take your bt iend: he knows you si out; he’s been there through thick and th; there isn’t anythg you uldn’t tell him; and yet... there is somethg there that you n’t que put your fger on. You love him, sure, jt as you would a brother, but what if started to feel like somethg else entirely? What if you started to wonr whether you were actually <em></em> love wh him? It’s more mon than you’d thk.</p><div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--article-mid-ntent" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--article-mid-ntent nsumer-marketg-un__slot---ntent"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><p>Feelgs such as this, which we don’t unrstand, n quickly drag back to our teenage years. You might worry that everythg you thought you knew has been turned upsi down. If historilly you have dated women, do this mean you’re gay? Bisexual? While we have ma a great al of progrs over the last few s, many men fear change their tablished sexualy.</p><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad---ntent"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot---ntent" data-no-id="yqsm5l"></div></div><blockquote class="BlockquoteEmbedWrapper-sc-SdiGL ftKRsD blockquote-embed"><div class="BlockquoteEmbedContent-RbGs lhlcJF blockquote-embed__ntent"><p>You may not be 'exclively heterosexual', you may jt be attracted to certa men or you may be attracted to attribut that your bt iend shar wh some women, such as femy</p></div></blockquote><p>Author and psychologist Meg-John Barker, who jt published <em><a data-offer-url=" class="external-lk" data-event-click="{"element":"ExternalLk","outgogURL":"" href=" rel="sponsored" target="_blank">Genr: A Graphic Gui</a></em>, wh a follow-up on sexualy due 2020, reckons men fd this difficult bee everythg we’ve learned about sexual orientatn is wrong. We’re tght people are eher gay or <a href=">straight</a>, that sexualy is a fixed aspect that stays the same over the urse of our liv when actually ’s fluid and chang over time. “We've learnt people are eher attracted to men or to <a href=">women</a>, when actually for some people 's more about attractn towards certa kds of bodi or certa kds of <a href=">masculy</a> or femy, regardls of the <a href=">genr</a> of the person – and, of urse, genr is also not a bary,” says Barker, who thks there are many potential explanatns for this attractn. Among them: you may not be “exclively heterosexual”, you may jt be attracted to <em>some</em> men, or you may be attracted to certa attribut that your bt iend shar wh some women, such as femy.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB kNleGZ sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="Contaer-bkChBi byNLHx"></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="p9s4cg"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div></div><div class="StickyBoxPlaceholr-grPmrg dxAvXx"></div></div></div></div><div data-ttid="RowWrapper" class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="l5m6e"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa edvONh body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>Whether you’re straight, gay, bicur, heteroflexible or jt workg thgs out, ’s not jt your sexualy that’s lled to qutn when such a csh aris. Do this mean the end of your iendship? Should you tell him? Should you... act on ? If life were like pornographic movi, I’d say give three beers and an hour loungg about swim shorts and let nature do the rt. In real life, however, n be important to unrstand what the feelgs are and the nsequenc of exprsg them. How strong are the feelgs and how do they manift? Do you feel sexually aroed around your iend or when thkg of them?</p><div data-attr-viewport-monor="le-recirc" class="le-recirc-wrapper le-recirc-observer-target-1 viewport-monor-anchor"></div><p>If you don’t generally fd yourself attracted to other men, havg strong feelgs for another guy n be terrifyg, but not all attractn is sexual. Emotnal, or romantic, attractn when you form a strong bond wh someone – not unual between bt iends – and you admire their quali. It works wh gay men too – we don’t fancy all straight men tomatilly and ’s possible for such a csh to be entirely platonic. “It's nfg,” says Barker, “bee we've been tght to assume the two thgs [sexual and romantic attractn] go together.”</p><blockquote class="BlockquoteEmbedWrapper-sc-SdiGL ftKRsD blockquote-embed"><div class="BlockquoteEmbedContent-RbGs lhlcJF blockquote-embed__ntent"><p>'We've been tght to assume the two thgs [sexual and romantic attractn] go together'</p></div></blockquote><p>Perhaps your mate has physil attribut or character tras you feel you lack yourself. His toned body me to him effortlsly, maybe, while you’re still terrified of leg day. Perhaps he sr more sexual partners than you or is super <a href=">nfint</a>. When we really re about someone who’s always been there for , there n be a feelg of closens and ’s only natural you might want to be even closer, but if you still n’t que image yourselv <a href="></a>havg <a href=">sex</a> wh them, may jt be an emotnal attachment. “Maybe, bee of the taboos around closens between men,” says Barker, “he's mistakg close <a href=">iendship</a> feelgs for sexual or romantic feelgs, bee there jt isn't much of a script for timate relatnships between male iends."</p><p>While parison culture is primed wh pfalls, man-csh of this nature n actually be eful – they n be aspiratnal, n drive forward. When we pick the right guy to csh on, we may want to emulate their succs, be socially, romantilly or profsnally. Hero worship don’t always have to be one-sid and pathetic. There’s a chance the subject of your man-csh will get a siar buzz beg an spiratnal figure to you, that they will get a kick out of havg some fluence; uld even lead to a <a href=">mentor</a>-style relatnship. But when the <a href=">csh</a> is makg you miserable – whether you feel like you n never match up or you’re havg sexual feelgs that you don’t unrstand and know will never be acted upon – that’s a problem.</p></div></div></div><div class="GridItem-buujkM fVLMby grid--em grid-layout__asi"><div class="StickyBoxWrapper-jfYB jxBcTH sticky-box"><div class="StickyBoxPrimary-dzWDWL cdhYoN sticky-box__primary"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--rail"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--rail" data-no-id="tzllme"></div></div><div class="ConsumerMarketgUnThemedWrapper-iUTMTf jssHut nsumer-marketg-un nsumer-marketg-un--display-rail" role="prentatn" aria-hidn="te"><div class="nsumer-marketg-un__slot nsumer-marketg-un__slot--display-rail"></div><div class="journey-un"></div></div><div data-attr-viewport-monor="" class="RecircMostPopularWrapper-bRuGTi jkTTgR recirc-most-popular-wrapper viewport-monor-anchor"><div class="RecircMostPopularConter-jiViNn ktrplG recirc-most-popular-sparrow-trackg 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class="RowWrapper-UmqTg HEhan full-bleed-ad row-mid-ntent-ad"><div class="StickyMidContentAdWrapper-fSBzwl drzyIa ad-stickymidntent"><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ ad ad--mid-ntent should-hold-space"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--mid-ntent" data-no-id="ccg32p"></div></div></div></div><div class="GridWrapper-cAzTTK kHBDeH grid grid-margs grid-ems-2 ArticlePageChunksGrid-hfxa bjczjj grid-layout--adrail narrow wi-adrail"><div class="GridItem-buujkM stRKV grid--em grid-layout__ntent"><div class="BodyWrapper-kufPGa edvONh body body__ntaer article__body" data-journey-hook="client-ntent" data-ttid="BodyWrapper"><div class="body__ner-ntaer"><p>Should you tell your btie you’re harbourg the sir? It pends on how safe you feel wh him, what you thk the reactn might be and, most importantly, what you expect him to do wh the rmatn. You don’t want to put yourself a dangero suatn or make your iend feel unfortable. Some men may lgh off, others may react angrily, while ocsnally, some men may reply wh a moonlf stare and say, “Oh, my, I thought you’d never ask” and grab you for a full-on, three-mute, aggrsive Hollywood kiss. Who knows?</p><blockquote class="BlockquoteEmbedWrapper-sc-SdiGL ftKRsD blockquote-embed"><div class="BlockquoteEmbedContent-RbGs lhlcJF blockquote-embed__ntent"><p>There’s a chance the subject of your man-csh will get a siar buzz beg an spiratnal figure to you</p></div></blockquote><p>Before you blab, is worth rememberg that csh n be temporary; there is a chance the feelgs will pass, that someone or somethg else will tch your eye. You may be nfsg all for nght. Barker says: "I wish they didn't have to worry about what meant for their sexual orientatn and how others might rpond to them. Given the world we actually live , though, I'd suggt the guy do some reflectn on his sexualy and feelgs first – perhaps wh a traed 'pk therapist' if he's really stgglg – and only talk wh his iend once he's reached a more fortable pot wh himself.”</p><p>The problem here is md-set. While we’re begng to throw off the labels that n rtrict , n be hard for men to exprs themselv emotnally whout beg thought of as gay and s of opprsn has shown that beg gay is viewed by many as ferr. We may believe that to fd another man attractive mak <em>ls</em> of a man – whatever that is.</p><p>If you don’t want to thk of yourself as gay or <a href=">bi</a> then don’t. Take the csh at face value, e to learn somethg about yourself and don’t beat yourself up about . 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class="ClampWrapper-kZxfkB hTTNGO clamp SummaryItemHedBase-hiFYpQ ejPNRQ summary-em__hed"><div class="ClampContent-hilPkr jVhSBH"><div class="SummaryItemHedTag-TWblf dipRRs" data-ttid="SummaryItemHed">This summer's blockbter season might change cema forever</div></div></div></a><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ SummaryItemDek-CRfsi iUEiRd flGlLZ fJbnjS summary-em__k">Big dumb actn flicks <em>M:I 7</em> and <em>Meg 2: The Trench</em> have proven unf to lace <em>Barbie</em> or <em>Oppenheimer</em>'s boots, suggtg dienc are after a more meangful experience at the movi</div><div class="SummaryItemByleWrapper-boCfbi hYsZi summary-em__byle-date-in"><div class="SummaryItemBaseByle-fFbXkY jbnRem summary-em__byle"><div class="summary-em__byle__ntent"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" class="BylWrapper-KIudk irTIfE byl"><p class="ByleWrapper-jWHrLH bfGBQB byle byl__byle" data-ttid="ByleWrapper" emProp="thor" emType="><span emProp="name" class="ByleNamWrapper-jbHncj fuDQVo"><span 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class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kGxnNB rponsive-asset SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image"><div data-tt="aspect-rat-ntaer" class="AspectRatContaer-bJHpJz hlQxkn"><div class="aspect-rat--overlay-ntaer"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image rponsive-image"><noscript><source media="(max-width: 767px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><source media="(m-width: 768px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><img alt="10 martial arts movie masterpiec that will dangle you off the roof" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-image__image" src="></noscript></picture></div></div></span></a></div><div class="SummaryItemContent-eiDYMl kACKV summary-em__ntent"><div class="RubricWrapper-dKmCNX kpuNXj bric SummaryItemRubric-dguGKN lapGFj summary-em__bric"><span class="RubricName-fVtemz cLxcNi">Culture</span></div><a class="SummaryItemHedLk-civM fFPekr summary-em-trackg__hed-lk summary-em__hed-lk" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-hed-2" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" href=" target="_self"><div data-ttid="ClampWrapper" class="ClampWrapper-kZxfkB hTTNGO clamp SummaryItemHedBase-hiFYpQ ejPNRQ summary-em__hed"><div class="ClampContent-hilPkr jVhSBH"><div class="SummaryItemHedTag-TWblf dipRRs" data-ttid="SummaryItemHed">10 martial arts movie masterpiec that will dangle you off the roof</div></div></div></a><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ SummaryItemDek-CRfsi iUEiRd flGlLZ fJbnjS summary-em__k">Spanng fantasy, romance, edy, and sci-fi: here is cematic ass-kickg at s bt and most betiful</div><div class="SummaryItemByleWrapper-boCfbi hYsZi summary-em__byle-date-in"><div class="SummaryItemBaseByle-fFbXkY jbnRem summary-em__byle"><div class="summary-em__byle__ntent"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" class="BylWrapper-KIudk irTIfE byl"><p class="ByleWrapper-jWHrLH bfGBQB byle byl__byle" data-ttid="ByleWrapper" emProp="thor" emType="><span emProp="name" class="ByleNamWrapper-jbHncj fuDQVo"><span data-ttid="ByleName" class="ByleName-kwmrLn cYaBaU byle__name"><span class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BylePreamble-iJolpQ iUEiRd dlWgVJ gnILss byle__preamble">By </span>Xuanl Tham</span></span></p></div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="SummaryItemWrapper-iwvBff hLmFoh summary-em summary-em--has-mobile-borr summary-em--ARTICLE summary-em--no-in summary-em--text-align-left summary-em--layout-placement-text-below-sktop-only summary-em--layout-posn-image-left summary-em--layout-proportns-33-66 summary-em--si-by-si-align-top summary-em--si-by-si-image-right-mobile-false summary-em--standard SummaryCollectnGridSummaryItem-WColm hMhLgM" role="button" tabx="0"><div class="SummaryItemAssetContaer-gwhFFH VOyg summary-em__asset-ntaer"><a class="SummaryItemImageLk-dshqxb USLvL summary-em__image-lk summary-em-trackg__image-lk" href=" aria-hidn="te" tabx="-1" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-image-3" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" target="_self"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kGxnNB rponsive-asset SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image"><div data-tt="aspect-rat-ntaer" class="AspectRatContaer-bJHpJz hlQxkn"><div class="aspect-rat--overlay-ntaer"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image rponsive-image"><noscript><source media="(max-width: 767px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><source media="(m-width: 768px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><img alt="For the love of God, stop talkg about Harry Styl’ sexualy" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-image__image" src="></noscript></picture></div></div></span></a></div><div class="SummaryItemContent-eiDYMl kACKV summary-em__ntent"><div class="RubricWrapper-dKmCNX kpuNXj bric SummaryItemRubric-dguGKN lapGFj summary-em__bric"><span class="RubricName-fVtemz cLxcNi">Culture</span></div><a class="SummaryItemHedLk-civM fFPekr summary-em-trackg__hed-lk summary-em__hed-lk" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-hed-3" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" href=" target="_self"><div data-ttid="ClampWrapper" class="ClampWrapper-kZxfkB hTTNGO clamp SummaryItemHedBase-hiFYpQ ejPNRQ summary-em__hed"><div class="ClampContent-hilPkr jVhSBH"><div class="SummaryItemHedTag-TWblf dipRRs" data-ttid="SummaryItemHed">For the love of God, stop talkg about Harry Styl’ sexualy</div></div></div></a><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ SummaryItemDek-CRfsi iUEiRd flGlLZ fJbnjS summary-em__k">Is the pop star's private life really any of our bs?</div><div class="SummaryItemByleWrapper-boCfbi hYsZi summary-em__byle-date-in"><div class="SummaryItemBaseByle-fFbXkY jbnRem summary-em__byle"><div class="summary-em__byle__ntent"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" class="BylWrapper-KIudk irTIfE byl"><p class="ByleWrapper-jWHrLH bfGBQB byle byl__byle" data-ttid="ByleWrapper" emProp="thor" emType="><span emProp="name" class="ByleNamWrapper-jbHncj fuDQVo"><span data-ttid="ByleName" class="ByleName-kwmrLn cYaBaU byle__name"><span class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BylePreamble-iJolpQ iUEiRd dlWgVJ gnILss byle__preamble">By </span>Patrick Sproull</span></span></p></div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="AdWrapper-dQtivb fZrssQ SummaryCollectnGridSummaryItem-WColm hMhLgM ad ad--read-more"><div class="ad__slot ad__slot--read-more" data-no-id="apcbl"></div></div><div class="SummaryItemWrapper-iwvBff hLmFoh summary-em summary-em--has-mobile-borr summary-em--GALLERY summary-em--no-in summary-em--text-align-left summary-em--layout-placement-text-below-sktop-only summary-em--layout-posn-image-left summary-em--layout-proportns-33-66 summary-em--si-by-si-align-top summary-em--si-by-si-image-right-mobile-false summary-em--standard SummaryCollectnGridSummaryItem-WColm hMhLgM" role="button" tabx="0"><div class="SummaryItemAssetContaer-gwhFFH VOyg summary-em__asset-ntaer"><a class="SummaryItemImageLk-dshqxb USLvL summary-em__image-lk summary-em-trackg__image-lk" href=" aria-hidn="te" tabx="-1" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-image-4" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" target="_self"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kGxnNB rponsive-asset SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image"><div data-tt="aspect-rat-ntaer" class="AspectRatContaer-bJHpJz hlQxkn"><div class="aspect-rat--overlay-ntaer"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image rponsive-image"><noscript><source media="(max-width: 767px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><source media="(m-width: 768px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><img alt="Bt new menswear ems the world this week" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-image__image" src="></noscript></picture></div></div></span></a></div><div class="SummaryItemContent-eiDYMl kACKV summary-em__ntent"><div class="RubricWrapper-dKmCNX kpuNXj bric SummaryItemRubric-dguGKN lapGFj summary-em__bric"><span class="RubricName-fVtemz cLxcNi">Fashn</span></div><a class="SummaryItemHedLk-civM fFPekr summary-em-trackg__hed-lk summary-em__hed-lk" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-hed-4" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" href=" target="_self"><div data-ttid="ClampWrapper" class="ClampWrapper-kZxfkB hTTNGO clamp SummaryItemHedBase-hiFYpQ ejPNRQ summary-em__hed"><div class="ClampContent-hilPkr jVhSBH"><div class="SummaryItemHedTag-TWblf dipRRs" data-ttid="SummaryItemHed">Bt new menswear ems the world this week</div></div></div></a><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ SummaryItemDek-CRfsi iUEiRd flGlLZ fJbnjS summary-em__k">Top drops om Ae Studs, Givenchy and more</div><div class="SummaryItemByleWrapper-boCfbi hYsZi summary-em__byle-date-in"><div class="SummaryItemBaseByle-fFbXkY jbnRem summary-em__byle"><div class="summary-em__byle__ntent"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" class="BylWrapper-KIudk irTIfE byl"><p class="ByleWrapper-jWHrLH bfGBQB byle byl__byle" data-ttid="ByleWrapper" emProp="thor" emType="><span emProp="name" class="ByleNamWrapper-jbHncj fuDQVo"><span data-ttid="ByleName" class="ByleName-kwmrLn cYaBaU byle__name"><span class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BylePreamble-iJolpQ iUEiRd dlWgVJ gnILss byle__preamble">By </span>Zak Maoui</span></span></p></div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="SummaryItemWrapper-iwvBff hLmFoh summary-em summary-em--has-mobile-borr summary-em--GALLERY summary-em--no-in summary-em--text-align-left summary-em--layout-placement-text-below-sktop-only summary-em--layout-posn-image-left summary-em--layout-proportns-33-66 summary-em--si-by-si-align-top summary-em--si-by-si-image-right-mobile-false summary-em--standard SummaryCollectnGridSummaryItem-WColm hMhLgM" role="button" tabx="0"><div class="SummaryItemAssetContaer-gwhFFH VOyg summary-em__asset-ntaer"><a class="SummaryItemImageLk-dshqxb USLvL summary-em__image-lk summary-em-trackg__image-lk" href=" aria-hidn="te" tabx="-1" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-image-5" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" target="_self"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kGxnNB rponsive-asset SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image"><div data-tt="aspect-rat-ntaer" class="AspectRatContaer-bJHpJz hlQxkn"><div class="aspect-rat--overlay-ntaer"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image rponsive-image"><noscript><source media="(max-width: 767px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><source media="(m-width: 768px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><img alt="The 29 bt gifts for kids that they asked Santa for this year" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-image__image" src="></noscript></picture></div></div></span></a></div><div class="SummaryItemContent-eiDYMl kACKV summary-em__ntent"><div class="RubricWrapper-dKmCNX kpuNXj bric SummaryItemRubric-dguGKN lapGFj summary-em__bric"><span class="RubricName-fVtemz cLxcNi">Liftyle</span></div><a class="SummaryItemHedLk-civM fFPekr summary-em-trackg__hed-lk summary-em__hed-lk" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-hed-5" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" href=" target="_self"><div data-ttid="ClampWrapper" class="ClampWrapper-kZxfkB hTTNGO clamp SummaryItemHedBase-hiFYpQ ejPNRQ summary-em__hed"><div class="ClampContent-hilPkr jVhSBH"><div class="SummaryItemHedTag-TWblf dipRRs" data-ttid="SummaryItemHed">The 29 bt gifts for kids that they asked Santa for this year</div></div></div></a><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ SummaryItemDek-CRfsi iUEiRd flGlLZ fJbnjS summary-em__k">Buyg gifts for kids is harr than you may ially suppose, but if you're already thkg about Christmas 2023 or your child has a birthday approachg, you n tst to pick some of the bt thgs they'll fely want.</div><div class="SummaryItemByleWrapper-boCfbi hYsZi summary-em__byle-date-in"><div class="SummaryItemBaseByle-fFbXkY jbnRem summary-em__byle"><div class="summary-em__byle__ntent"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" class="BylWrapper-KIudk irTIfE byl"><p class="ByleWrapper-jWHrLH bfGBQB byle byl__byle" data-ttid="ByleWrapper" emProp="thor" emType="><span emProp="name" class="ByleNamWrapper-jbHncj fuDQVo"><span data-ttid="ByleName" class="ByleName-kwmrLn cYaBaU byle__name"><span class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BylePreamble-iJolpQ iUEiRd dlWgVJ gnILss byle__preamble">By </span>Jsie Atkson</span></span></p></div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="SummaryItemWrapper-iwvBff hLmFoh summary-em summary-em--has-mobile-borr summary-em--GALLERY summary-em--no-in summary-em--text-align-left summary-em--layout-placement-text-below-sktop-only summary-em--layout-posn-image-left summary-em--layout-proportns-33-66 summary-em--si-by-si-align-top summary-em--si-by-si-image-right-mobile-false summary-em--standard SummaryCollectnGridSummaryItem-WColm hMhLgM" role="button" tabx="0"><div class="SummaryItemAssetContaer-gwhFFH VOyg summary-em__asset-ntaer"><a class="SummaryItemImageLk-dshqxb USLvL summary-em__image-lk summary-em-trackg__image-lk" href=" aria-hidn="te" tabx="-1" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-image-6" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" target="_self"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kGxnNB rponsive-asset SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image"><div data-tt="aspect-rat-ntaer" class="AspectRatContaer-bJHpJz hlQxkn"><div class="aspect-rat--overlay-ntaer"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image rponsive-image"><noscript><source media="(max-width: 767px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><source media="(m-width: 768px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><img alt="Bt new groomg ems this week" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-image__image" src="></noscript></picture></div></div></span></a></div><div class="SummaryItemContent-eiDYMl kACKV summary-em__ntent"><div class="RubricWrapper-dKmCNX kpuNXj bric SummaryItemRubric-dguGKN lapGFj summary-em__bric"><span class="RubricName-fVtemz cLxcNi">Groomg</span></div><a class="SummaryItemHedLk-civM fFPekr summary-em-trackg__hed-lk summary-em__hed-lk" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-hed-6" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" href=" target="_self"><div data-ttid="ClampWrapper" class="ClampWrapper-kZxfkB hTTNGO clamp SummaryItemHedBase-hiFYpQ ejPNRQ summary-em__hed"><div class="ClampContent-hilPkr jVhSBH"><div class="SummaryItemHedTag-TWblf dipRRs" data-ttid="SummaryItemHed">Bt new groomg ems this week</div></div></div></a><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ SummaryItemDek-CRfsi iUEiRd flGlLZ fJbnjS summary-em__k">We pick the bt new groomg products the world, om moisturisers to face masks and beyond.</div><div class="SummaryItemByleWrapper-boCfbi hYsZi summary-em__byle-date-in"><div class="SummaryItemBaseByle-fFbXkY jbnRem summary-em__byle"><div class="summary-em__byle__ntent"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" class="BylWrapper-KIudk irTIfE byl"><p class="ByleWrapper-jWHrLH bfGBQB byle byl__byle" data-ttid="ByleWrapper" emProp="thor" emType="><span emProp="name" class="ByleNamWrapper-jbHncj fuDQVo"><span data-ttid="ByleName" class="ByleName-kwmrLn cYaBaU byle__name"><span class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ BylePreamble-iJolpQ iUEiRd dlWgVJ gnILss byle__preamble">By </span>Zak Maoui</span></span></p></div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="SummaryItemWrapper-iwvBff hLmFoh summary-em summary-em--has-mobile-borr summary-em--GALLERY summary-em--no-in summary-em--text-align-left summary-em--layout-placement-text-below-sktop-only summary-em--layout-posn-image-left summary-em--layout-proportns-33-66 summary-em--si-by-si-align-top summary-em--si-by-si-image-right-mobile-false summary-em--standard SummaryCollectnGridSummaryItem-WColm hMhLgM" role="button" tabx="0"><div class="SummaryItemAssetContaer-gwhFFH VOyg summary-em__asset-ntaer"><a class="SummaryItemImageLk-dshqxb USLvL summary-em__image-lk summary-em-trackg__image-lk" href=" aria-hidn="te" tabx="-1" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-image-7" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" target="_self"><span class="SpanWrapper-umhxW kGxnNB rponsive-asset SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image"><div data-tt="aspect-rat-ntaer" class="AspectRatContaer-bJHpJz hlQxkn"><div class="aspect-rat--overlay-ntaer"><picture class="RponsiveImagePicture-cWuUZO dUOtEa SummaryItemRponsiveAsset-hjGIGg egpoQR summary-em__image rponsive-image"><noscript><source media="(max-width: 767px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><source media="(m-width: 768px)" srcSet="" siz="100vw"/><img alt="The bt men's knwear for elevated tumn layerg" class="RponsiveImageContaer-eybHBd fptoWY rponsive-image__image" src="></noscript></picture></div></div></span></a></div><div class="SummaryItemContent-eiDYMl kACKV summary-em__ntent"><div class="RubricWrapper-dKmCNX kpuNXj bric SummaryItemRubric-dguGKN lapGFj summary-em__bric"><span class="RubricName-fVtemz cLxcNi">Fashn</span></div><a class="SummaryItemHedLk-civM fFPekr summary-em-trackg__hed-lk summary-em__hed-lk" data-ponent-type="recirc-river" data-recirc-id="em-hed-7" data-recirc-pattern="summary-em" href=" target="_self"><div data-ttid="ClampWrapper" class="ClampWrapper-kZxfkB hTTNGO clamp SummaryItemHedBase-hiFYpQ ejPNRQ summary-em__hed"><div class="ClampContent-hilPkr jVhSBH"><div class="SummaryItemHedTag-TWblf dipRRs" data-ttid="SummaryItemHed">The bt men's knwear for elevated tumn layerg</div></div></div></a><div class="BaseWrap-sc-gjQpdd BaseText-ewhhUZ SummaryItemDek-CRfsi iUEiRd flGlLZ fJbnjS summary-em__k">Our ed of the bt jumpers, vts, and rdigans is a lovgly-piled list of prime layerg piec, provg that jt bee the Brish weather n be unpredictable, the qualy of your outfs n still be reliably strong</div><div class="SummaryItemByleWrapper-boCfbi hYsZi summary-em__byle-date-in"><div class="SummaryItemBaseByle-fFbXkY jbnRem summary-em__byle"><div class="summary-em__byle__ntent"><div data-ttid="BylWrapper" 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i have a gay crush on my best friend

Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend. You have also probably realized that this is a lot to al wh! You may want to be hont wh your iend about your sexualy as well as your...

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HOW TO TELL IF YOUR GAY FRIEND HAS A CSH ON YOU - HOW TO REACT

Unrstandg and navigatg your csh A csh is somethg special, and you should enjoy havg one! But when that csh is the same genr as you are, n be a b strsful stead. Do this mean you're gay? Should you tell them?... * i have a gay crush on my best friend *

Do this mean you're gay?

Also, keep md that havg a csh on a person of the same genr don't tomatilly mean you are gay. Sexual orientatn is more than a qutn of whether you are gay, pansexual, queer, straight, or bisexual. In addn, sexual orientatn is not jt about who you have feelgs for, 's also about how you thk of yourself (as, straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, or somethg else), and how you actually behave.

Once you are fortable enough, ask your csh some qutns to see how they feel about the LGBTQ muny or gay folks.

HERE'S THE THG SUBSCRIBESIGN {"@NTEXT":","@TYPE":"NEWSARTICLE","URL":","MAENTYOFPAGE":","HEADLE":"HELP! I HAVE A CSH ON MY IEND, WHO IS GAY.","SCRIPTN":"IT DON'T CHANGE ANYTHG WHEN WE'RE TOGETHER, BUT I THK ABOUT OFTEN WHEN WE'RE NOT.","IMAGE":[{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":"}],"DATEPUBLISHED":"2021-05-31T15:04:25+00:00","DATEMODIFIED":"2021-05-31T15:04:25+00:00","ISACCSIBLEFORFREE":TE,"THOR":[{"@TYPE":"PERSON","NAME":"SOPHIA BENO","URL":","SCRIPTN":"AUTHOR OF WELL, THIS IS EXHAUSTING | SEX, CULTURE & ADVICE LUMNIST FOR BTLE AND GQ | IBS SUFFERER \N\N","INTIFIER":"ER:1914946","SAMEAS":["],"IMAGE":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","NTENTURL":","THUMBNAILURL":"}}],"PUBLISHER":{"@TYPE":"ORGANIZATN","NAME":"HERE'S THE THG ","URL":","SCRIPTN":"ADVICE + LISTS + HORNS, MOSTLY","TERACTNSTATISTIC":{"@TYPE":"INTERACTNCOUNTER","NAME":"SUBSCRIBERS","TERACTNTYPE":","ERINTERACTNCOUNT":1000},"INTIFIER":"PUB:7043","LOGO":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","NTENTURL":","THUMBNAILURL":"},"IMAGE":{"@TYPE":"IMAGEOBJECT","URL":","NTENTURL":","THUMBNAILURL":"},"SAMEAS":["]}}SHARE THIS POSTHELP! I HAVE A CSH ON MY IEND, WHO IS COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHERHELP! I HAVE A CSH ON MY IEND, WHO IS GAY.IT DON'T CHANGE ANYTHG WHEN WE'RE TOGETHER, BUT I THK ABOUT OFTEN WHEN WE'RE NOT.SOPHIA BENOMAY 31, 20215SHARE THIS POSTHELP! I HAVE A CSH ON MY IEND, WHO IS COPY LKFACEBOOKEMAILNOTOTHERSHAREHERE’S THE THG IS AN ADVICE LUMN/NEWSLETTER WHERE I MOSTLY BEG PEOPLE TO EHER STOP DATG SOMEONE OR TO ASK THEIR CSH OUT. OR I TALK ABOUT WEIRD THGS THAT ME TO MY MD THAT NO ONE IS PAYG ME TO WRE ABOUT. I N NEVER CI IF I SHOULD PALIZE THE “THE” HERE’S THE THG OR NOT; APOLOGI ON LACK OF NSISTENCY. SUBSCRIBEA BIG SWEETIE: MY QUTN/PROBLEM IS PRETTY SIMPLE- I (STRAIGHT WOMAN) HAVE A CSH ON MY GAY MALE IEND. I DON'T THK HE HAS EVER FELT AMBIGUOLY ABOUT HIS SEXUALY SO TO BE CLEAR I'M NOT NFED ABOUT WHAT'S POSSIBLE OR TRYG TO TERPRET MIXED SIGNALS OR ANYTHG. AND I'M NOT SURE WHAT HAPPENED TO ME- ONE DAY WE WERE IENDS AND THE NEXT DAY I HAD THIS CSH. I GUS I'M JT A) EMBARRASSED BEE THIS SEEMS SOMEHOW FUNDAMENTALLY EMBARRASSG—I HAVE ONLY TOLD MY BROTHER ABOUT THIS AND, I GUS, NOW YOU AND THE TER B) BUMMED BEE I DON'T HAVE CSH VERY OFTEN AND HOW UNFAIR IS THAT THE ONE I DO NOW HAVE IS ON SOMEONE TO WHOM IS PLETELY IRRELEVANT AND C) SAD BEE I RE ABOUT HIM MORE THAN ANYONE AND WHAT IS ONE SUPPOSED TO DO WH THAT KD OF RG WHEN I WILL ALWAYS JT BE A CLOSE IEND? I ASSUME ONE DAY I'LL GET PAST THIS, AND THAT WHEN I DO I WILL NTUE TO DO THE SAME THG I DO NOW AND HAVE ALWAYS DONE—WORK TO BE THE BT IEND I N TO THIS PERSON WHOM I RE, AND HAVE ALWAYS RED A LOT ABOUT. I HOPE YOU DON'T TELL ME WE SHOULDN'T BE IENDS (IF THAT'S THE NCLN YOU E TO PLEASE DON'T ANSWER THIS LETTER! I DON'T WANT TO KNOW...) BEE I REALLY DON'T THK THIS IS GETTG THE WAY OF OUR IENDSHIP. IT DON'T CHANGE ANYTHG WHEN WE'RE TOGETHER, BUT I THK ABOUT OFTEN WHEN WE'RE NOT. ANYWAY—YOUR ADVICE LUMN IS SO LOVELY AND PASSNATE I THOUGHT MAYBE YOU ULD HELP ME FD A BETTER? MORE PRODUCTIVE? WAY OF THKG ABOUT THIS. SUBM A QUTNSOPHIA:

How to tell if your gay iend has a csh on you are subtle ways to notice the signs that your gay iend wants you to romantilly get closer to him. * i have a gay crush on my best friend *

" Or "Are you gay? Which means you need to start noticg whether or not your gay iend is htg at you. Here are the subtle ways on how to tell if your gay iend has a csh on you:.

Now he is askg you “so, let’s pretend you’re a gay relatnship.

Also read: How Should You Talk to a Friend Who’s Gay. How You Should Reply To The Fact That Your Gay Friend Lik You.

HOW TO TELL A FRIEND YOU'RE GAY AND YOU LOVE THEM

Now you know whether or not your gay iend really lik you through how to tell if your gay iend has a csh on you.

Your oblivns should be gone by the time you learn how to tell if your gay iend has a csh on you. My qutn/problem is pretty simple- I (straight woman) have a csh on my gay male iend. Perhaps you have realized you are gay and that you have fallen love wh your iend.

Before you share the romantic feelgs you have toward your iend, you want your iend to know that you are gay.

I HAVE A CSH ON MY GAY IEND

It is bt to jt e right out and say : “Matt, I’m gay” or “Hey, I jt wanted to let you know that I’m gay. If you haven’t already, is a good ia to tell others that you are gay, too, bis jt your iend. How do you know if you’re gay?

You uld ask, “What would you do if you were gay and had a csh on your iend? After you tell your iend you’re gay, pay close attentn to their behavr when they’re around you for a while. Conversely, if you fd them movg away om you or not makg eye ntact, they still may be adjtg to you tellg them you’re gay.

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Or I talk about weird thgs that me to my md that no one is payg me to wre about. I n never ci if I should palize the “the” </strong><em><strong>Here’s The Thg</strong></em><strong> or not; apologi on lack of nsistency. </strong></p><div data-ponent-name="SubscribeWidget" class="subscribe-widget"><div class="pencraft ontend-pencraft-Box-module__ret--VfQY8 ontend-pencraft-Box-module__display-flex--ZqeZt ontend-pencraft-Box-module__flex-jtify-center--SQPji"><div class="ontend-ponents-ee_email_form-module__ntaer--OfBh4"><form actn="/api/v1/ee?nojs=te" method="post" noValidate class="form ontend-ponents-ee_email_form-module__form--LDIzl"><put type="hidn" name="first_url" /><put type="hidn" name="first_referrer" /><put type="hidn" name="current_url" /><put type="hidn" name="current_referrer" /><put type="hidn" name="referral_" /><put type="hidn" name="source" value="subscribe-widget" /><put type="hidn" name="referrg_pub_id" /><put type="hidn" name="addnal_referrg_pub_ids" /><div class="ontend-ponents-ee_email_form-module__siBySiWrap--yhsgv"><put type="email" name="email" placeholr="Type your email..." class="pencraft ontend-ponents-ee_email_form-module__emailInput--BLQGf" /><button tabInx="0" type="subm" class="button rightButton primary subscribe-btn ontend-ponents-ee_email_form-module__button--WcLG9"><span class="button-text ">Subscribe</span></button></div><div id="error-ntaer"></div><div class="subtle-help-text below-put ontend-ponents-ee_email_form-module__lks--G_QlQ"></div></form><div class="ontend-log-typo_handler-EmailTypoHandler-module__animatnWrapper--UT0du"></div></div></div></div><div><hr /></div><h1 class="hear-wh-anchor-widget">A BIG SWEETIE: <div id="§a-big-sweetie" class="hear-anchor-widget offset-top"><div class="hear-anchor-widget-button-ntaer"><div href=" class="hear-anchor-widget-button"><svg xmlns=" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-lep="round" stroke-lejo="round" class="hear-anchor-widget-in"><path d="M10 13a5 5 0 0 0 7.54.54l3-3a5 5 0 0 0-7.07-7.07l-1.72 1.71"></path><path d="M14 11a5 5 0 0 0-7.54-.54l-3 3a5 5 0 0 0 7.07 7.07l1.71-1.71"></path></svg></div></div></div></h1><p>My qutn/problem is pretty simple- I (straight woman) have a csh on my gay male iend. I don't thk he has ever felt ambiguoly about his sexualy so to be clear I'm not nfed about what's possible or tryg to terpret mixed signals or anythg. And I'm not sure what happened to me- one day we were iends and the next day I had this csh. I gus I'm jt A) Embarrassed bee this seems somehow fundamentally embarrassg—I have only told my brother about this and, I gus, now you and the ter B) Bummed bee I don't have csh very often and how unfair is that the one I do now have is on someone to whom is pletely irrelevant and C) Sad bee I re about him more than anyone and what is one supposed to do wh that kd of rg when I will always jt be a close iend? I assume one day I'll get past this, and that when I do I will ntue to do the same thg I do now and have always done—work to be the bt iend I n to this person whom I re, and have always red a lot about. </p><p>I hope you don't tell me we shouldn't be iends (if that's the ncln you e to please don't answer this letter! I don't want to know...) bee I really don't thk this is gettg the way of our iendship. It don't change anythg when we're together, but I thk about often when we're not. Anyway—your advice lumn is so lovely and passnate I thought maybe you uld help me fd a better? more productive? way of thkg about this. </p><p class="button-wrapper" data-attrs="{"url":";,"text":"subm a qutn","actn":null,"class":null}" data-ponent-name="ButtonCreateButton"><a class="button primary" href="" rel><span>subm a qutn</span></a></p><div class="ptned-image-ntaer"><figure><a class="image-lk is-viewable-img image2" target="_blank" href=" data-ponent-name="Image2ToDOM" rel><div class="image2-set"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset=" 424w, 848w, 1272w, 1456w" siz="100vw" /><img src=" width="586" height="410.2" data-attrs="{"src":" Do Friends Wh Benefs Mean?","tle":null,"type":null,"href":null,"belowTheFold":false,"topImage":te,"ternalRedirect":null}" class="sizg-normal" alt="What Do Friends Wh Benefs Mean?" tle="What Do Friends Wh Benefs Mean?" srcset=" 424w, 848w, 1272w, 1456w" siz="100vw" fetchprry="high" /></picture><div class="image-lk-expand"><svg xmlns=" width="16" height="16" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="#FFFFFF" stroke-width="2" stroke-lep="round" stroke-lejo="round" class="luci luci-maximize2"><polyle pots="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyle><polyle pots="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyle><le x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></le><le x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></le></svg></div></div></a></figure></div><h1 class="hear-wh-anchor-widget">SOPHIA: <div id="§sophia" class="hear-anchor-widget offset-top"><div class="hear-anchor-widget-button-ntaer"><div href=" class="hear-anchor-widget-button"><svg xmlns=" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-lep="round" stroke-lejo="round" class="hear-anchor-widget-in"><path d="M10 13a5 5 0 0 0 7.54.54l3-3a5 5 0 0 0-7.07-7.07l-1.72 1.71"></path><path d="M14 11a5 5 0 0 0-7.54-.54l-3 3a5 5 0 0 0 7.07 7.07l1.71-1.71"></path></svg></div></div></div></h1><p>As you n maybe tell om me answerg your letter, I don’t thk you need to stop beg iends wh this guy at all! I don’t thk you need to change much of anythg. In fact, I thk actn is gog to be one of your bt tools as you move forward this iendship. </p><p><span>You do not have to act on attractn. I wish, fact, that more people (p straight cis men) knew this tth. The same way you n see a hot person and not tll them, you n have a csh on a iend and not act on . If you see this person as a person first and not a sexual object (which you clearly do!!!) you should not have much trouble</span><div class="footnote-hoverrd-target"><a class="footnote-anchor" data-ponent-name="FootnoteAnchorToDOM" id="footnote-anchor-1-37016149" href=" rel>1</a></div><span> keepg the csh out of the iendship. </span></p><p><span>A lot of people, thoands of lns of people history have had long, betiful iendships wh people who they are attracted to on some level. Tthfully, iendship and non-platonic love are not as dissiar as I thk society would like to believe. There is a </span><em>lot </em><span>of overlap. I thk ’s very, very mon and therefore unsurprisg that someone would velop a csh on a person they feel fortable and safe around, someone whose pany they enjoy. I thk that seems credibly normal, regardls of their availabily stat. It’s not all that different om velopg a csh on someone who is datg another person. It’s not evil or immoral to </span><em>have </em><span>the csh. But ’s certaly nvenient. </span></p><p><span>It is my strong remendatn, as is wh most thgs that fall somewhere along the tsive thoughts spectm—or thoughts/feelgs you don’t particularly </span><em>want </em><span>to have that rail you a b—that you give yourself a b of a break. The more you beat yourself up for havg this csh, for errant thoughts about how you fd him attractive, the more your bra will thk about the csh. Your bra starts dog this annoyg meta-thg where you thk about your csh and then you thk about thkg about your csh and then you thk about how much you want to stop thkg about thkg about your csh. It’s…not helpful. Instead, try your bt to tst that this csh will wane over time. You don’t need to speed up the timele—that is not your job. The job is simply to be a good iend and wa this out. </span></p><p><span>In the meantime, I thk ’s very very fair to feel both sad and bummed about the suatn, ’s fe to lament the “unfair”-ns of havg a csh on an unavailable person. I would try my bt not to get stuck this feelg, to not make the primary narrative of your romantic life. You n have csh on multiple people! (Includg this guy). You </span><em>will </em><span>have csh on other people the future. You are not doomed to a life of fallg for unavailable people—a trope movi seem to thk is A Thg. My suggtn is that while you n and should feel and label your feelgs, you do not need to make a hoe out of them and then live . </span></p><p><span>As for feelg embarrassed, I hear you. Tst me, I hear you. But is </span><em>not </em><span>embarassg or shameful to have a csh on a person! No one else is or would be judgg you for this. I promise you. I know that me sayg this isn’t gog to magilly make you feel totally shame-ee. But I do want you to hear that. We have </span><em>allllll </em><span>had csh on unavailable people. I mean, we thk rtoon characters are hot! (Lookg at you Li Shang). It’s not like csh are logic-based. The more embarrassment you bathe yourself , the bigger a al this csh be. </span></p><p>The bigger al you make this csh, the larger a role will play your life. A mantra/rea of some kd might help you when you’re feelg stuck on . Somethg like, “I’m gog to foc on my iendship wh Antoe, not my csh,” uld help you remember your goal, which is, ultimately, iendship. </p><p><span>And for the sake of said iendship, I would personally </span><em>not </em><span>tell him about the csh. I thk ’s very difficult to articulate the nuance of what you’re feelg to the subject of a csh whout makg weird. I don’t thk will give you anythg to “nfs” this. (I put nfs quot, bee this isn’t some mised or anythg; you aren’t dog anythg wrong). Addnally, I thk tellg him about the csh mak a bigger al than really is. </span></p><p>You have a csh on a iend. Ok. Not a big al; happens all the time. Your job is only to do nothg, to ntue on as you have, not lettg affect your iendship. Be a ltle extra reful to not brg your pa or anguish over your unrequed csh or your love life general to your iend; is not his problem or flt (of urse) that he don’t like you back romantilly. Outsi of that, jt be a iend and give yourself the tw gifts of time and grace. 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